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Safely meeting - 4/25/2011 11:46:03 AM

lunaticlorraine

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Well I guess this belongs here, as it is about safety.
I have an online Domme, and am hoping to meet her very soon.
I adore and trust her completely. I am not going to go into it, but I can usually catch people out if they are fakes or dangerous. I dont get any of these kind of vibes from her at all.
I was just wondering what sort of precaussions I should take when meeting her?
I would like it to be as safe as possible, even if I do trust her completely.

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RE: Safely meeting - 4/25/2011 12:44:03 PM

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Guessing this first face-to-face meeting is just a meeting, and not planned to be more than that. First, consider holding the meeting in a public place so that you have others around and can walk away without incident if you get a bad vibe. If you have someone who knows what you are doing, or is willing to have your back without asking too many questions, have them call you about 15 minutes into the scheduled meeting to see that you are ok, and arrange to call them back at an arranged time later to confirm your status.

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RE: Safely meeting - 4/25/2011 1:09:50 PM

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Yes it is suposed to be just a simple meeting, although we both would wish it to be more.
But would that be safe also? I don't just want to meet her, I want her. Badly. I adore her and need to be with her. But maybe my feeling are clouding my judgment? I dont know.
We are meeting in a public place, as she is going to be meeting me at the train-station. And I have asked that we stay in a public place for quite some time.
I actually have a friend coming with me. I am no good at travel, and since I am going to be catching about 3 different trains, there is a high chance that alone I could get lost. My friend doesnt know the nature of our relationship, or that we're in a relationship at all, since my Domme is Poly. My friend has agreed to be there, but not directly involved, simply in the background keeping an eye on us. 'Hopefully' out of earshot ;)
I do adore my Domme, very much so. But that is why I have posted this here, as my feelings could very well be clouding my judgment.

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RE: Safely meeting - 4/25/2011 2:18:36 PM

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Sounds like you have the precautions for this first meeting very well in hand. Just stay the course and stick to your plan. If you two are right for each other you will both know it, and the time for a private meeting will come soon enough. Plus the anticipation will just add to that first time together.

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RE: Safely meeting - 4/25/2011 2:42:51 PM

lunaticlorraine

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Okies. But I must admit that I am a pretty impatiant person. lol

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