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sunshinemiss -> RE: Best way to get a female sub/slaves attention (5/18/2011 2:40:43 AM)

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Start a thread. ;)



... and then you know.... stay with the thread, read the answers and respond...




HannahLynHeather -> RE: Bets way to get a female sub/slaves attention (5/18/2011 8:00:25 AM)

don't know what to tell you. i almost never write people in order to start any sort of relationship. i write a lot of folks out of the blue because i perv profiles, and i almost always get a response. we usually exchange an email or two and that's the extent of it. but that's all i'm after, so its all good. i've written commenting on their profile, i've written commenting on a picture, or on their tits....whatever caught my eye. i've commented positively and negatively, but almost always get a reply.

hannah lynn




littleone35 -> RE: Bets way to get a female sub/slaves attention (5/18/2011 11:23:21 AM)

Many prople don't respond to one liners so make sure you write more then "hi how you doing?" Many people would just delete that and say "next".

Matt's littleone




aromanholiday -> RE: Bets way to get a female sub/slaves attention (5/18/2011 4:16:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Write a letter that is drawn from their profile or posts on the forum.  Sending a one-size-fits-all letter to every woman will get your letter deleted for sure.

For example, take a look at GreedyTop's profile.  If I knew nothing about her and wanted to message her out of the blue, I would say open with  "Hi there!", and then ask something like:

What do you mean when you say you're owned by cats?
You say you're into museums.  What kind?
You say you like to read.  Who are your favorite authors?

And get used to the fact that 90+% of women will still not respond to a message out of the blue.



I agree, if you are going to initiate contact, asking intelligent questions that are relevant to your target is one of the very best things you can do. Most people love to talk about themselves and are flattered by this form of attention. Other people feel obligated to answer questions when they receive them: it's an unconscious rule they follow, which makes question asking a great way to get your foot in the door. Finally, the women on this site are starved for serious questions. When I had profiles on personal ad sites, despite a lot of provocative text that many questions could be asked about, maybe one in every 200-300 emails would ask me a question and of those questioning emails, maybe one out of 10 was a serious question and not some idiot trying to be belligerent or "smart" or score points off me or ridicule me. It's extremely rare that anybody does this (ask serious and sincerely meant questions). And of those hundreds of men that have written me one-liners, pasted form letters, tried the belligerent approach, tried the humorous approach, dumped hills of flattery on me (some women like this but those of us who aspire to slavery often find it intensely repugnant), tried to scold me (those amateurish attempts to neg a complete stranger via email cracked me up! [:D]), I never got as far as a phone conversation with any of them. There was nothing about their approaches that led me to believe they could even perhaps maybe master me.

Your emails will stand out as long as the questions are not so obviously generic that the person you write thinks they are part of a form letter. Write only the people who really interest you, and take time and care to ask intelligent questions and also show you understand what they said. I do all of these things when I write dominants and I have a very high response rate. Sure, you will still get a lot of airheads and emotionally ill women who will brush you off for no reason whatsoever, I got the male dom versions of those too, but you will tremendously increase your chances of a sane person writing you back if you give them a reason to write back. Questions offer them that reason. You'd do the same in person, wouldn't you, to try to bring a socially shy person out of their shell? IMO, gunshy is still shy. ;)




FirBAC -> RE: Bets way to get a female sub/slaves attention (5/18/2011 10:22:53 PM)


Thanks for all this advice, I'll re-do my profile and get some input.

D




tazzygirl -> RE: Bets way to get a female sub/slaves attention (5/18/2011 11:47:34 PM)

If I may offer one more piece of advice.... when looking at profiles, read the whole profile... not all of us proclaim we are in relationships in the very first sentence.




theRose4U -> RE: Best way to get a female sub/slaves attention (5/19/2011 6:51:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

quote:

Start a thread. ;)



... and then you know.... stay with the thread, read the answers and respond...



lol but look at meeeeeee and obey posts are so much simpler. If they don't respond to whining in droves you then post about how 90%of us are fake under another id [:'(]




MasterMLT66 -> RE: Bets way to get a female sub/slaves attention (5/23/2011 6:40:44 AM)

I also find that having a good profile text is important as well. Just blabing out that you want to dominate someone will not be enticing to them. Think about what you are really all about and putting that into text helps to shows them that you are not just all about sex, but that there is a real side to you as well ... unless all you want to protray about yourself is that you are just here for sex.




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