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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/18/2011 3:07:04 PM

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This, all of it:

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Dear OP,
How many times have you . . .

There was this cute little bunny in bondage . . .

and the bunny queued a "bolt of lightning from the gods of the bleedin' obvious"
. . . so I spelled out the obvious.

Apparently the bunny wasn't able to type all that shit up. It seems they were all tied up at the time.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/18/2011 3:13:54 PM

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Poor lil precious bunny, you must be a sadist or something!!

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/18/2011 3:43:25 PM

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Harsh words but right on the button.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/18/2011 4:10:09 PM

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The author of this thread is being a disrespectful brat in the guise of a victim. If I'm handing out constructive personal advice to rude brat, I will do so with an admonishing tone. Hence the harshness you sense.

I wouldn't normally have replied to troll bait like this. But so many others I do respect were spending the effort to reply sincerely, the thread had genuine content. I wrote the letter more for the readers than the OP really. I suspect she won't get it no matter what we say and I certainly don't expect her to stop blaming others, stand accountable for the bullshit fake warning OP and extend apologies for being a snippy little shit.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 5:38:27 AM

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jealousy always rears its ugly head

I would say this is true with regard to 99% of the relationships BUT that's not necessarily the bad or ugly thing the OP is making it out to be. Its how the parties handle it that makes the difference. They can either work through it and come out stronger or they can not and then it will be come ugly.

All in all, jealousy isn't necessarily the issue and not always a bad thing but instead is a symptom of something and that isn't necessarily the issue either -- the way it is handled is usually what defines it as good, bad or ugly.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 5:49:02 AM

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Interesting...

your experience, isn't it?

perhaps you don't make good choices?

interesting...
i believe i have read post from your hand about jealousy issues with a partner and deciding not to see the third person anymore for a while
... am i wrong?

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 5:52:54 AM

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I doubt all subs/slaves have your issues, so why would they want to live their lives based on your mistakes?

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 5:54:42 AM

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Apparently the bunny wasn't able to type all that shit up. It seems they were all tied up at the time.

Course I was.

I'm a bondage bunny

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 6:12:25 AM

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RS, you're pretty spot on with the comments here.

I do have to say that I find this thread a bit ironic. If we took a parallel to one that might have befallen other boards regarding "warnings" of lifestyle choices, they go down the drain pretty quick, too. Had the thing read "subs you are really just being abused by people calling themselves sadists," there wouldn't be folks popping in saying, "oh, you might be right". We've had those kinds of threads on the General board and even those who don't actively participate in S/m don't jump on the bandwagon to say that a way of life is wrong. If this same OP had hit a different board saying that her two involvements in D/s hadn't worked out due to picking bad partners, there wouldn't be anyone blaming the lifestyle choice or saying it only works out for a very few. Such comments are quite laughable to those of us who have been involved in the poly community to any degree.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 6:31:52 AM

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I would say that the op is fairly spot on.

You jump down the op's throat without considering that the op is probably correct in his/her assumptions.

I personally think that people who are healthy should avoid poly.

I don't think the numbers add up no matter the size of the group you are testing.

Maybe a few people have made it a successful venture. So what? They seem to be in a tremendous minority. Then you have to look at the players involved. Just because I can get more than one person under my roof doesn't mean that they belong there. Quality should always take precedent over quantity.

Too often it seems that is not how it seems poly works out here. People routinely take in the damaged that feel that any attention is better than none.

It's hard enough to find just one person out here that has not been dragged though the shit of life and maintained a level head, now try and buck those odds by finding another or more?

highly implausible.

It just depends on how much shit I am willing to swallow as the Dom to get another cunt and pair of tits into my bed.

Homie don't play like dat.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 6:56:12 AM

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i was being facetious...

No. You were being a passive aggressive twit. There is a difference.

As for the topic. I have had relationships end ( I will NEVER say fail with regard to relationships!) with both genders. Monogamous and poly.

According to the OP.........I am sooooooooooooo screwed and not in a good way!

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 7:01:49 AM

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I would say that the op is fairly spot on.

You jump down the op's throat without considering that the op is probably correct in his/her assumptions.

I personally think that people who are healthy should avoid poly.

I don't think the numbers add up no matter the size of the group you are testing.

