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Zak48 -> STD tests (3/14/2011 12:55:43 PM)

So this has happened to me twice now. I met two guys online (not on here), two seperate situations, everything is going great, we're chatting and talking on the phone and one of them I went out and met at a bar to have a few drinks just as "regular" guys. Long story short Im on here to try and meet guys or couples that want to femonize me treat me like a slut. This requires the swapping of bodily fluids as you can imagine. When I bring up STD testing everything at first seems fine and they seem on board with it until I dont hear from them for a long time. In BOTH instances I made contact again and asked what happened? what went wrong? and they get very defensive and agitated and seemed to make up things that didn't happen...all in an effort to cover up the fact that they didn't want to get tested and didn't want to tell me. It's obvious to me that's what happened. It happened only twice but I am noticing a pattern here. Really?? I would hate to think that there are people out there that would knowingly spread thier disease or...even worse...feel as though its too much of an inconvenience to go out and get tested. I'm curious to know if this has happened to anyone else.




Jennislut -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 12:59:07 PM)

nope - are you sure its about the tests? maybe they just werent that into you




Zak48 -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 1:01:56 PM)

I'm not a mind reader but Im pretty that was it. Both cases were very far along and in both cases we talked about meeting.




BKSir -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 1:02:06 PM)

Can't vouch for anyone else here, but, most of the people I've spoken with seem to be fairly responsible and agree with me in this one. I have a very strict policy that NO bodily fluids are exchanged until after full blood workups on all parties involved. I mean, I KNOW I don't have anything, as I get tested every year whether I need it or not. And the few times we've brought someone else into the relationship, we all go together to get tested. Period. If they don't want to get tested, they can just wander off to wherever they want, just not my place. And, fair is fair. I'm not going to ask them to get tested and not do so myself. Just a little thing called respect.




Zak48 -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 1:04:55 PM)

Absolutly, I agree. I get tested all the time and have no problem going anytime.




windchymes -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 1:09:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Zak48

I would hate to think that there are people out there that would knowingly spread thier disease or...even worse...feel as though its too much of an inconvenience to go out and get tested. I'm curious to know if this has happened to anyone else.



Dude, you seriously need to wake up and smell the nonoxynol-9. People lie to have sex. [:o] And if you are so naive as to be shocked and dismayed that they do, you really need to just stay home before you get hurt, or worse.

I don't have a problem with you wanting to be sluttified, it's your thing, but part of being feminized is wearing big-girl panties and PROTECTING YOURSELF!. People out on the town looking for a bangin' hook-up aren't thinking of protecting YOU, they're thinking of what they can get out of it. If they're refusing to get tested, then they probaby have something they don't want you to know about.





Killerangel -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 2:54:44 PM)

If you think they're disappearing over you wanting them to be tested that is disheartening, but I guess in the end I'm not surprised.




rick1283 -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 2:55:05 PM)

I know for a FACT that I'm clean, and I would like to stay that way.
If there is no test, I'm not going any farther till there is. No if's, and's or but's about it.




Tantriqu -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 3:11:15 PM)

Lol, if's, and's or butt's.

Yep, it's a requirement for me, too. I tell guys right from the start no test, no touch. It helps wean out the losers, sluts, infected, liars and otherwise marrieds.
All I've ever caught was a cold, and I wasn't very happy about that.

You know you're doing the right thing. Don't act as if 'feminizing' extracts your brain cells.




FukinTroll -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 3:16:44 PM)

Well Zak, part of the problem may be them doing the math.

Results for test X take X.
X number of dicks in your mouth since test X = X

Of course men, being the horndogs they are, aren't going to live in a cage sans dick or pussy till the tests come back.

It is very good you are cautious, but you have to look at the facts: If you are not under lock and key, they are not under lock and key, the test is only as reliable as your, their, word.

YMMV




shannie -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 3:19:20 PM)

And what makes you think that someone isn't capable of passing a test, and then having unprotected sex with stranger a week later?  To be absolutely "safe," you'd need to get them tested, and then make sure they don't get out of your sight for more than an hour ever again. If they DO get out of your sight for more than an hour, you'll have to start the testing allll over again.  









LillyBoPeep -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 3:27:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: shannie

To be absolutely "safe," you'd need to get them tested, and then make sure they don't get out of your sight for more than an hour ever again.


lol shannie

i've known a few people who were paranoid of tests because they were irrationally "sure" that they had something and were too afraid to find out. =p my thought was, "so you'd feel more comfortable just spreading whatever you're so 'sure' you have?"
maybe some of the OPs runners have been those types?
or they think somehow that testing means something's gotten "serious"?

if they don't fit your criteria, just don't worry about it. they're no longer in your periphery. but with the incubation periods of some diseases, they may not show up on a most recent test anyway. 




Arpig -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 3:30:42 PM)

STD tests? What the fuck would I do that for? I need to have sex first in order to need an STD test.




littlewonder -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 3:33:19 PM)

many people come to sites like this because they think it's an easy way to get laid instead of paying a prostitute.

You weren't willing to put out so they moved on to find someone who would without any hassles, questions, etc....

Next time get to know someone in person first and then once a relationship is formed then you can have that discussion with someone.




