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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/17/2011 4:19:50 AM   
subbykat


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ORIGINAL: yours4u2use

you assumed wrong



Lol. So who then does jealousy ALWAYS rear it's ugly little head for? ALL slaves...except you?



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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/17/2011 1:53:49 PM   
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just cause it didnt work for you doesnt in way way mean its not for others...if you not up for it thats fun...but dont knock other peoples lifestyles...

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/21/2011 5:09:43 AM   
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As has been said plenty, your experiences aren't universal. Trying with 2 couples and then deeming "all" couples to be the same is like seeing 2 blue cars, and then assuming that all cars are blue.
Of course, if you don't want to make any more attempts, then don't, but please don't "warn" everyone else based on such a limited set of experiences.
Conversely, and not to be rude, it may be your expectations or your behavior that is the problem.. you won't know until you explore it.


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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/21/2011 5:11:12 AM   
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You still not finished here...

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/26/2011 4:01:25 PM   
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"i am of the opinion that poly is in most cases a total mess and people should indeed think long and hard before venturing into territory that might better be enjoyed as a fantasy." ~ Ranja

I'm responding to more than just the above quote.

I'm of the opinion that most human interactions have the intense probability to be a total mess. I've always felt like the widespread aversion towards Poly, even within alternative communities, only exists because of social programming and not because of the facts. I expect most people here are westerners and as such the program from day one is that any diversion from traditional "fidelity" is always "infidelity." We have no standards for that type of thinking in any other kind of intimate relationship other than sexuality and romantic relationships.

Quantitatively, I would be far more worried about people making the choice to marry a singular individual, exist in a monogamous relationship and haphazardly hope that somehow both parties can stave off boredom and utter contempt for a lifetime. The numbers back that up.

But I'm not picking sides here. I don't think the problem is "Monogamy vs. Polyfidelity" or what have you. I think the problem is most people are tremendously stupid when it comes to finding, picking and dealing with the right partners no matter what type of relationship they choose. That's not to say I don't think Poly should be the norm, because I absolutely do.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/26/2011 4:12:01 PM   
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Coming from a certain "Rants" group on another site, this thread is fucking hilarious, thank you all.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/26/2011 4:12:51 PM   
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I'm glad you were entertained, Monster.  In addition, it's good to see you back.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/27/2011 2:30:01 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MisterMonster

Coming from a certain "Rants" group on another site, this thread is fucking hilarious, thank you all.


As some of my posts still stand i feel the compliment is addressed to me too... thank you MisterMonster

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/28/2011 11:51:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm glad you were entertained, Monster.  In addition, it's good to see you back.


I'm honored to be welcomed!

And of course, Ranja. Give yourself a bro-fist, me to you! ;)


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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/29/2011 8:36:40 AM   
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Thank you MisterMonster... i am bro-fisting haha

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/29/2011 8:55:12 AM   
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"i am of the opinion that poly is in most cases a total mess and people should indeed think long and hard before venturing into territory that might better be enjoyed as a fantasy." ~ Ranja

I agree with that, but some people make it work, there is currently a thread up how LDR are doomed for failure, well, it worked for me even if "in most cases" it ends up a total mess. Any relationship is always only as strong as the weakest person in it, with poly you might have a greater chance of "weaker links" simply by numbers, but if you get a bunch of strong people who all have the same goals and aren't overly jealous, I can see it working - as I said before, it wouldn't work for me, but ice cream and chocs don't work for me, I hate both - some people think it's heavenly...



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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/29/2011 8:24:35 PM   
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I have seen plenty of poly households work

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/30/2011 4:21:39 PM   
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Chalk up one failed poly relationship for me (._.)

But I don't think the concept is inherently doomed ^^ just didn't work this time

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 5/31/2011 3:14:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze



"i am of the opinion that poly is in most cases a total mess and people should indeed think long and hard before venturing into territory that might better be enjoyed as a fantasy." ~ Ranja

I agree with that, but some people make it work, there is currently a thread up how LDR are doomed for failure, well, it worked for me even if "in most cases" it ends up a total mess. Any relationship is always only as strong as the weakest person in it, with poly you might have a greater chance of "weaker links" simply by numbers, but if you get a bunch of strong people who all have the same goals and aren't overly jealous, I can see it working - as I said before, it wouldn't work for me, but ice cream and chocs don't work for me, I hate both - some people think it's heavenly...




For the record: i never said it couldn't or wouldn't work and i believe everybody should go about their own life the way that suits them best...
and everybody makes mistakes
sometimes going poly is a mistake sometimes it isn't
sometimes cheating is a mistake and sometimes it isn't

and every so often it is a good idea to take a step back and reconsider your position, people change over time

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 6/6/2011 1:16:14 PM   
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Humans are just animals, if Lions can do it so can we.
The problem with poly is the person who has jealousy in their hearts , selfishness.  The problem will always rely on the nay sayers because they were not meant for such a life of freedom and security.  They cannot handle such interactions. They make better love birds. But when one love bird dies, so does tho other .

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 6/6/2011 1:46:34 PM   
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Its an age old situation,one is willing to go along with it to please the other person and not "poly mature" that just says there were some issues for the person to agree without fully realizing they may not be ready.I always took my subs in Cali to the Hot Tubs for the introduction and waited in the lobby for them to get to know each other(naked of course).Removing the desire to please the Domme from the situation has allowed some people to be honest about their feelings.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 6/9/2011 5:33:43 PM   
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surprise, she has ran away, anyone without the fortitude to handle a little criticism about there name certainly lacks the fortitude to make it a poly setting 

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 6/11/2011 4:03:34 PM   
yours4u2use


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are you, in fact, referring to me....i am sorry, even slaves are allowed vacations......What exactly would you like to know? 

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 6/12/2011 7:00:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Jazzsession

Humans are just animals, if Lions can do it so can we.



Some of us might actually fancy ourselves thinking beings and individuals, closer to primates than to felines. If we can do everything lions can, then when was the last time you hunted gazelles with your pride and lived outside in Africa? Ooops, I forgot, the male lions don't hunt... And how does that work then, you mean like lions only males can have several females?

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 6/12/2011 10:20:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: yours4u2use

okay, thank you for your opinion in this matter.....,my feelings are utterly ridiculous...and i deserve what i got






I don't believe that is true and I hope you don't either. I think making an opinion statement based on your real world experience is a good thing even if after such a "small sample". I mean, just how many relationships must you experience before you can state your opinion and start a thread? The answer is as many as YOU think is needed and I respect that.

Now, I suspect you think most poly relationships do come with jealosy challenges that one must expect and be wary of and be prepared to deal with when considering starting a poly house. If so, how did you deal with them?

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