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Aynne88 -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 2:46:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: gothikbutterfly

Wiccan

as

well

as

a

Sifsgydhja(Priestess-of-Sif)

in

the

Church

of

Asatru.

Not

dominant,

but

still

Pagan&proud


Just an FYI and purely my point of view but your style of posting is exceedingly annoying. I am sure you think it is cool or some such bullshit but it's a motherfucker to read and will be ignored by many. 

If you seriously have something important you want others to read, try writing it in a way that is easy to do so.



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[;)].  Seriously wtf was that?




subtlebutterfly -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 3:19:40 PM)

An insult. At least to me.




OttersSwim -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 3:25:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

See P...and I still have to think that if you called someone's faith "fluffy horseshit" and mocked him in a pub in England, you would be just as likely to have that bloke coming across the table at you with at least harsh words if not directed fists as you would in the U.S. with the exact same statement...

You might still have to think that, my love, but I'm afraid you'd be wrong. Religion's considered fair game in England, and the religious are expected to have a sense of humour and a thick skin. The bloke would, as Peon said, react with likely no more than a tut and an eye-roll. I'm not kidding when I say there's a massive cultural difference. Which is why you won't ever see me make a religious joke on these forums, because I have *no idea* where the boundary is.

It's interesting that you reacted to RF's post by saying that Wicca is an accepted religion. I don't think anyone's debating that. In fact I'd bet a considerable amount of money that RF would be equally dismissive of any religion. That's the prevailing cultural tone here, much to the dismay of the Church of England...

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Well Miss VC, I will take your's and P's word for it then.  Here in America, even our "free thinkers" are a bit potty and parochial about religion...




Palliata -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 3:34:46 PM)

VC speaks truth, in spite of his unacceptably limey origins [;)]. Having spent time in London, I can tell you that it's just not the same there with regard to religion. There are plenty of things which will get you glassed in a pub, but calling someone's religion horseshit is not one of them. It isn't just the less widely-practiced religions like wicca, the attitude to religion generally is simply different.

There are fewer people who are religious, those who are religious are less so, and those who aren't less religious are less vocal. It's hard to contemplate coming from the culture we do, but they really just don't give that much of a fuck about religion as a concept, and to the extent that they do they take a much less touchy stance to it. I tried to come up with an analog, but one isn't really springing to mind.

Overall I think this entire thread needs to relax and learn to take a joke. You do your faith no service by raising to easy baits. You're certainly never going to convince your detractors, and those who are observing will surely see it in a rather dim light.




LadyNTrainer -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 3:35:35 PM)

Fast reply.

The main reason I am not a practicing Pagan, or a practicing anything, is that I got majorly sick of hearing shit like, "I was initiated by my grandmother, who was the last of the great Elvish ninja masters from Atlantis, and when I put an amethyst crystal on my third eye chakra, I can read the Tarot cards and have this total psychic bond with my pet canary.  My Indian spirit guide is named Dances With Credit Cards." 

Yeah.  That's fluff.  But every single religion, none excepted, attracts a fringe element of crazies and fluffies.  They tend to be the loudest and most obvious, so they're the ones you see first.  My family has had some very, very bad experiences with nut case Christians, but that doesn't mean all Christians are violent criminals who slash tires and throw bricks through windows and try to kill people.  Nor do all Christians allow their diabetic children to die with no medical treatment because they decide to "put their faith in God" and ignore modern medicine.  But some do, and they tend to make the six o'clock news when they do their thing.  That still doesn't justify being rude to all Christians or blaming them for the unbalanced behavior and beliefs of their most visible fringe element.

I grew up in the Pagan community and I've seen plenty of fluffies.  They upset my digestion, and I won't speak to them as it would drive me batty in short order.  I am a scientist and a rationalist, and any form of religious crazy-talk that confuses spirituality with hard physical reality will upset my digestion.  I don't care whether you package it as Jesus or the Goddess, if it doesn't work in the real world as a reliably replicable effect, I don't want to hear about it.  I've also met some brilliant people who appreciate a simple, earth-based spirituality without letting it cloud their intellect or their rationality.  And those are the Pagans I respect.  In general, I think the Pagan and Native/earth based religion outlook on responsible stewardship of natural resources is a hell of a lot more functional than any of the monotheist views in the bigger picture of long term species survival.

