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Mainman661 -> RE: Ignore your sub? (6/16/2011 12:43:52 PM)
I've only used ignoring as a severe punishment once. 24 hours. She was not to serve me at all. No tasks, no calling me Master, no following of any of my rules. It was very brutal for her, I could tell. A few hours in she was begging for forgiveness and I refused until those 24 hours were up where we discussed whether she really wanted to serve me or not. I would only ever use ignoring as a final resort to sinking in just how severe the transgression is. I would never use it as a form of discipline or play. The exception of waiting patiently, in my line of sight or within reach of me, while I finished something else.

Bstardsbitch -> RE: Ignore your sub? (6/18/2011 7:20:25 AM)
Ignore me often enough and I shall be gone when you turn around lol xx

Charnegui -> RE: Ignore your sub? (6/18/2011 7:32:50 AM)
Oke, now I understand..... my mom was a domme, she'd ignore me for days when I was a child...... Ignoring someone is not done... you can do it, but make sure your sub knows it's part of the 'game'

SlaveOwner9 -> RE: Ignore your sub? (6/20/2011 3:53:46 PM)
The OP is lacking detail..... Is he refusing to reply to numerous emails you've sent, even after actually reading your mails? Or is he just deleting your emails without reading them? How long has this been going on?

dmarc -> RE: Ignore your sub? (6/20/2011 4:05:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt Ignoring one's sub is, unfortunately, a very common punishment in the online world of desk top doms and wannabes. A good and experienced dominant knows ignoring your sub is one of the harshest punishments there is, and only does it as a lost resort, and with due warning (i.e."If you continue in this manner, I shall have to ignore you for the rest of the evening"). This is well said, ignoring a sub in my book is simply not a suitable form of punishment, after all punishment is about teaching and helping a sub improve her relationship with her Owner. So if you don't understand what you have done wrong and there is no clear sign of the recovery of the feeling of being ignored. Its then just a failure of communication. Its unfortunate but then it shows you the truth about the skill of your possible Owner. Just my 2 cents

analyticalmaster -> RE: Ignore your sub? (6/20/2011 4:39:13 PM)
Like everyone else advised you, more data is required. If he simply stopped talking to you without a real explanation, I would consider that a problem. It is the equivalent of him running away because he doesn't understand how to handle you. If however he told you he was going to not respond to you for a given period time, as a punishment, because you did x, y or z, that would be understandable. My method for ignoring a sub is the typical classic one, I favor corner time, nose in the corner, usually stripped with no music, no tv, nothing but the instruction to think about what the sub has done to displease me. I consider this to be valid punishment and usually more severe than a simple beating.

UberBrat -> RE: Ignore your sub? (6/25/2011 11:40:56 AM)
I know if my Master ever ignored me, I would be absolutely devastated - that I had made him so angry/disappointed him so much that he didn't even want to talk to me, or allow me to try to make up for whatever I'd done. He has never done this, and I truly hope he never does - i think it would probably really hurt. If he wanted to ignore me for whatever reason, and he explained that reason to me, and I knew it wasn't my fault (say, he was going to be really busy for a week), i might be upset, and I know i would miss him, but that would be okay. If I'd brought it on myself, i just know i'd be extremely upset. I think "corner time" is slightly different from simply ignoring though. My Dom has never given me "corner time", as we use corporal punishment when I do something wrong, however if he put me in the corner, telling me how long I'd be there for, I think that would be so much easier to cope with than just being ignored (although, of course, it would still not be nice).

UberBrat -> RE: Ignore your sub? (7/4/2011 6:05:41 PM)
I did something wrong tonight and I am, effectively, being ignored until the morning. Although I had known, and expected, that if I ever received this punishment it would be upsetting, it hurts more than I had imagined. I am completely in two minds, as to whether to continually apologise, and almost beg for forgiveness, just so I am not ignored, or to wait until tomorrow to speak to him. I don't know what he would prefer either. I feel horrible, and just wish he wasn't annoyed with me; i have let him down.

fadedshadow -> RE: Ignore your sub? (7/4/2011 7:36:05 PM)
if mistress ignored me, it would tear me apart.

climax2 -> RE: Ignore your sub? (8/30/2011 11:43:16 AM)
I haven't made a selection/decision for a dom. But I have had several doms that pursued, seemed to drop off the map, and then show back up again. I just don't have time for this. Sometimes I think it would be so much easier to say what you mean rather than play the dance.

MMasterMM -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 4:58:04 AM)
Shut up & listen

MMasterMM -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 5:04:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bstardsbitch Ignore me often enough and I shall be gone when you turn around lol xx yeah! Just maybe your being ignored; because you make someone feel ignored.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 8:35:14 AM)
How many pages back did you go to find this thread? And then to resurrect it only to make sarcastic comments?

OsideGirl -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 9:15:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MMasterMM Shut up & listen Speaking of which...maybe you should read the TOS. The admins frown on resurrecting threads this old.

DesFIP -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 9:23:04 AM)
And on being snarky in the forums just because someone you don't know from Adam didn't agree to your "kneel bitch" unwanted email.

kalikshama -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 9:23:52 AM)
snort

LaTigresse -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 9:24:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MMasterMM Shut up & listen Well aren't you just a precious little thang.

MadamDouceVoix -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 11:46:30 AM)
While admittedly, ignoring ANYone is a hardcore form of punishment, I do not find it, when unannounced, to be anything less than inhumane. Regardless of health issues, ignoring a sub without warning, can render him or her disoriented and worst case scenario, physically, mentally and emotionally impotent. Personally this is not something I would ever want to risk.

Mazterlock -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 3:35:19 PM)
Some submissives act out because they crave more and more serious punishment. Pain and humiliation are actually a "reward" that they seek by acting badly. This is a version of topping from the bottom and it can be confusing for the Master and destructive to the relationship. A very conscious and clear decision to make the submissive NOT the object of attention can be required and it can be good training. Telling a submissive to stand in a corner facing the wall and leaving her there for awhile is different than ignoring her but the core idea is to show the slave that acting badly will result in less attention to her instead of more. It's complicated, I know. But, this can be a necessary part of training, especially a pain slut who is also an attention whore.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Ignore your sub? (11/28/2011 3:59:55 PM)
There is a huge difference between letting someone know that due to their behavior, there will be no contact for "x" amount of time, and someone who just ignores someone with no explanation. While I don't find ignoring someone to be the least bit beneficial, the latter is more likely to cause someone to walk away. While acting out for attention may be confusing to the top, ignoring them is confusing to the bottom. That's a lose-lose proposition.

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