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ORIGINAL: collarworthy

When my sub Urantiam told me he was posting threads on this site for advice, I was glad to see he had an audience to help answer the questions that plague  him, even tho I knew he was opening himself up to potential ridicule. But Urantiam is a very "by the book" kind of sub; he  lives for the written word; whereas I'm more of a "fly by the seat of my pants" kinda gal. I learn something new about myself every day, such as the fact that my need to be dominated is purely sexual. In the bedroom, I cry like a kitten and beg to be used; in the business world, I go toe to toe with management and would rather die than be told what to do. let alone get on all fours and accept a whipping for someones personal gratification. . I'm grateful that I made this discovery before it was too late. Therefore, when Urantiam told me he wanted to ask you people online their advice on this subject, I saw no real harm.
But after reading the responses he's gotten, I'm a little disheartened at some of the feedback he's been receiving.  I dont think anyone is intending to hurt his feelings, but I fear they are nonetheless. Urantiam is a very emotional person. He feels things deeply. I dont see what can be gained by poking fun at his genuine quest for advice, and while I thank those who have answered him sincerely, I would suggest that those who have nothing nice to say should say nothing at all. In particular, the concern about us having spent any " real time " together, altho warranted, shouldn't be the main issue here. We have spent hours and hours on the phone, and webcams are a wonderful way to prove whether a person is "real" or not. While I can understand those who question the viability of "love" on his side in such a new relationship, I have to ask:  in a world where people use others as human toilets; where subs / slaves are beaten and tortured in their quest for " happiness";  where people are shoving ponies tails up their butts and allowing themsevles to be branded like cattle to prove their worthiness, how can anyone question whether its possible for a sub to love someone so quickly. I will plead guilty to the fact that this relationship is moving at a fast pace, but that certainly didnt seem to bother any of the potential Doms I spoke to before realizing I wasn't capable of lasting in that arrangement. They had me hogtied and collared after the first five minutes. Suggestions of piercings and whippings and torture...oh my! 
I dont have a Domme bone in my body, and Urantiam is aware of that fact.. I cant even punish my puppy when it pees on the floor. I would be just as happy for him to call me by my given name instead of Mistress, but it makes him happy to address me that way so I dont question it. Urantiams' feelings, altho intense, are stemmed merely from a desire to serve, and mine in return to his, are based on the need to be worshipped and cared for. He has no problem accepting the fact that I still seek dominants for sex, and I have no problem accepting the fact that he isnt capable of fulfilling me in that department.  His relocation here will either work or it wont. But as no children or family are involved in this decision,  neither of us can see where anyone can be hurt if it doesnt work out. And on a site where people hurt people every day, physically AND mentally, how can that be wrong? In closing, I ask that if you have to poke fun at someone, then please,  poke it at me. My skin is much thicker than his, and the only place I can ever be hurt is in the bedroom. Urantiam  is guilty of nothing more than being a complete submissive and seeking someone to serve.  I  only hope Im able to do him justice as his Mistress

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ORIGINAL: urantiam

Lady Angel.

It says in my new profile that I have been in contact with other dommes. I also thank them for the time they have given me. But the decision of becoming Mistress Cynthia's property was not mine, but hers. I had to wait to know if she wanted slaves in her life. Last week her profile said she was a sub and she will always be one in the bedroom. So! When I offered to be her slave, she said she had to think about  the concept.

There is no dishonesty on my part.
I love this woman with all my heart.

urantiam

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ORIGINAL: urantiam

Subrob1967.

Thank you for your reply. All the advice is appreciated, but the original question was, will my presence in the life of my Mistress intefere with her sex life. My Mistress is new to this also and she will always love to be dominated in bed. I will be her slave, therefor, my purpose will be to serve as a domestic. She is attracted by strong alpha males and I am not of them. Yes! She is now considering owning many subs and she will need a master in the bedroom from time to time.. SO! Will a dominant male mind if her house as male servants present.

urantiam

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ORIGINAL: urantiam

Subrob1967.

Thank you for your reply. All the advice is appreciated, but the original question was, will my presence in the life of my Mistress intefere with her sex life. My Mistress is new to this also and she will always love to be dominated in bed. I will be her slave, therefor, my purpose will be to serve as a domestic. She is attracted by strong alpha males and I am not of them. Yes! She is now considering owning many subs and she will need a master in the bedroom from time to time.. SO! Will a dominant male mind if her house as male servants present.

urantiam

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ORIGINAL: urantiam

I will be serving Mistress Cinthia known as (collarworthy) on this site, starting in July. I really love this woman and I want to serve her for the rest of my life. We have agreed that even if she is a switch, I will always be her slave and I will never be permitted to dominate her. My Mistress is however very worried that my presence in her home might drive away dominant males from wanting to dominate her in bed. She really loves to be treated like a whore in the bedroom as states her profile and she does not want to lose this exciting real time bedroom action.

Will my presence interfere with her sex life?

Will alpha males still want to abuse my Mistress knowing she owns a slave?

We are both new to this, so all the advice can only help us.

Urantiam 

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ORIGINAL: collarworthy
I hope that takes away any suspicion you may have about me SweetDommes, becuz trust me, its completely unwarranted.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: collarworthy
I hope that takes away any suspicion you may have about me SweetDommes, becuz trust me, its completely unwarranted.

Yeah, my concerns are more based on the fact that, two days before this thread started I received an email from him wanting to talk to me as he was looking for a woman to own him.

Two days later...there's this.

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ORIGINAL: kneltandtied

Takes a deep breath..looks you in the eyes...WAKE UP..ok? i suggest you read this article about submissive frenzy ..because i have to say you are showing all the symptoms.
www.steel-door.com/Frenzies.html -
 
keep safe
knelt

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ORIGINAL: collarworthy

Yes agirl, I understand and appreciate that. But surely theres a way to get your point across without using phrases like "train wreck waiting to happen" and "lets bring out the popcorn". Even  you must sense the ridicule in remarks like that. When a person asks for advice, theyre asking for just that...advice. Not judgement. I dont think anyone on this site has the right to judge anyone. Lets not forget where we are here. The Walton family we aint!