Hisprettybaby
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Joined: 4/13/2011 From: Bellingham, WA U.S.A. Status: offline
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I just checked back on this thread after being away, so I will answer all your comments to me at once, before getting back to the OP. quote:
ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss They just don't want the gory details. Who are you to tell them that this is deception? And by the way, have you been living with your life partner for 30 years? quote:
ORIGINAL: Ishtarr Your problem is that you assume everybody is like you, and that you therefor assume that everybody places the same importance on sex that you do. For some people, sex just really isn't that important, and it really doesn't matter whether their partners have sex with others, because the act of having sex in an of itself has no bearing on the relationship they have with each other. quote:
ORIGINAL: Aynne88 How long have you lived with your man and his other sub/slave? How often have you watched him fuck her? How do you feel about that? Oh wait....you don't right? Any of the above right? When you do that, tell us. I am willing to bet that you won't be so approving then, judging by your past issues. quote:
ORIGINAL: tazzygirl Wait. How is the relationship sunshine mentioned deceptive? They both agreed to it. They both know its happening. Thats like me saying to the man "sure, go out, have fun, just dont tell me about it" then getting mad at him for doing just that. There is no deception. Its how it works for them. I try to make it clear that when I say something on the boards, it's MY OPINION. If I've forgotten to state that upfront a few times, I'm sorry, but it's obvious that is just that. My opinion. I don't see why you all have to be so judgmental. You all jumped on me like I have no right to be here just because we haven't found our third yet. In MY OPINION it's deceptive to keep it a secret from your partner when you're fucking/having sex with someone else. He's actually TOLD her to not tell him when she does, so he IS actually asking her to be deceptive IN MY OPINION. And by the way, no, I have not been living with my partner for 30 years. It's not that I think sex is all-important. I don't. But I do think that HONESTY is all-important. Her husband has asked her to not be honest with him about her extra-marital sexcapades. I'm not saying he shouldn't ask her that, I'm just saying that not being honest is....not being honest. It's also a wrong statement that I think everyone is like me. I'm not stupid enough to believe that. And as for my "past issues," I'm sure the one who brought that up has never has "past issues" of her own???? I'm not sure which past issues you are speaking of, but the one that comes to my mind is where a monogamous girl came along and the Dom chose her over the rest of us and we consequently left. Healthy that I left(not that I had much choice), IN MY OPINION, since he chose her over everyone else and became monogamous. As for watching my man fuck his other sub, why on earth do you think all poly would be like that? We are still looking for his additional sub but, when we do find her, I can assure you it will not be one big fuck-pile. He will be with either her or me on separate occassions when it comes to fucking/sex. We''ve already discussed that. Besides, I thought the original post on this thread was: quote:
ORIGINAL: yours4u2use getting involved with a couple....i have done it twice....the second time, i was convinced they were different.... You know, no matter how great they sound, jealousy always rears its ugly head. Getting back to the OP......sometimes people just need to find things out for themselves. Just because poly doesn't work out for you and some others, it does not mean it won't work out for anyone. There are also cases where people just try poly to please their partner, or think they can do it but later on find out that they can't. In those cases it won't necessarily work out, but it doesn't mean poly never works. ~Hisprettybaby~
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