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..and then delete? - 5/7/2006 9:45:20 AM

DivaZya

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Greetings y'all ~
Hoping to discover what's with the messaging & deleting deal - weird to Me!
This is a message I recieved yesterday, I didnt' see it untill today. Wanted to share and get your submissive/slave/pet viewpoints, My thanks.
" Do you mind? i hope not, because i would like to suggest that you have compiled a profile worthy of compliment. A profile that shows to the reader, me, a Lady of intelligence, not just dominance; a Lady that one would be blessed to know. Thanks for your time."
This immediate deleting of profile vexes Me, coz I enjoy notes from fanboys, even if I cannot always give them the attention they desire ~ I do like to take a bit of time to acknowledge them.
Always the best Diva~Zya

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/7/2006 9:56:16 AM

Quivver

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If I only had a buck for every profile that's gone poof even after kind words from them..... sad part is those profiles usually dont come back, it's just the weird idiots that return to write again... who knows!!

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/7/2006 8:13:04 PM

babysburnin

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Maybe he had a moment of weakness or regret (self-doubt) and ran. I wouldn't take it personally. He's not ready...

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/7/2006 8:41:33 PM

Veryfewcan

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This is kind of a strange question...so to speak. For every true male slave in the world, there are 2000 game-players. It's a reality. I am not sure why they find the need to play these games? Just the nature of the beast I guess.
Who is to tell why this man wrote You. There could be a thousand reasons. But if he deleted his profile, then that is the truth. Nothing more, nothing less.

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/7/2006 9:07:23 PM

DelightMachine

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BDSM is scary and a lot of guys exploring their submissiveness are both a little scared and a little ashamed. Either one of those emotions goes up and the submissive guy goes out. I wouldn't call them "players" so much as guys who are unsure of whether they want to get in this. It might be a good idea to check (when there's still a profile to check) how long they've been on CollarMe. If it's been a good few months at least, they're probably not going to suddenly disappear -- at least that's my guess.

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/7/2006 9:18:52 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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I too have experienced this with some Dominants as well..Get a very nice letter..Get ready to respond within at least a day or so and poof ...gone...It is just simply the nature of the beast we call the internet..I would simply enjoy the fact that someone for the moment thought highly of you..and said so...be well...Tempting

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/7/2006 9:27:19 PM

michaelGA2

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DivaZya

Greetings y'all ~
Hoping to discover what's with the messaging & deleting deal - weird to Me!
This is a message I recieved yesterday, I didnt' see it untill today. Wanted to share and get your submissive/slave/pet viewpoints, My thanks.
" Do you mind? i hope not, because i would like to suggest that you have compiled a profile worthy of compliment. A profile that shows to the reader, me, a Lady of intelligence, not just dominance; a Lady that one would be blessed to know. Thanks for your time."
This immediate deleting of profile vexes Me, coz I enjoy notes from fanboys, even if I cannot always give them the attention they desire ~ I do like to take a bit of time to acknowledge them.
Always the best Diva~Zya

look on the bright side, at least You can receive emails, mine don't seem to be processed. i've confirmed this via phone with a Mistress i am friends with here. none of my emails seem to be getting to Her. sometimes i wonder why i bother. i have sent out a few, very complimentry emails, email inquiries and casual greetings to a few people out there, yet, even the emails i sent to those i have become friends with are listed as unread. maybe i've upset the powers that be once too often and they saw fit to auto-trash my mail without sending them

then, i could be mistaken.

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/7/2006 10:11:52 PM

juliaoceania

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It is not only sub males that do this, but dom males too. I have had people email me and when I go to read it their name is black. I find it quite odd also and have no explanation as to why this happens.

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/9/2006 5:54:00 AM

mysecret40

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I have had this happen many times,.....especially after receiving thoughtful emails, only after I ask the question, "are you married?", then bang, the name goes to black~! Another thing I don't get is why so many Dom/Masters on here don't have their picture on their profile. Some won't even give it to you, claiming, you'll have to wait until you meet them, or they claim ignorance in how to use the computer to upload a pic. Then there is the "OLD" photo,.....you know the one from like 10 years ago that is fuzzy. ~~~scratches head~~~~~ I just don't get it.secret

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/9/2006 6:11:20 AM

bandit25

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Yes, it happens all the time. Don't give it another thought.

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/10/2006 7:02:19 AM

SlayerZ

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You aren't alone in this, trust me.

But it isn't just the message and runners that practice this. It also happens with people who regularly frequent the ads.

As for me, if experiences have taught me anything, it's taught me to doubt the serious nature of some of the people in this place. Hope no one gets offended by that. It's just that I'm seriously doubting whether or not anyone in this site is legit.

I mean, you go out of your way to carefully construct and write a perfectly legible and articulate and thoroughly well-thought-out message. You come across as being thoughtful and sincere, without crossing the line between charming and pompous. And all you get in return is a "thank you"

I mean, I was talking to this girl for a couple days, we were getting on fine, there was definitely the making of a connection there. And then it drew to a complete screeching halt! I really don't get the mentality of some the people in this site. I really don't.

Seems like the more articulate and concise you are, the less chance you have. lol

And bear in mind I don't write to everyone, that is just tacky.

I'm not being bitter when I say this. I'm just telling it the way it is, unfortunately.

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RE: ..and then delete? - 5/10/2006 7:09:58 AM

TigerLily23

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I am right there with you...when people act in such a childish manner, it's a strong indicator that they are not mature enough to be here...Unfortunately, we can't spam these people off the website...wouldn't that be nice???

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