As for myself, I see the Goddess - archetypal and mythical perhaps, but still Gaea and Goddess - in the unseen spiral of DNA, in the long inexorability of evolution itself, in the laws of physics and nature that hold us all.  For She is those things, no more and no less.  I don't believe in deities as literal beings with sentience, certainly not the kind that peer in your bedroom window and care who you have sex with or what you ate for breakfast.  But I do have a sense of awe and wonder about the mysteries that are constantly revealed to us by science.  And I have a deep respect for the importance of our responsibility to the ecosystem we live in and depend on for the very air we breathe, the water we drink, the food we eat.  Fuck that shit up at your peril; poor stewardship may condemn your children or their children to death or starvation.  And so it is not entirely senseless to call her Gaea and to honor her as the Mother who nurtures us.  Because in a very literal biological sense, that is what She is - life itself, and the continuation of life. 

I can't think of many better things for a culture to call sacred, or many better models for responsible management of natural resources.  The fluffy stuff and the fringe element is not the core of any religion, and it's worth looking at the bigger picture and the more serious elements of any faith before passing judgment on how healthy and functional it is. 





LadyPact -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 3:38:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
You might still have to think that, my love, but I'm afraid you'd be wrong. Religion's considered fair game in England, and the religious are expected to have a sense of humour and a thick skin. The bloke would, as Peon said, react with likely no more than a tut and an eye-roll. I'm not kidding when I say there's a massive cultural difference. Which is why you won't ever see me make a religious joke on these forums, because I have *no idea* where the boundary is.

It's interesting that you reacted to RF's post by saying that Wicca is an accepted religion. I don't think anyone's debating that. In fact I'd bet a considerable amount of money that RF would be equally dismissive of any religion. That's the prevailing cultural tone here, much to the dismay of the Church of England...

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Again, very fascinating from My perspective.

Would you go so far as to say we Americans might be seen as too sensitive about the subject in comparison?




VaguelyCurious -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 3:53:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Again, very fascinating from My perspective.

Would you go so far as to say we Americans might be seen as too sensitive about the subject in comparison?

'Too' sensitive is a judgement call I don't feel comfortable making. Certainly 'very sensitive', and probably 'too sensitive for me feel comfortable discussing religion with', but 'too sensitive' is a bit wishy-washy as a term on its own.

Although, actually, I do feel comfortable in saying that glassing someone over the subject would be seen as too sensitive on a massive scale. We don't do that for anything except football (and maybe Rugby, but only while the Six Nations is on. [8D])




LadyPact -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 3:56:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

Fast reply.

I cut your quote for the sake of brevity.  Not because I don't agree with what you are saying here.  I'm certainly with you on the fringe element, but that can be said about just about anything.  Don't we see this in our sub cultures of BDSM?  I certainly see it in the leather community.  I know the Gorean folks have the issue as well.  I won't name names, but some are just a joke.  I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to say something to the tune of, "please don't believe this is how we all are".  I know I don't really have to because level headed people know this.

Your science and My faith probably don't match up.  I'm rather convinced that they don't.  At the same time, even if you think it is silly for Me to be a person of faith, I've never felt that you have disrespected Me over it.  Perhaps it's the presentation of your views on the subject that seemed more rational than confrontational.




CreepyStalker -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 4:07:01 PM)

I wouldn't say too sensitive so much as bloody mental.






LadyPact -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 4:07:48 PM)

Would you mind expanding on that a bit?




VaguelyCurious -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 4:09:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CreepyStalker

I wouldn't say too sensitive so much as bloody mental.

That's my girlfriend, ever the tactful one...

Is that Americans as a whole, though, or just the crazy TV evangelist mentalists?




porcelaine -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 5:12:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

First things first.  The dancing in the moonlight or by the fire bit rocks!  If you haven't done it, put it on your bucket list, because it is pretty awesome.


This is one of the many reasons why you rock! i'll pass the suggestion along. :)

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I actually know very little about various faiths, so the above was quite interesting to Me.  Oddly enough, in clip's career in the military, he has had seven different trainings for his MOS depending on what slot needed to be filled for the unit.  One of them, believe it or not, was Minister's Assistant.  Just a fun little factoid.


