"i am of the opinion that poly is in most cases a total mess and people should indeed think long and hard before venturing into territory that might better be enjoyed as a fantasy." ~ Ranja
I agree with that, but some people make it work, there is currently a thread up how LDR are doomed for failure, well, it worked for me even if "in most cases" it ends up a total mess. Any relationship is always only as strong as the weakest person in it, with poly you might have a greater chance of "weaker links" simply by numbers, but if you get a bunch of strong people who all have the same goals and aren't overly jealous, I can see it working - as I said before, it wouldn't work for me, but ice cream and chocs don't work for me, I hate both - some people think it's heavenly...
For the record: i never said it couldn't or wouldn't work and i believe everybody should go about their own life the way that suits them best...
and everybody makes mistakes
sometimes going poly is a mistake sometimes it isn't
sometimes cheating is a mistake and sometimes it isn't
and every so often it is a good idea to take a step back and reconsider your position, people change over time