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caitlyn -> RE: Suffering in silence (5/9/2006 8:30:41 AM)
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I never saw you indicate that you are a no limits, complete obedience slave, so some of the rather stern responses from some here, might be out of place, and not applicable to you at all.
There are actually people that do this with their consent. These people are no better or lesser, then the slave with ball gag firmly in place. You (the parenthetical you), have an absolute right to voice a lack of desire to have something happen to you, like if someone is hitting you too hard. Now you may have handed that right over to your dominant, but I never heard you say that in any of your posts.
It's very hard to give you advice, and even harder to give you good advice. All we can really do is tell you how we feel about the situation from our perspective. If that relates to you, the advice is useful ... if not, then it isn't. With that in mind ...
I'm a consentual submissive. I would never, under any conditions allow anyone to lay hands on me without my approval. Now, that isn't to say that I won't do these things ... a perfect example being that I like the paddle and hate the cane, and I might agree that if any of my grades slip below 3.75, I get the cane. It's still punishment, trust me, I hate that fucking cane ... but it isn't a violation of my space or any of my limits. Also, this plays into one of my favorite BDSM expressions ... that limits are dependent on whom you are limiting them with.
Specific to your situation, I think I would ask for a safe word. If my limit gets hit (too hard, etc ...) I would just use it. If he violated that, I would move on.
In short, if you identify with my thoughts, perhaps this is good advice ... if not, then move on to the next post. Either way, the best person to listen to, is the person that knows you best.
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