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slave55555 -> sex plus love-making??? (5/8/2006 2:30:40 PM)
Greetings honorable Ladies, I don’t know if anyone asked this before me. I’m wondering… in vanilla relationship there is sex and there is love-making. Is their a passionate love-making is your relationship with your slave? If so, I guess it would be differing than the love-making among the vanilla people… how do you describe it? Thank you, slave

LadyHugs -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/8/2006 2:42:27 PM)
Dear slave55555, Ladies and Gentlemen; Sex = love making = practicing and or committed action into mating and making....whoopeeeee! You can have sex without a relationship. You can have a relationship without sex. Sex is sex, no matter all the labels and words that really boil down to "sex" -- The only thing different from vanilla sex and scene sex--is that we have safe words and or sometimes means to keep from sliding off the bed--bondage. I may add, bondage is almost necessary for silk sheets; as they are so slick! But, at least with sex in bondage, at least one won't fall out of the bed, bump heads on the head board and the one doing doesn't get clobbered doing the one being done. Respectfully submitted concerning bed safety standards, Lady Hugs

UtopianRanger -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/8/2006 3:12:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slave55555 Greetings honorable Ladies, I don’t know if anyone asked this before me. I’m wondering… in vanilla relationship there is sex and there is love-making. Is their a passionate love-making is your relationship with your slave? If so, I guess it would be differing than the love-making among the vanilla people… how do you describe it? Thank you, slave Sure there is if you find one who really likes sex. Walk up from behind her, whisper in her ear, asking her politely to undue the first button on her jeans, and then tell her you'll do the rest of the work [;)] - R

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/8/2006 3:13:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHugs Dear slave55555, Ladies and Gentlemen; Sex = love making = practicing and or committed action into mating and making....whoopeeeee! You can have sex without a relationship. You can have a relationship without sex. Sex is sex, no matter all the labels and words that really boil down to "sex" -- The only thing different from vanilla sex and scene sex--is that we have safe words and or sometimes means to keep from sliding off the bed--bondage. I may add, bondage is almost necessary for silk sheets; as they are so slick! But, at least with sex in bondage, at least one won't fall out of the bed, bump heads on the head board and the one doing doesn't get clobbered doing the one being done. Respectfully submitted concerning bed safety standards, Lady Hugs <<<<-------Agrees. Am now starting to admire LadyHugs for beginning to talk like the bad girl within the proper lady exterior. [8D] M

MHOO314 -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/8/2006 3:43:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger Sure there is if you find one who really likes sex. Walk up from behind her, whisper in her ear, asking her politely to undue the first button on her jeans, and then tell her you'll do the rest of the work [;)] - R But you have to whisper " Mistress may I?"...

thetammyjo -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/8/2006 4:53:49 PM)
Actually since I'm the more dominant person in my vanilla marriage the only difference is that I'm more straight forward with my slave about what I want done, where, how long and the fact that I'd necessarily recipicate in terms of orgasm. Fox is also a more sexually passionate person than Tom and he has turned into a very good lover (for me at least). Fox can be good to roll after a few kisses or a fondle from me or even a "bedroom now" order -- Tom needs more build up, he's more romantic on a lot of levels. There is however another big difference between them that has to do with the history with me. Tom went through all my therapy and my need for intense therapy after I was in graduate school and far enough from my abusive mother to feel safe enough to get it. He went through all the recovery of my memories and has seen the negative of sex in me. Tom and I were married for some time before my mind could accept vaginal incourse without making me freak out and causing me intense pain. But the time Fox was around 90% of all that was worked out and I was having a much happier and active sexual life; little of the negatives and most of the positives. I'm sure that is TMI but I want ot be honest about myself on this forum or there is no point in my being here.

Lashra -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/8/2006 5:51:14 PM)
Yes and it is RED HOT [:D] We both love rough sex and hard play so we are a great match. I get it whenever I want it, just the way I want it. As it should be. ~Lashra

UtopianRanger -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/8/2006 10:20:43 PM)
quote: But you have to whisper " Mistress may I?"... But of course; those would be the most passionate words spoken. ; } - R

RunningFox -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/8/2006 11:06:09 PM)
Well, from a purely neutral standpoint (in regards to BDSM vs Vanilla), I've always differentiated thusly between "having sex" (or it's even baser variant, "fucking") and "making love" in these ways: I find the term "making love" to be a descriptive term: it is sex with affection and tenderness--love, in a word. Fucking is just sex. Though lately I've been getting the terms mixed up in my head due to various situations I've found myself in recently, but more as that develops later.

Oumae -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/9/2006 4:04:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slave55555 Greetings honorable Ladies, I don’t know if anyone asked this before me. I’m wondering… in vanilla relationship there is sex and there is love-making. Is their a passionate love-making is your relationship with your slave? If so, I guess it would be differing than the love-making among the vanilla people… how do you describe it? Thank you, slave The difference for me is in the mind set. I might have sex/make love without using any toys etc but the D/s dynamic is always there. What Utopian Ranger suggested would be fine by me ( I like subs with initiative) once done with the right mindset. If I'm in the mood great if not no sulking [;)] Oumae

slave55555 -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/9/2006 2:09:36 PM)
Thank you for your time everyone.

WyrdRich -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/9/2006 3:41:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHugs Dear slave55555, Ladies and Gentlemen; Sex = love making = practicing and or committed action into mating and making....whoopeeeee! You can have sex without a relationship. You can have a relationship without sex. Sex is sex, no matter all the labels and words that really boil down to "sex" -- The only thing different from vanilla sex and scene sex--is that we have safe words and or sometimes means to keep from sliding off the bed--bondage. I may add, bondage is almost necessary for silk sheets; as they are so slick! But, at least with sex in bondage, at least one won't fall out of the bed, bump heads on the head board and the one doing doesn't get clobbered doing the one being done. Respectfully submitted concerning bed safety standards, Lady Hugs <<<<-------Agrees. Am now starting to admire LadyHugs for beginning to talk like the bad girl within the proper lady exterior. [8D] M I was really hoping there was a sense of humor waiting to rear its' head. Perhaps a touch of brandy in the tea today? (No disrespect intended LadyHugs. I greatly enjoy your posts)

MsMacComb -> RE: sex plus love-making??? (5/9/2006 3:49:13 PM)
To me sex is what happens when bodies are slapping. Making love is what happens the other 23 hours a day (or in some guys cases the other 23 hours and 59 minutes.) [:)]

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