SpiritedRadiance -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 3:42:01 PM)

Std tests are wonderful but they arent a sure method....

First off it can take up to 6 months for HIV to show up in the system, and up to a year for HPV to show in a woman,

While they do test, and it does show that you are for the most part (reliably) clean.... Its not fullproof

Also tests can take up to a month at times (depending on where you go and the lab involvement) to come back to tell you.

If someones had sex after that test, it wont show up on the results you got... and its not fullproof

Best idea is use condoms and be aware...of the risks you take even if they do get tested for you.




IronBear -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 3:53:20 PM)

We play we  swing  (Lady Neets and I).. One cardinal rule is: ~~~ Condoms...... IF IT (condom) ISN'T ON.....IT (sex) ISN'T ON!!!!




stellauk -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 4:01:22 PM)

You're curious? I hope so.

You've heard of a pack of lies right? I got something similar - a pack of clues.

No issue with the feminization stuff, and let's face it, everyone has their 'inner slut' whether they admit it or not.

But you're the one who's creating the problem by going about it the wrong way.

I mean, why bother with the computer? There's plenty of people out there on the streets, and if you're up for exchanging body fluids on the first meeting why not just switch off the computer and go out there and ask them up front 'Wanna fuck?'

The thing is the sort of people who are prepared to get it down first meeting and exchange the fluids are generally people who have difficulties understanding any word more than six letters so it really is all about 'hole', 'dick', 'shag', 'fuck', 'wank', 'cum', 'pussy', 'slut', 'tart'.

And you're there trying to complicate the issue by using strange concepts and long words such as STD testing, feminization, responsibility.

I'm sitting here wondering whether one of those other sites was Craigslist.

I know it's different in the States and much more popular, but here in London if you really want to know roughly how many idiots there are in London all you need to do is check out the personals section of Craigslist London.

I say 'roughly' because you do get one or two regular people in there who are intelligent and up for something casual. But the rest, including all the regulars are pretty much what you can regard as Los Desperados.

You say that it's obvious to you what's happened but you started the posting saying you're curious. And your OP reveals that it's not obvious to you at all.

Get with the program. The world really doesn't revolve around your dick. My advice to you is to start using your brain a lot more and forget about your dick until the time comes when you need to use it.

Generally speaking, unless you have a lot of money you're prepared to spend, the only people who can genuinely hook up and fuck are people who want straightforward plain old vanilla sex, you know? Missionary position, pure jiggy jiggy. But these are people who are thinking and using their brains.

Throw any sort of kink into the mix, whether it be crossdressing, spanking, threesomes, or feminization, and it becomes somewhat more complicated.

Things is, you understand what it is you're into, other people don't. Like it or not you have to work at their speed, not your's.

You didn't know this, so you pushed, you demanded, you expected, and it put the other people off.

Another thing is, if you're someone like you, who is into feminization or stuff like crossdressing, sissy maids, wearing panties, it's hard enough as it is to meet someone who accepts all this stuff.

You've just made it that much harder, not just for you, but for everyone else. Any time any of those guys or couples comes across someone into similar things, they're going to remember you and give it a miss. That other person might have approached things differently and be prepared to work with these guys and couples. It doesn't matter. They just don't get the chance to do so.

Now you've come on here trying to tell us that you did everything right and the other people were the ones with the problem.

Pull the other one. It's got bells on it. People here see it differently to you. As did the people you were trying to meet.

Think about that. This is why you're not getting anywhere and you won't as long as you keep on believing that this is all about you and what you need and that you are right and the other people are wrong.

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with a bit of casual sex and jiggy jiggy, and the feminization and slut fantasies I'm sure are great and you would all have a great time.

But like, just chill, right? Go with the flow, put a bit more thinking into it, and let things develop naturally. It's not a race, not a competition, nobody is scoring points or winning medals.

That way you get people who are also thinking and who also care about what they are doing and stuff like STD tests and that won't be an issue.

It's online, and what you put out there online comes back to you.

Better luck next time, eh?




lizi -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 4:11:55 PM)

When I think of all the married or involved people out there who are cheating on their partners in order to get their kink on I'm not surprised that there are people who don't care much about spreading disease. I mean the diseases are coming from somewhere right? Otherwise why would new people keep getting infected unless there were people out there who didn't give a damn? I have a cousin who works in the Public Health Dept, and the stories she has told me will curl your toes.




FukinTroll -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 4:13:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lizi

When I think of all the married or involved people out there who are cheating on their partners in order to get their kink on I'm not surprised that there are people who don't care much about spreading disease. I mean the diseases are coming from somewhere right? Otherwise why would new people keep getting infected unless there were people out there who didn't give a damn? I have a cousin who works in the Public Health Dept, and the stories she has told me will curl your toes.


Curl them upwards, right?




IronBear -> RE: STD tests (3/14/2011 4:16:22 PM)

Fuck Craig's list (being investigated here as a scammer) Just go to Alt.com or Adult friend Finder and see how many don't mention  the words "Clean" or "STD Free", etc.... It's bad enough when your profile stated that your lady does not give head, but when you tell readers that condoms will be used or no sex.. half the wankers have a heart attack. We go for the ones who agree with us.. Made some geed friends there too.. 




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