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RE: about jeaulousy.. - 5/13/2006 4:16:43 PM

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Hello A/all

I read a review of something by Eric Idle (of Monty Python fame) where he described his reaction to the book as...

"I laughed until I stopped."

Emotions are what they are. In my classes I have seen students express all sorts of emotions.

But in the end, they did what had to be done.

I dont necessarily agree with the poster who claimed "jealousy is a mental illness." While it might be classified as such, I imagine there is a caveat somewhere that states that ANY BEHAVIOR OR EMOTION is a mental illness if it prevents a person from living their life.

To me, it is not what you have (be this money, or a harem, or drugs, or jealousy), it is what you do with it that matters.

Just me, probably wrong, but there you go.

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RE: about jeaulousy.. - 5/13/2006 5:19:13 PM

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Women are literally a dime a dozen. Do not think you can not be replaced, because you can. Any woman can (and likewise so can any man for that matter). I have several more of them waiting (they have expressed their interest) should I ever split with My wife, which is not going to happen hopefully. Several more want sex. She knows it too. She even said as much. She said that she knew damn well that if we split up today I would have another girlfriend tomorrow, and it is true, if that is what I wanted. She does not want to give Me up because she knows what she has, and if she turns her back on it someone else will gladly step up to take her place.

That is probably one of the main reasons I do not search on here. I do not have to, and I have no patience for nonsense. I guess it does sound a bit egotistical for Me to say all this, but I really am not. I just know the way it is and has been.

I truly believe I have found the one for Me, and I cherish her and love her with all My heart. I do not think about any other woman because I believe she is a gift to Me, so I spoil her rotten and treat her like My princess. However, if that fails, after I took some time to get over it and sort out any issues and deal with the emotional pain, I would move on in My search for Mrs. Right.

Which brings up the last point. For some reason I am able to bounce back quite quickly, more than likely because I was consistently exposed to sometimes severe trauma in My earlier years. It is like flicking a switch, although not quite. I have developed a method that I use to deal with things like this, and not just for girlfriends. It is very effective.

So yeah. If you are going to be My girlfriend, do not drag your baggage with you, do not be jealous, do not be a mental case (and there are more of them than not filling out personals on the internet) and be My equal. Do not treat Me like crap, do not choke the life out of Me and we will get along fine. I will put My all into the relationship and we will work to be as happy as possible. If you can not do that, you will be replaced. Just. Like. That.

SirKenin,

i do tolerate Your opinion and view.
i havent told that i would think i am not replacable - at least we all are more or less. but definitly i think and convinced about we are not replacable in our uniqueness.
if You see it like...( sorry for my words) a pussy is a pussy... then i do agree with You in based on the function.. but even there is a difference between all of them.
for me i am not seeking the function part of a relation, beside that i think a relation and therefor it doesnt matter what kind of relation it is - is based on emotions, personal feelings.. something who turns U/us on and let us hang there, work for and believe in.
even You as a Dom when talking about.. i am proud of her... gracefull.. whatever. how You define it?
Proudness - isn't that an emotion, a feeling?

and just about the baggage part. my present being is based on my past like my future will be based on the present. i am not a newborn baby and smelling the perfum of the air first time....
to say i would just leave that all behind would definitly demands from me i have to seperate feelings inside me and myself i would feel splitted.
i tend to give all of mine... i do not part just in pieces....

and i will totally disagree with You when You express that being jeaulous (doesnt matter right now in which case) will be connected that the same person treat You like crap automatically.

i prefer a lot when my Dom is dealing with me about whats inside me. and to speak openly without fear or being judged let trust grow.. for me.
Youself tell in Your last sentence You put all in a relationship and work on it.
to work on it means to work with the person... and not just cause it seems may difficult or whatever then being replaced.
emotions often are not able to control...
is that may the reason why jealousy often is negated??... just a thuoght....

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RE: about jeaulousy.. - 5/13/2006 5:32:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: SirKenin

Women are literally a dime a dozen.

This reminds me of my mother in law who used to say, "Men are like buses, there's always another one coming along."

She didn't have the most stable love life, as you can imagine.

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RE: about jeaulousy.. - 5/13/2006 5:43:28 PM

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RE: about jeaulousy.. - 5/13/2006 6:02:54 PM

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Emotions are what they are.

The phrase that I use is: 'feelings are facts'. There is no right or wrong feeling. And I agree what matters is what we do to express them.

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RE: about jeaulousy.. - 5/13/2006 6:05:04 PM

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Your mother was dead on, but that is not the reason she had an unstable love life. You have formulated an incredibly poor argument.

Women may each be unique, but that does not mean you have to put up with their shit.

And yes, I will put My all into the relationship, right up until all her baggage and nonsense comes out and causes problems. This is where I draw the line. Jealousy, insecurity, possessive, controlling, domineering, six kids and 30 men (bragging about having a harem of men is nothing to be proud of. In fact it makes Me want to puke and give them a kick in the ass), etc. I will not work on these things for very long. If jealousy and insecurity pops up a TINY bit in the first month, then sure, let's address it. If it does not go away, they are done. I do not want to be on your leash, thank you very much. You are supposed to be on Mine. *evil grin*

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