One of the biggest issues with Neo-Paganism is the blending. It is viewed as penny pinching from various things and presenting it as whatever you wish to call it. The practice has offended many groups and led to a tightening of the reins on what is or isn't accessible. While i think religion and spirituality are vastly different, i'm cognizant of personal modifications and wouldn't present them as the original if they strayed too far. Believe it or not i'm not surprised by that. Clip appears very level-headed and your influence would make him an ideal person for that job. A little tolerance goes a very long way.

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No surprise there.  I suppose it would be the same as any other "group" where a commonality is all that was consistent among the members.  We tell folks the same thing about BDSM folks as a whole.  Doesn't mean that we aren't all over the spectrum on everything else.


You're correct. The same holds true in all groups. Nevertheless you have starry-eyed newcomers that are expecting a campfire setting and they're severely disappointed when that doesn't occur. It's the microcosm that they can't wrap their mind around. We're simply a snapshot within a small sliver of the larger pie, but we aren't that different. We bring all that other stuff in with us.

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I happen to think that any person of faith has to come to terms with the highlighted above.  I know that I had to do so when I was coming into sadism.  Even without matters of faith, we are taught from a young age that it isn't acceptable to physically hurt people.  That was part of the process for Me and I don't think I'm alone in that.


The problem i encountered in this area is the proliferation of people that are not of faith or walk paths that won't coalesce with mine in a harmonic fashion. The other issue relates to mental stability, and i don't say that to be rude. But people that veer towards the edges i enjoy aren't always wrapped tight. So it's definitely a balancing act on several planes and i've found a happy medium along with some necessary checks and balances. In my opinion faith brings something to the picture that is noticeably absent when it isn't there.

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The best that I can offer on that issue is, even in sadism, the conflict is removed because I make the distinction between hurt and harm.  It took Me a while to grasp the concept of pain being a form of love to the masochist who receives it.  Once I did, it helped Me to get over the hurdle of the contrast that seemed to be present in My beliefs. To this day, I still admit that I might be wrong on the subject.  If I am, God and I will sort that out when I get there.


One of the things that helped me reconcile this was viewing my masochism in a healthy light. i'm not a slab and no matter how much i enjoy being hurt or treated less than, it's very important that i don't lose touch with my humanity. The other side of this was seeking a benevolent partner. When i detect emptiness i wonder silently what fills that space. And i silently ponder if i'm willing to put myself at risk to answer that question. Much like my masochism, his sadism must flow through the right channels.

In my opinion Ma'am, Your heart says it all. i have a sneaking suspicion it is in the right place. You've never shown me differently. [;)]

Namaste,

~porcelaine




gothikbutterfly -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 5:16:36 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

quote:

ORIGINAL: gothikbutterfly

Wiccan

as

well

as

a

Sifsgydhja(Priestess-of-Sif)

in

the

Church

of

Asatru.

Not

dominant,

but

still

Pagan&proud


Just an FYI and purely my point of view but your style of posting is exceedingly annoying. I am sure you think it is cool or some such bullshit but it's a motherfucker to read and will be ignored by many. 

If you seriously have something important you want others to read, try writing it in a way that is easy to do so.



D
I
T
T
O

[;)].  Seriously wtf was that?



Apologies, but my spacebar was broken and i just got a new keyboard.[:)]




LadyPact -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 5:44:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine
This is one of the many reasons why you rock! i'll pass the suggestion along. :)

Don't pass it.  Do it!  I promise that it is so much fun.

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One of the biggest issues with Neo-Paganism is the blending. It is viewed as penny pinching from various things and presenting it as whatever you wish to call it. The practice has offended many groups and led to a tightening of the reins on what is or isn't accessible. While i think religion and spirituality are vastly different, i'm cognizant of personal modifications and wouldn't present them as the original if they strayed too far. Believe it or not i'm not surprised by that. Clip appears very level-headed and your influence would make him an ideal person for that job. A little tolerance goes a very long way.

I highly agree.  The highlighted above is exactly why I prefer to identify as a person of faith, rather than a religious person.  Much of organized religion has failed.  The "church" in and of itself, on many occasions has lost their way.  Ever wonder how many people could have been fed rather than buy a stained glass window?  I don't do well with that.

