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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: New sub starting training... (5/9/2006 1:32:52 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LeatherCharm
Hello everyone.
I am to start training soon. I am terrified. I have been yearing this to be a part of my life for quite sometime. I just turned 24. She has what I crave inside. Yet I had a flight for this morning and canceled it. What is stopping me from relinquishing control of myself. I want to follow through and get on the plane and submit myself to her. Anything is helpful.
John
You are very young. And, as already stated, we don't even know the age or arrangements with this Mistress. Maybe it is important and maybe it isn't.
I am afraid I come from the same perspective as Proprietrix. I do get upset with all these boys who say they crave this, or want this, or are ready for this. And they aren't. Maybe they never will be. I am not even talking about the boys who want to jury-rig some same cyber action, and are willing to say anything to get some on IM or the telephone. I am talking about the boys who can't even get their asses into their car and to a Starbucks for a cup of coffee. They are too afraid of a live meeting, yet they keep on writing to all the local Ladies I know! They never learn.
You say you have met her once before, and you have been discussing this for a year now. That is a long time. I would be pretty upset if you got cold feet after a year. I also would have arranged for you to spend more time with Me in the last year. But that is Me.
This is a life altering decision. I give you credit that you are aware of this. At least you take this seriously enough that you can be terrified. Most boys seem to treat a D/s or M/s relationship much too casually for My taste. They think it is trading where they live, and finding a different job, but don't take time to consider all the ramifications of entering into this style of relationship. It is easy to find an attractive lady and be willling to role play on Saturday night, as long as you can still loll around on the couch in shorts and a T-shirt, drinking a beer and watching the game on Sunday afternoon. It is easy to forget about, or completely discount, every aspect of control and how that may affect physically, mentally and emotionally.
I would be very upset if I had invested a year only to find that the boy in whom I had faith was panicking at the last minute. It is exactly why I have stated in My profile that anyone writing who has not lived in before must tell Me why they are assured and at peace with their livestyle decision.
You are not ready. You may never be ready. But the fact
that you are terrified actually give Me hope that you may be a wonderful submissive or slave for someone someday. Time will tell.
Note to LindaLashes: Sorry that you feel Proprietrix is too hard on the boy, but he has had a year to make choices and adjustments. We run into this all the time. If we take a harder line, it is not because we are not sympathetic. For the most part, our sympathy is wasted on most of the boys who can't quite make the committment, but we see them going after yet another Dominant, and presenting the same dedication they just failed to follow through. We are tired of wasting our time. This happens way more often than you may be aware, dear. Not necessarily a year, and not with only one live meet, but nonetheless...
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