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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/23/2011 12:24:48 PM   
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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/23/2011 12:26:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

Yes Luci, I have had broken bones, burns, cuts...some deliberate, some accidental. However, this was really an accident on both our parts. I was not paying much attention to him...in the zone and all...when he dragged the knife down my side, I jerked pretty hard, which caused the knife to slice into me.

One other thing to remember...when we participated in knife play, it always ended with blood (cutting)...that was my thing.

I was having a hard time imagining how it happened but, yeah, a drag down the side could defiitely rack up the stitches, obviously. Glad it wasn't worse than it ended up being. And...as for there always ending up being cutting/blood with knife play, same here. I don't see the point (for us) otherwise

I always enjoy reading about your relationship/experiences with your husband. Though I am not nearly the masochist you are, he reminds me alot of my ex-husband (who'd probably never heard of BDSM and wouldn't have liked it if he did). He was just a brute and violent and unfortunately drew me like a magnet...........luci



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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/23/2011 3:48:05 PM   
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I used to try to please everybody so I can "fit in"... Now , I am just me (not in a "fuck everybody way")

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/23/2011 6:45:19 PM   
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I am perfect I make no mistakes. Hehe.

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/23/2011 7:18:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

I stabbed a girl in the ass.


WHEN will I learn not to attempt drinking while reading posts here?  It's a royal pain having to clean the computer screen.....

There definitely seems to be two distinct categories arising from my query.  The "Dumb Dom" (thanks for that link) moments that, even though it might have been potentially life-threatening, are easily forgiven and even treated with humor, and the dark, emotionally scarring episodes.  However, they're both facets that are a very real part of the risks, and both are definitely worth reading and learning from.

In retrospect, I am even more relieved that I ended that relationship once I discovered how unstable she was, or I might have a horror story to tell instead of a lesson learned and disaster averted.

But damn, stabbing a girl in the ass while going for the gold is a hard one to top....

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/24/2011 4:57:02 AM   
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My very first experience with BDSM was probably my worst mistake. The girl told me she was submissive and into BDSM and let me know she wanted to play. So a while later in the living room, without warning, I slapped the hell out of her, thinking she would magically turn into some sort of masochistic genie in a bottle who would grant me every pleasure I had ever desired. What I actually got was a pissed woman who attacked me with both hands, feet, mouth and every other body part she had. I was like, "What's wrong?"

Somehow we got past that less than lustrous beginning and she taught me to go just a tadbit slower.

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/24/2011 6:39:14 AM   
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Both of us underestimated what a klutz I am. He had me standing in high heels, with arms tied behind my back to the beam overhead. I fell off the heels and wrenched the arm badly. Took over two months before it was noticeably healed, six months before it was back to normal. 

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/24/2011 7:38:15 AM   
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As a Submissive, I think my worse mistake was with my first dominant, I ended up giving him too much too soon, it didn't make anything dangerous but I was giving him immediately too much of myself. Submitting and testing my limits in ways I normally wouldn't within the first two weekes, being he and I rushed things from the first time we met. While we continued meeting throughout the months, for me it was something really serious being I'd submit to him in way I wouldn't to anyone else, for him it was just casual playing. By the time I wanted something more serious, he was backing away and the trust became an huge issue. It lead to me leaving him when I realized he had someone else. In the future he had wanted to get back together but I refused him being from the beginning the trust level just didn't work out. From that relationship (I shall call it) I learned not to rush into something when I really don't know the person nor to make him an obligation and priority when I am not the same to him. I learned to take my time and realized if someone doesn't take their time with me,its someone I'd prefer not to slowly submit to.

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/24/2011 4:41:32 PM   
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Biggest/worst mistake?



I ordered soup instead of salad... still scarred by that decision -- it haunts me daily.



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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/26/2011 10:04:03 AM   
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Meeting a Dom through obligation while ignoring the red flags. Luckily no major harm done but lesson learned

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/27/2011 12:29:35 AM   
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Hmm biggest mistake.. following a slave on a journey through hell. Although I did meet some nice folks that were in this area of interest. What happened after Virginia.. yeah, never going to happen again.

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/27/2011 3:16:51 AM   
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When the ropes too tight, the hands go numb, never leave the nipple clamps on for too long, use the bathroom before we start, and most of all fantasies leave out the details of all the "things that can go wrong".

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/28/2011 7:16:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: txironhead

I am a very firm believer in learning from other people's mistakes,

That, in my experience, would make you a member of a true minority group.

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/28/2011 3:12:15 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlondSlave

quote:

ORIGINAL: txironhead

I am a very firm believer in learning from other people's mistakes,

That, in my experience, would make you a member of a true minority group.



This coming from a guy with a pistola in his mouth??? Darwin award winner. Round here we treat every gun as if it's loaded

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 4/28/2011 3:37:24 PM   
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Two:
Not correcting a new sub when I was exhausted and jetlagged from a trans-Pacific flight. It took a week to re-establish balance, where both of us knew what to expect.
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Finding out how much endorphins prevent ME from feeling MY pain: I'm always careful about that effect with subs, but not myself. I was Taking a good man with a strapon, really drilling him with abandon. But unbeknownst to me, I'd torn the deltoid ligament in my wrist from tripoding on a concrete floor, which I didn't feel at all until my pleasure hormones started to fizzle after my second orgasm.

