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Diplomacy - 10/11/2004 9:49:15 AM

MiladyElaine

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Hello Mistress! I am new here and have an ad placed and all that. I have a question that I could use some help on... how do you turn someone down if you're not attracted to them? I've never been very good at it and don't want to sound hateful. What are some turndown lines?

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RE: Diplomacy - 10/11/2004 10:26:05 AM

MaitresseEden

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I don't think using "lines" are in anyone best interest. Personally just be honest, tell them you don't feel the chemistry you need to feel to want to persue things anyfurther. Or simply that you don't feel they would be a good match for you. Being honest, doesn't mean one has to be cruel or demeaning. However there are some out there who won't take NO for an answer and sometimes you have to be more forcefull in saying so. But my opinion is to shoot strait, and be honest.

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RE: Diplomacy - 10/11/2004 11:15:12 AM

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I agree with Ms. Eden. Think of how you feel when you are rejected. What do you want to hear and not hear. Most people just want a true real answer so that they don't have to second guess themselves. Be honest. If it is not there it is not there. Just tell them.

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RE: Diplomacy - 10/11/2004 6:05:28 PM

BeachMystress

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I find the best way is to thank them for their time, and be honest about the reason you feel you're not compatable. I find often that people who work very well in email, don't have chemistry when you actually meet. There is no shame in it. No one should feel hurt by it. Chemistry is a tricky thing. It is hard enough to find a vanilla match. We're adding in the whole fetish thing.. expect that you're going to be saying no a lot more than you're going to be saying yes.

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RE: Diplomacy - 10/12/2004 11:34:51 AM

MiladyElaine

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Thank you, sisters. That's what I have been doing- just thought it sounded too blunt. Good to have some input!

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