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-=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 5:32:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I found the Walkman in my storage box, it evoked an emotional reaction and many fond memories.  You see, it was a form of freedom for a slave that spent over 6 months sleeping in my pretty red cage.  It represents a granted freedom in that she did not have to ask to use it.  She had to ask pee, ask to wear clothes, ask to eat, but this radio was within the cage and free for use anytime.  It was given to her as the “slave radio”.

The cage is a special place.  For me, the cage represents proof of surrender through sacrifice of freedom.  They become my real captive in a real steel prison.  For my slave, cage time makes them feel helpless, at my mercy and teaches them to trust me because I take good care of them while in my charge.  It proves my ability to accept and take care of what they surrender…  themselves.  To others, a cage is something totally different.  It is a place for torture, pleasure, punishment, objectification and a myriad of other things.

So you see how the slave radio holds a special meaning to me.  The slave radio is a BDSM training tool and one of the comforts extended by Master.  It is intricately connected to a particular type of relationship style within the broad spectrum of BDSM.  To others it’s just another fucking radio.

The point?  A trip to the ice-cream parlor, grocery store, movie theater or an object like a radio can be as thrilling as skydiving, as romantic as a candlelight dinner or as kinky as a night in the dungeon.  It’s not always what we do that matters as much as why we do it and that is what makes it part of BDSM.  When people ask for information, guidance or specifics about our BDSM relationship styles, often they get vague answers claiming that everything is different for everyone and it is all in the eye of the beholder.  Well, there is no one set answer for over generalized questions and often replies degrade into apples vs oranges, never seeing each other’s point or actually answering the OP. 

I respect our wiser members that frequently answer question with the ambiguity of a Buddhist master hoping to guide the inquisitor to their own personal truth.  My hope is that people reading my thread learn to extend the same respect and craft their questions with more precision.  Maintain threads and hone questions to a point so we can answer with the same precision.  Otherwise you’ll end up with just another fucking radio and miss the meaning behind what we do.

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 5:55:02 PM   
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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 6:06:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		ResidentSadist, that was a pretty wondrous post.



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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 6:08:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Soooo... was it AM and FM?

RS, brilliant post.

Your post reflects a lot of stuff that runs around dangerously in my head... the big one is the whole semantics shit. I am confident that a journey through your cage will reduce anyone, regardless of labels, to the understanding that they are slave meat. Regardless of how they identify, they would soon come to the conclusion that they are slave meat.

While having a volunteer in your cage makes them a slave, it makes you a slave to the responsibility of their well being (Lots of chest thumpers are going to be short stroking over that one, muhahhahahhahah). Nevertheless that is what it boils down to, a slavish responsibility to the D/s M/s dynamic. I suppose it would be fitting to ad the caveat; In a relationship. But your post clearly describes a prolonged stay in the sadistic house of horrors, so it's a given.

I am of the opinion that a D in a relationship dynamic has a responsibility (within reason) to perform any task that they would put upon the /s. Furthermore I feel that to maturate the /s the D needs to be more worldly, or at least open minded enough and cognizant of the /s' inherent potential to guide them into a better state of being and awareness. Growth is rather crucial in my mindset, and just as you had made the "radio" the "entitlement" I feel that expanding the mind of the /s should be the "entitlement".

I see the chest thumper types always trying to lure /s' from realizing their potential... if they are hopeless and helpless, where are they going to go? Just as you see it in the nilla world, beat the man/woman down enough and all s/he will see in the mirror is something unworthy, unwanted, unloved and now trapped. I suspect this happens because the intrinsic value of the Dominant personality appear or exists as very little and they must, by force, beat/belittle the value of the submissive personality into nothing. Personally, I would rather have an /s that can surpass me on all fronts and be man enough to send her off to a better, than hold her down, keep her back or oppress her. Would I attempt to groom an /s to be superior to me in every way? HELL YES. I would pray that it would be like a disease for her; move on from me for better growth and move on again till she settles into that perfect content (finds the cure for the disease).

I train slaves. I do not care what label someone possesses, I do not care what side of the kneel they come from... I train slaves. The radio the slave leaves with is absolute steadfastness in their needs, want's and values.

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 6:44:37 PM   
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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 6:53:55 PM   
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I'd probably use the cord to garrote myself, personally. 



Hey RS, let's test his resolve. weg

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 6:58:31 PM   
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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 7:15:43 PM   
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Soooo... was it AM and FM? ...........................
It is AM and FM.

Semantics . . .  a perilous road wrought with definitions, inevitably leading to labels and roles with meanings.  Next thing you know, we won’t have vague questions with ambiguous answers and people will actually have to know what the fuck they are talking about before they open their mouth.  Nah – it’ll never happen.  The internet will remain littered with the illiterate freely posting meaningless drivel defended by the claim that all words or labels are open to interpretation despite what Webster’s dictionary claims.

