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personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/9/2011 5:56:57 PM

mech1nomics

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as a sub/slave what is your personal philosophy and how did you come to the point of making the conscience choice to be a sub/slave

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RE: personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/9/2011 6:32:35 PM

littlewonder

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I am a submissive personality. He is a dominant personality. We both found a connection together as people. He turns me on and his personality, morals, values, etc...mesh with mine.

It's that simple really.

It's not something I sat and thought about. It just is that way.

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RE: personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/9/2011 7:19:06 PM

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as a sub/slave what is your personal philosophy and how did you come to the point of making the conscience choice to be a sub/slave

It's not all as complicated as that. I was pretty new to CollarMe and just hanging out, chatting with some folks, waiting to see what might happen. Out of the blue, He contacted me and we talked online for hours about everything BUT sex and BDSM. I fell for Him. He fell for me. We hooked up, moved in together after about a year and got married about a year after that. No real conscious choice to be a sub/slave. Just a conscious choice to love Him and make Him happy while also making ME happy

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RE: personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/9/2011 7:31:45 PM

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You are incorrect in believing that it is a choice. If it were, then I could just as easily have chosen to be dominant and have a couple of sub males to do my cleaning and gardening and chauffeur me around.

It isn't a choice. It takes huge amounts of energy for me to be the decision maker, the leader and it leaves me a wreck afterwards. I have always done better with a strong man who wants not just the rights but also the responsibilities. If I couldn't have this in the relationship, then I would do better without any relationship.

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RE: personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/9/2011 7:59:12 PM

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Mech1nomics,
I know that you're new, but you probably should learn how to use the search function. You're asking a lot of questions that are very basic, and that have been answered a million times.

I'm not trying to stifle conversation, but you've asked things like "what's the difference between a pro domme and a lifestyle domme?" Google and the search function here on CM are both your friends.

Hope my comment doesn't offend you. Welcome to CM.

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RE: personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/9/2011 11:38:17 PM

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I never did make a conscious choice. Never will. We both do what comes naturally to each of us. So far we are 5 years and counting so I guess that works well for us.

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RE: personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/10/2011 9:39:15 AM

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I never had to make that choice i am submissive it is not just what i am it's who i am. Was born wired that way.

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RE: personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/10/2011 9:50:32 AM

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as a sub/slave what is your personal philosophy and how did you come to the point of making the conscience choice to be a sub/slave

Carol has no philosophy, or even interest really, regarding subs & slaves. She never exactly made a conscience choice. What happened was she married a dominant guy (me). When the dominant guy ran into BDSM and found out that he could have a slave, he told her that's what he wanted and she became that because it pleased him.

In truth, I think Carol became "mine" when we married. While neither of us had any of the BDSM words, I think she knew that long before I did. Perhaps not quite so clearly as she knows it now, but somewhere in her heart I think she was mine from the get go.

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RE: personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/10/2011 10:11:03 AM

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My personal philosophy is that ultimately it is my responsibility to maintain my health, safety, and integrity. How did I get that? The School of Hard Knocks.

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RE: personal philosophy and the conscience choice - 5/10/2011 12:00:37 PM

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I think to fall for a dom in the first place, you kind of have to be into being dominated, whether or not you are conscious of that being something you're into. So I met him, we fell in love, never having spoken of kinks or lifestyles, and once he knew I was already his, he told me 'I am a dom, and you are my sub,' and that was that. 10 years later we're a boring old almost-married couple, and we may not get all that freaky all that often nowadays, but we both still know who the boss is.

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