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You're correct. The same holds true in all groups. Nevertheless you have starry-eyed newcomers that are expecting a campfire setting and they're severely disappointed when that doesn't occur. It's the microcosm that they can't wrap their mind around. We're simply a snapshot within a small sliver of the larger pie, but we aren't that different. We bring all that other stuff in with us.

So true.

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The problem i encountered in this area is the proliferation of people that are not of faith or walk paths that won't coalesce with mine in a harmonic fashion. The other issue relates to mental stability, and i don't say that to be rude. But people that veer towards the edges i enjoy aren't always wrapped tight. So it's definitely a balancing act on several planes and i've found a happy medium along with some necessary checks and balances. In my opinion faith brings something to the picture that is noticeably absent when it isn't there.

Truthfully, it's taken Me years to get here.  I'm sure that there are some folks out there who don't think I'm wrapped all that tight.  [;)]  I just do the best that I can on any given day.

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One of the things that helped me reconcile this was viewing my masochism in a healthy light. i'm not a slab and no matter how much i enjoy being hurt or treated less than, it's very important that i don't lose touch with my humanity. The other side of this was seeking a benevolent partner. When i detect emptiness i wonder silently what fills that space. And i silently ponder if i'm willing to put myself at risk to answer that question. Much like my masochism, his sadism must flow through the right channels.

It's the same on the other side.  Empathy in sadism.  I find it essential.

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In my opinion Ma'am, Your heart says it all. i have a sneaking suspicion it is in the right place. You've never shown me differently. [;)]

Namaste,

~porcelaine


Thank you.  I appreciated this greatly.




SnowRanger -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 6:09:47 PM)

Hello Stephan,

This thread has gone toxic. At the risk of being on the receiving end of some Trans-Atlantic venom, I'd like to answer your original post.

I doubt that there are hard fast numbers apropos of percentages. I do think that there is a very strong possibility that you can find a Domme that practices Wicca. My observation is that people who are open to alternative lifestyles (or WIIWD or what ever is's being called this week) are open to alternative beliefs too.

I find myself in a situation very similar to the one you are interested in. Good Luck!

With Sensitivity,
Mike
SnowRanger

__________________________________________________________________________

Double Lunch and Hook It!
Cut Line or Die!




LaTigresse -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 6:18:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: CreepyStalker

I wouldn't say too sensitive so much as bloody mental.

That's my girlfriend, ever the tactful one...

Is that Americans as a whole, though, or just the crazy TV evangelist mentalists?




I do not think the crazy TV evangelicals represent the American public at large. I think there are a fair number of Americans that are of the more extreme variety but I also think there are a great number that do not particularly care one way or another but are afraid enough of going to hell to express, or even actively think, it's all horse feathers.

Then you have a fair number that reject the whole lot, many of whom have no compunction in expressing that in some way or another.




porcelaine -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/8/2011 7:01:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Don't pass it.  Do it!  I promise that it is so much fun.


Indeed. And two's company. i think that calls for a little assistance. [;)]

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I highly agree.  The highlighted above is exactly why I prefer to identify as a person of faith, rather than a religious person.  Much of organized religion has failed.  The "church" in and of itself, on many occasions has lost their way.  Ever wonder how many people could have been fed rather than buy a stained glass window?  I don't do well with that.


i've seen the clergy from both sides. Both as a child of two parents that are ministers, behind the scenes with other people of the cloth, and time as a believer. It was very disconcerting. But believe it or not, reading The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis put a lot in perspective. Unexpectedly so.

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Truthfully, it's taken Me years to get here.  I'm sure that there are some folks out there who don't think I'm wrapped all that tight.  [;)]  I just do the best that I can on any given day.


If your wrapping is loose we're all in trouble. *laughs*

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It's the same on the other side.  Empathy in sadism.  I find it essential.


True, but a rarity in many cases.

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Thank you.  I appreciated this greatly.


You're more than welcome. You've earned that comment. xx

Namaste,

~porcelaine




VaguelyCurious -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/9/2011 3:20:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I do not think the crazy TV evangelicals represent the American public at large. I think there are a fair number of Americans that are of the more extreme variety but I also think there are a great number that do not particularly care one way or another but are afraid enough of going to hell to express, or even actively think, it's all horse feathers.