Growth . . . like you, I feel growth is sign of a healthy long term relationship.  I also feel the dominant party needs to be aware of the submissive’s needs in life, not just BDSM.  You have to have a balance of duties and freedoms, needs and wants, rules and rewards.  If you find a slave that doesn’t need those things or a Master that doesn’t grant those things . . . they are mentally ill and you wouldn’t want them long term.  I’m not saying a weekend of violent sexual brutality and depravation isn’t fun, I’m talking about overall goals in long term lifestyles.

Superior slaves . . . I would hope and pray that my slave was superior to me at something.  Otherwise they don’t really bring much to the table as far as a relationship goes.  Areas of expertise and latitude to exercise that expertise is a given around here.  Hell, it makes them more useful.  Should they exceed me in every way . . . I will have to cross that bridge when I come to it.

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 7:22:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		you're a pretty level-headed fella, RS. have to applaud you on that, mmhmm. 

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 7:37:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ya' know, the last time a beautiful woman in a belly dancer outfit complimented me, I fell in love with her out of respect even though she was 5 times my age.  She touched my soul and changed my entire perspective of triumph over adversity while suffering through real slavery.  She was a captured Armenian and had been a real slave to the invading Turks.  The whole story is here:

-=Belly Dancer Slave, a real nonconsensual slave=-

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 7:44:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		you know, i actually remember reading over that thread during my previous incarnation here. ^_^ i never commented on it, but i remember reading it. pretty moving story. ^_^

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/17/2011 11:53:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Bloody awesome post RS and one worthy of much contemplation with lessons to be learned.. FT's commentary was just as worthy but again this nis to be expected. both of you have raised the bar high.. 

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/18/2011 12:11:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I enjoyed the entire post, but here's the part that made Me want to comment:

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
I respect our wiser members that frequently answer question with the ambiguity of a Buddhist master hoping to guide the inquisitor to their own personal truth.  My hope is that people reading my thread learn to extend the same respect and craft their questions with more precision.  Maintain threads and hone questions to a point so we can answer with the same precision.  Otherwise you’ll end up with just another fucking radio and miss the meaning behind what we do.

I'll admit that at times, I honestly suck at this.  There's only so many different ways that you can tell folks to do what works in their dynamic.  Sure, I'll gladly tell you about My way, but that's  not the One True Way and I might have just wasted typing all of the explanation out. 

At times, I think forums get treated like the crash course to BDSM.  The paint by numbers version instead of studying the art.  Just spit out the Reader's Digest version.  No need for those details and nuances.  Just give all of the info that you've acquired over years in a few quick paragraphs cause it has to be all right now.


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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/18/2011 1:58:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Amen LP (and women too), this is not a new phenomenon, but one I have railed against in the pagan communities when youth are not interested in studying with experienced teachers and learning as many of us did so when we could actually walk the walk we could talk the talk too. Youth today want to buy a couple of cheap books with lots of pictures and set up shop immediately as their catch cry suggests "I Want It and I Want It NOW!!" 

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/18/2011 2:06:45 AM   
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Bloody awesome post RS and one worthy of much contemplation with lessons to be learned.. FT's commentary was just as worthy but again this nis to be expected. both of you have raised the bar high.. 


Like your signature and FT’s comment, I feel both ends of the leash are equally binding and we are accountable for choices and actions.  I once considered that the next time I gave a collar, I was going to make her put it on.  That way the ceremony clearly reflects who’s choice it is to submit.

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RE: -=slave radio or just another Walkman?=- - 3/18/2011 2:14:14 AM   
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……….At times, I think forums get treated like the crash course to BDSM.  The paint by numbers version instead of studying the art.  Just spit out the Reader's Digest version.  No need for those details and nuances.  Just give all of the info that you've acquired over years in a few quick paragraphs cause it has to be all right now.

I hear that!

Sometimes the push button generation turns to a forum instead of a book or experienced people in your local leather community.  They expect the key to insta-BDSM in the answers.  Don’t get me wrong, I love these forums, I don’t even mind those same noob questions recycled over and over.  I never would have gotten to hear your very own explanation about labels . . . I’ll never forget the mental image you painted of a cupboard filled with unlabeled tin cans and how it would be hard to pick out the one you want.

I was doing maintenance on the stored BDSM gear when I came across the “slave radio”.  It occurred to me that a radio might appear odd or out of place in a BDSM gear box to other people.  It was that outside perspective of it that gave me the idea for this post.

< Message edited by ResidentSadist -- 3/18/2011 2:28:08 AM >

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