ZeroTolerance44
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ORIGINAL: ZeroTolerance44 Thank you. I will be ok, I`m not angry with her, more at myself, and sad. Self-anger usually translates to hurt. If you're hurt and sad about a meaningful relationship breaking up, that's a completely understandable human condition. You've had a significant loss. Grieve it and be kind to yourself. Imo, the 2 of you should have acknowledged that there was a problem (problems) and at least attempt to find and work on solutions, its not easy but imo, it is a step that should be done first to see if the relationship can be salvaged. But she instead decided to jump ship and once she decided to do that, she lied to you while she was attempting to find another meal ticket. That shows what she is about, that she was thinking only of herself and imo, if i were in your shoes, dam it, i would be mad at her, at least for her deceptions. But, on the other hand, now you know she was not a worthy sub, better you find that out now and good that she is gone. Ummm, she is gone now, isnt she? packed her bags and moved out or is she still there? She is not living here and hasn`t done since the day she left. . All, (well most), of her stuff is gone too. We have had some `talks` when she came over a few weeks ago. She says she still cares for me but has `feelings` for `him`, says she felt trapped in the relationship and never felt she could be `equal` in the relationship and gave me the proverbial....`it`s not you it`s me` line....! We will still see each other from time to time as I have to move from where I am living as it is her Aunties house.We were only housesitting and her Auntie wants the house back, that was always the case despite what has happened between me and her. We still have some shared items to distribute and I have some of my stuff stored at her parents place so we will inevitably bump into each other over the next couples of weeks or so as she dividing her time between living with her parent and going to see `him`. Her family...Mum, Dad, Brother, Aunties, Uncle and Cousins are ALL on my side, they are disgusted at what she has done. I still see and talk to her Mum and Auntie and they have been very supportive to me. I am making plans for my future, I am going to finally start my own business and I am also going to become a life coach/counselor. If one day her `new` relationship goes sour I would have her back but it will be on MY terms and she will have to regain my trust. I just wish she had talked to me about here doubts before she went off. I know she has lied and deceived me but she was my world for 4 years and apparently I hers, so it would be wrong not to at least try to salvage that. I won`t hang on and hold a torch for her though, I will be finally getting on with the things I have been wanting to do for ages. `Onwards and Upwards` Eh...! Thank you all for your comments, it helps me to know what others think. Garry.
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