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Going too far? Advice please - 5/8/2006 10:28:11 AM   
RichardJo


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Status: offline 		I'm guiding a young woman online; it's hot but maybe has gone too far. I would like to discuss reality-based issues with someone very experienced with good judgment and solid views on safe & sane....
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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/8/2006 11:12:26 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		If it's online then there's really nothing YOU can do that goes "too far."

You could be unethical by toying with her emotionals, lieing to her, not being considerate or doing things you know to be unhealthy, but otherwise, she's the one on the other end of the computer deciding exactly how much influence and exactly what to obey. 

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/8/2006 12:25:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

If it's online then there's really nothing YOU can do that goes "too far."

You could be unethical by toying with her emotionals, lieing to her, not being considerate or doing things you know to be unhealthy, but otherwise, she's the one on the other end of the computer deciding exactly how much influence and exactly what to obey. 


You were reading my mind LA. Also, unless she is on webcam and you are 'watching' to make sure that she does things exactly as you instruct her, you don't know if she is actually doing what you have instructed. Since this 'relatioship' is on-line, she has control as she can decide to follow your instructions or not and you have no real recourse.  

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/8/2006 5:24:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		What do you exactly mean by it may have gone too far?

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/8/2006 5:47:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RichardJo

I'm guiding a young woman online; it's hot but maybe has gone too far. I would like to discuss reality-based issues with someone very experienced with good judgment and solid views on safe & sane....



I went to management school.  A lot of what we learned sounded like this. 

Maybe that explains why I never passed those exams.

I actually think we should itemize the quantifiers to establish a quality-assessment matrix to extract maximum data points from the predetermined action-based stationary review commitee.
Anyone with me on that?  Just remember, the Chinese symbol for problem is the same as it is for solution.

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benji

PS: Either the Chinese are confused about their language, or I am. 

PPS: RichardJo, this is not personal.  Your question actually is significantly smarter than many others' first posts.  It just doesn't mean much. 

PPPS: That may actually say something about the adage about it's better to say nothing than to say something.

PPPPS:  I'm no good at adages and Chinese, just in case you were wondering.

< Message edited by gooddogbenji -- 5/8/2006 5:50:23 PM >

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/8/2006 8:49:16 PM   
MistressLove999


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Status: offline 		I don't really think you have given enough information about what you are guiding her to do and how far you have gone for anyone to give you honest answers.
your guiding her online,,,,she is a....?
it's hot but, maybe has gone to far.....cyber sex?
reality based issues??? you/she  think your in Love???
1,,I know the kid isnt your if it's online only....lol ok ok just teasing.
How about more info for better help hon?

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/15/2006 9:22:07 AM   
dixiestar69


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Status: offline 		Thats what I was thinking, theres not enough information to say if its gone "too far" but shes the one with the mind on the other end of that computer screen....you may think your taking things to far but she could just be playing you and telling you that she is doing all of these things when really shes sitting there drinking some tea and smoking a cigarette and chatting with god knows how many other people....so without some more info theres no way to say if anything is "too far"

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/15/2006 9:59:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would not have her play with pain too much on command as you are not there to watch her responses (such as nipple clamps and genital torture). In order to play with pain I think a dominant should be in the same room with the submissive to determine she is ok... other than that I do not see how you could harm her physically speaking

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/15/2006 10:07:15 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I don't see it either.  But I've been told that some on-line slaves will do whatever their online masters tell them.  If she's like that, you need to be careful.

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/15/2006 5:09:50 PM   
mitsu


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Status: offline 		Reality-based issues?

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/15/2006 5:12:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mitsu

Reality-based issues?



Huh?  Replied to me?

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benji

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RE: Going too far? Advice please - 5/16/2006 2:42:54 PM   
mitsu


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Status: offline 		benji,
Just agreeing with you that it's a rather convoluted way to put it.  What are reality-based issues?  Real issues?  Slightly real issues?  Issues that aren't real but are abstract versions of issues that may or may not have been considered real at some point in actual or fictional history?
;)

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