Then you have a fair number that reject the whole lot, many of whom have no compunction in expressing that in some way or another.

I have no doubt that what you're saying is true - but the... baseline sensitivity, maybe? is noticeably higher among Americans. That doesn't mean that all Americans are equally religious - I'd still expect there to be a spread - but the average American is noticeably more religious than the average Brit.




ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/9/2011 4:35:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

Fast reply.

The main reason I am not a practicing Pagan, or a practicing anything, is that I got majorly sick of hearing shit like, "I was initiated by my grandmother, who was the last of the great Elvish ninja masters from Atlantis, and when I put an amethyst crystal on my third eye chakra, I can read the Tarot cards and have this total psychic bond with my pet canary.  My Indian spirit guide is named Dances With Credit Cards." 

Yeah.  That's fluff.  But every single religion, none excepted, attracts a fringe element of crazies and fluffies.  They tend to be the loudest and most obvious, so they're the ones you see first.  My family has had some very, very bad experiences with nut case Christians, but that doesn't mean all Christians are violent criminals who slash tires and throw bricks through windows and try to kill people.  Nor do all Christians allow their diabetic children to die with no medical treatment because they decide to "put their faith in God" and ignore modern medicine.  But some do, and they tend to make the six o'clock news when they do their thing.  That still doesn't justify being rude to all Christians or blaming them for the unbalanced behavior and beliefs of their most visible fringe element.

I grew up in the Pagan community and I've seen plenty of fluffies.  They upset my digestion, and I won't speak to them as it would drive me batty in short order.  I am a scientist and a rationalist, and any form of religious crazy-talk that confuses spirituality with hard physical reality will upset my digestion.  I don't care whether you package it as Jesus or the Goddess, if it doesn't work in the real world as a reliably replicable effect, I don't want to hear about it.  I've also met some brilliant people who appreciate a simple, earth-based spirituality without letting it cloud their intellect or their rationality.  And those are the Pagans I respect.  In general, I think the Pagan and Native/earth based religion outlook on responsible stewardship of natural resources is a hell of a lot more functional than any of the monotheist views in the bigger picture of long term species survival.

As for myself, I see the Goddess - archetypal and mythical perhaps, but still Gaea and Goddess - in the unseen spiral of DNA, in the long inexorability of evolution itself, in the laws of physics and nature that hold us all.  For She is those things, no more and no less.  I don't believe in deities as literal beings with sentience, certainly not the kind that peer in your bedroom window and care who you have sex with or what you ate for breakfast.  But I do have a sense of awe and wonder about the mysteries that are constantly revealed to us by science.  And I have a deep respect for the importance of our responsibility to the ecosystem we live in and depend on for the very air we breathe, the water we drink, the food we eat.  Fuck that shit up at your peril; poor stewardship may condemn your children or their children to death or starvation.  And so it is not entirely senseless to call her Gaea and to honor her as the Mother who nurtures us.  Because in a very literal biological sense, that is what She is - life itself, and the continuation of life. 

I can't think of many better things for a culture to call sacred, or many better models for responsible management of natural resources.  The fluffy stuff and the fringe element is not the core of any religion, and it's worth looking at the bigger picture and the more serious elements of any faith before passing judgment on how healthy and functional it is. 




Rather profound for a fast reply.




LaTigresse -> RE: Wicca and Dominant women (4/9/2011 9:07:56 AM)


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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I do not think the crazy TV evangelicals represent the American public at large. I think there are a fair number of Americans that are of the more extreme variety but I also think there are a great number that do not particularly care one way or another but are afraid enough of going to hell to express, or even actively think, it's all horse feathers.

Then you have a fair number that reject the whole lot, many of whom have no compunction in expressing that in some way or another.

I have no doubt that what you're saying is true - but the... baseline sensitivity, maybe? is noticeably higher among Americans. That doesn't mean that all Americans are equally religious - I'd still expect there to be a spread - but the average American is noticeably more religious than the average Brit.



That is very likely. I am kind of anti religioun so I tend to try and block it out. I have made a few family and friends, less amicable towards me, because of my point of view on stupid forwarded emails and Facebook postings that have a religious theme.

I do not know a large number of Brits but I am sure I've never received that type of email from those I do know.




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