Maybe a few people have made it a successful venture. So what? They seem to be in a tremendous minority. Then you have to look at the players involved. Just because I can get more than one person under my roof doesn't mean that they belong there. Quality should always take precedent over quantity.

Too often it seems that is not how it seems poly works out here. People routinely take in the damaged that feel that any attention is better than none.

It's hard enough to find just one person out here that has not been dragged though the shit of life and maintained a level head, now try and buck those odds by finding another or more?

highly implausible.

It just depends on how much shit I am willing to swallow as the Dom to get another cunt and pair of tits into my bed.

Homie don't play like dat.

Any possibility that homie ain't poly so he might just have a prejudice? Same as he does for the kink community, F/m dynamics, and a few other subjects?

The very fact that poly is a good relationship framework for some (doesn't matter if you consider them "few" or not) means that the OP isn't correct in the assumption at all. What? You want folks who are successfully engaged in their version of poly to pat the OP on the head and say that the post is correct, even when we've proven that it works for us? Sorry. Not happening.

This isn't to say that I think everybody is cut out for poly. If you're not, here's a bright idea....... Don't do it. At the same time, don't assume that just because you couldn't cut it doesn't mean that some of us aren't cut out precisely for it. That's where the healthy part comes in. Knowing yourself, knowing the people you are sharing your life with, and what the best choices are.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 7:10:44 AM

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Then you have to make the leap to suggest that the players are healthy of mind and spirit.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 7:17:07 AM

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Are you attempting to imply that I am unhealthy in some way? You could always pull that 'you're a sadist, so you're demented' card. Might be a rough venue for it.

Isn't that kind of what people should be looking for in partners whether they are monogamous or poly? That they be healthy in mind and spirit, or at least attempting to be? That pretty much brings us back full circle to what I said to the OP in the first place.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 7:32:38 AM

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"getting involved with a couple....i have done it twice....the second time, i was convinced they were different....

You know, no matter how great they sound, jealousy always rears its ugly head."

When I got into S&M 3 years an 5 months ago.

I spoke to my Dom of meeting a sub/slave Girl, as he had said before he'd like to be with two subs before he got married.
He was amazed to see me delighted at the thought of playing with another woman and that I was interested in seeing him with another woman.

Yeah there comes a line that noone ever wants to cross, which is the line of trust, honesty and boundaries!!

I've never cheated on even a b.f. in my life and I've never cheated on my Dom.
I'm 28 years old now not a teenager and even when I was a teenager, I always stayed loyal to whoever I dated.
If I've ever met a girl online and wanted to play with her, I always tell him about her first!
I have had guys ask me out in person and online and each time I say I'm not interested,
sometimes they ask a few days later to see if I've changed my mind and then I have to say "I'm with a guy" and that has the guys knowing to just leave me alone.

Polyamourous lives are only for those who know how to treat each other like mature adults.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 7:36:02 AM

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No. I have no idea about the psychological make up of those that participate out here.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 7:47:14 AM

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No. I have no idea about the psychological make up of those that participate out here.

We'll have to split the difference then. I'm not going to sit here and say that I'm going to vouch for the stability, ethical standards, and everything else that you (general you) can come up with concerning everybody who is calling themselves poly. I'd gladly let you call Me on it if I tried.

What I do think happens more often than not is that folks don't really know the person/people they are getting involved with. They don't always take the time when they are caught up in a new situation to really see if those pretty words and promises are backed up by actions. It doesn't take a genius to snow somebody into thinking whatever they are embarking on is going to be soooo great (poly, D/s, whatever) if someone is just blindly following along.

Anyway, probably a whole different subject.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 7:58:34 AM

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I really don't care enough to pursue this conversation.

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 8:32:33 AM

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It just depends on how much shit I am willing to swallow as the Dom to get another cunt and pair of tits into my bed.

Homie don't play like dat.

Master Husband thinks along the same lines... and He does not think at all about the possibility of another dick and pair of balls in his bed unfortunately... or even me looking for another bed with a different dick and pair of balls in it...

i think i am a monogamous woman stuck in a poly body
the suffering is immense, but He is worth it

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RE: i urge all sub/slaves to seriously reconsider - 4/19/2011 8:34:04 AM

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I really don't care enough to pursue this conversation.

Bit off more than you can chew eh?

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