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 5/2/2011 1:58:35 AM   
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I can fortunately say the worst mistake I ever made with my wonderfully submissive ex was not knowing my own strength. I'm a large man and very strong and she was fairly small even for a woman and in the situation it happened I got a little too enthusiastic as we were messing around. It hurt her mildly thankfully but it also served to teach me that due to my natural strength I must always pay close attention to the level of force I use. She was just fine and she laughed it off but it served as a valuable lesson in treating the fantastic woman that kneel before you with the appropriate amount of care. 

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 5/2/2011 2:54:23 PM   
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I rarely view anything as a mistake as most things for me are lessons.
That said.. I did make a mistake a bit over a decade ago.
I met this man at a local Holiday Inn who had come up to meet me when he was in town on a police conference. We had discussed a possible encounter of spanking/strapping while he was here. I met him in the hotel bar and after gauging him a while, I went up to his room.
We had already set the boundries ahead of our meeting. No sex, no stimulation of either his genitals or mine, and the requirement of cuddling and affection after the spanking.

All was good. He was someone I had chatted with online for about 8 months. I had all his data saved on my desk at home.. and may I say it is great doing a cop because they have cards and contact info handy.

I went into the elevator and up we went. As we got there two gentlemen were entering a room together in the room next to his. I made eye contact with one so he might remember my face... just in case.

Jim and I entered his room where he quickly grabbed me and before I knew it I was handcuffed with arms behind me. My skirt was roughly pulled up over my hips. He asked me how hard I could handle. He asked if I minded a belt. I told him I wasn't sure how hard I could take it but I would let him know when it was too much, and that belts were preferable to hands (somehow hand spankings seem more intimate to me).

I was shoved down over the bottom of the bed face first with my ass up and ready for a beating. I heard the belt slip through his trousers, I heard him whisper in my ear "it's too late now." And I felt the first strike. It was sharp and harder than I expected. My fingers flailed somewhat trying to cover my ass but the handcuffs prevented much protection. Then he asked me if that was too hard. I said, I might need a warmup. And so he gave me one. One strike after the other first medium then harder. And he stopped. I was just getting warmed up and not quite ready to end things. But he said.
"Oh oh."
I asked him what? Thinking ok, maybe he has cut my skin..
But instead he says, "I don't think I have the handcuff keys."
My eyes went wide. lol this was the first time in 20 yrs I have used metal cuffs and I knew I didn't have a key that would work. My mind raced thinking of having some fireman having to cut off my cuffs on an emergency call. Then he said, "I have an extra pair in the trunk of my car. Do you mind if I go down to get them?"
What was I going to say? lol I had to say yes that's a good idea. So, he left.

In the meantime my mind is racing with various senarios. I have a creative mind and it thinks of diabolical things in a rapid fashion. I thought, what if he doesn't come back? I considered the 2 men next door.. I could call out to them or maybe butt my head against the wall and call out to them so they might help get me out of this mess. And then I thought it was probably not the best plan since there were 2 of them and here I was with my skirt pulled up to my waist with my hands cuffed behind me.

The minutes ticked by... It seemed like a LONG time! In actuality I have no idea how much time passed but I was starting to get nervous. So, doing what I do best, I wriggled my way out of the cuffs. I could feel my flesh rubbed raw by the metal. I had twisted, tugged, pulled on them until I found my escape. My hands were red and sore.
And then I heard him come up to the door. I didn't want him to know I had escaped. I didn't want to reveal I was nervous about him leaving me behind.

And here is where I made my mistake.
I did not know that handcuffs just needed to be pushed closed in order to put them back on. If I had known that I would have just flipped them back and gotten back in, clasping them closed. Instead in my lack of knowlege I shoved my hands back through an opening, pushing my sore reddened flesh into a space which seemed much smaller now. I don't think he ever knew I had them off.

The rest of the evening went fine. We both got our needs met and as promised there was no sex but a lot of cuddling afterward.


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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 5/3/2011 8:37:33 AM   
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Lost opportunity; denying someone for whatever reason.  A bad option is better than no option at all.  Now, I never tell anyone I won't play with them because I think I can do better, or that I'm not going to do something because of society or achaic rules.

I had a slave, a 16 y/o, who I'd never actually met.  I eventually broke off all contact because she was so young, too young - illegal.  Well, a few years have passed, and she ain't too young NOW!

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RE: Biggest/worst mistake? - 5/3/2011 8:07:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: txironhead
Subs, what is the worst that has happened to you?  On any level, mental/physical/emotional/legal/etc.


i chose to continue following someone who was heavily conflicted about their desire to lead me.  It was messy, by the end of it all, to be sure.

i allowed someone to tie me up who didn't have a proper understanding of potential nerve damage when binding arms.  i still have difficulty, on occasion, gripping things.  i had nerve damage in one arm from a childhood accident, this simply exacerbated it.  No chopsticks for monkey *shame face*


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