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Things always get a little confusing as I evolve - 5/6/2006 9:41:21 PM

DigitBox

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I guess I shouldn't be supprised that this is happening.

I was noticing the way that I've grown in the the fet/BDSM side of my life. Having had more Domme experience than sub experience had me assuming that was why I was so wired to think more in terms of being the Domme. Plus I get a lot of guys interested in Domming them so I am addressing a lot of people from that mindset.

Thing is that today I got some urges I hadn't had in a long time. Sadly no one was there to enjoy that time with me but I was definately expressing my sub side. Mostly with self-bondage.

So once again I'm back in the switch zone.

Really I can't see myself ever going Domme or sub only.

I'm still switch. Maybe I'm not as 50/50 as I might think, but I guess I'll figure that out the more experience I get?

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RE: Things always get a little confusing as I evolve - 5/6/2006 9:57:22 PM

TexasMaam

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If your experiences are anything like Mine have been, yes, the more experience you have r/t, the more likely you are to clarify your interests and define your BDSM identity.

The only time in My life I switched, I ended up with a smartass, sarcastic, pompous, mean spirited, resistant sub; the sweet, genteel, honorable sub I had come to know and adore was suddenly a total and complete ass**** that I'd never even like to sit close to on a park bench! I'll never switch again. Never.

I still have urges to experience pain, and I'm fortunate to know a Male Dom whom I trust to session me on rare occasion. He treats Me as his equal. He's smart enough to never treat Me as a sub, only as a peer who wants to experience pain for pain's sake. He knows I'm not aroused that way, don't want to 'serve' him in any capacity whatsoever, there's no sexual contact involved and I'm lucky to have that outlet all these years! He tells Me it allows him to not only hone his skills with a rope, whip, wand and cane, it allows him to push the envelope because I'm more pain tolerant than any fem sub he's known.

It allows Me to fulfill My cravings for pain and bondage while maintaining My Domme persona with my male sub. The waters never get muddy, I never have a resistant or condescending jerk to contend with or correct, the relationships don't get muddled because the boundaries remain intact.

Just My experience...

Good Luck to you with yours,
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RE: Things always get a little confusing as I evolve - 5/7/2006 8:38:09 AM

Termyn8or

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To each their own. I am outspoken and sometimes a bit cocky. When tied to the four poster I am still outspoken and sometimes a bit cocky. My surrender will never be complete, although you might find it fun to try for it.

What I see is that alot of people have their dominant or submissive side spill over into the rest of their life. I don't like gags, but you might as well gag me (I have a bishop with a 3" phallic plug) if you are looking for words of respect.

I would welcome the words "fuck you" from a bottom. Whatever consequences she would suffer would be what she wants. Once the scene is over she stands on equal footing in life. That's the way I want it. For me, even if the relationship is 24/7 the scene is not.

One exception might be chastity belts. Don't leave home without it, and your own Mastcard, in your own car.

Younger, I could go for a quickie but wind up a bit unsatisfied. Sex doesn't do it for me, I mean I get hardons like a teenager and stamina wise I am not too bad, but now I seek someone who has similar desires. Except for certain differences due to gender, she would have similar needs. The tease.

I love irony. See a Man needs to be teased longer because we can only get off like three or four times in a night on a good day. On the other hand, a Woman needs to be teased longer because she can keep cumming and cumming like the energizer pussy.

Couple this with mutual chastity belt wear and you have a formula for some explosive nights. On weekends one or the other can stay in strict bondage overnight.

I kiss and carress each limb before STRAPPING IT DOWN. With her unable to scratch an itch so to speak, I would help out. If I am so inclined at the moment that is. No need to worry about breaking limits, I must remember that I will be the one restrained next time.

To me that is being a switch. You might think it a bit uninteresting because I didn't go into alot of detail, but you don't know me :-)

This is how bad I got the switch itch; mutual chastity belt wear, 24/7. It only comes off when you are restrained so you can't touch yourself. Rules are rules and if that means no actual copulation ever, so be it. But there will be orgasms, squirting on the cieling orgasms, even for her ! That is a switch.

Of course this is all my opinion and reflects my own desires. What gets your panties in an uproar might not be exactly what floats my boat.

T

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RE: Things always get a little confusing as I evolve - 5/7/2006 10:12:21 AM

Dustyn

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quote:

Of course this is all my opinion and reflects my own desires. What gets your panties in an uproar might not be exactly what floats my boat.

Ain't that the damned truth... just wish more people had this mindset in bdsm... I know I try to... usually manage it, but sometimes, I fall flat on my face... LOL

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RE: Things always get a little confusing as I evolve - 5/7/2006 10:28:14 AM

TexasMaam

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Let's see: I believe I typed:

smartass, sarcastic, pompous, mean spirited, resistant sub

Yeah! That's what I typed.

That I don't need, or want. Glad you have your outlet; Glad that I have Mine!

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