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MistressLove999 -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (5/15/2006 9:05:05 PM)

One of my best subs is a switch.........he was full Dom until we got to talking and knowing each other.........now he is my sub and says he loves it......but his being Dom allows him to really appreciate his submissive time. I think he is addicted to his sub space lol. At any rate I for one love switches.



LadyEnglish -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/10/2006 8:52:50 PM)

My dear, there are so many factors and variables that go into this. For some, it depends on whom you are with at the time. For me personally, I  feel I am 80% Dominant and 20% submissive, depending on my mood, my cycle, the moon, who I am with, how much I've had to drink, the list goes on and on, but for the most part, I am Dominant to most. I make my living as a Professional Dominitrix. I do enjoy being sexually submissive with my husband once in a great while, but 90% of the time, he is submissive to me and I like it that way. I have had two clients during my ten year career as a Pro Domme that I simply could not dominate very well. It was a chemistry thing. These men were very, very Dominant types, very worldly, and I became a demure little kitty in their presence as much as I tried to fight it. It was frustrating and humiliating for me. D/s is all about power and control. I believe that most of us have days when we want to be in control all the way, 100%. And then there are days where we desire to submit to someone.

Here's some good advise: Just have fun and do whatever you are comfortable with and do it with whoever you are comfortable being with. Have fun!



theRose4U -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/10/2006 9:26:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dustyn

Man, I was eating, Fastlane... the thought of you nekkid just ruined THAT impulse... LOL

- Dustyn



ROFLAMO that is just wrong on entirely too many levels. Kevin I thought you said you'd shaved that thing.



theRose4U -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/10/2006 9:37:55 PM)

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These men were very, very Dominant types, very worldly, and I became a demure little kitty in their presence as much as I tried to fight it.

These are the ones that really trip my trigger. I've had fortune 500 executives as subs that were amazing because of the mental distance they had to cover to get to sub. The type you are describing above I classify under alpha males and following that desire to be a kitty can be an amazing experience. Kind of kills the whole pro-domme thing though.



theRose4U -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/10/2006 9:39:38 PM)

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These men were very, very Dominant types, very worldly, and I became a demure little kitty in their presence as much as I tried to fight it.


Hummm I all of a sudden have this desire to go stick my leg in the air & lick my...hummm nevermind.



reticence -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/10/2006 10:21:18 PM)

Hello

I would have to go with the folks that are telling you not to be in a rush to attach a label onto yourself, there is plenty of time for that if and when you should want that. 

That being said, i saw nothing in the skill set you defined that would preclude you from being a wonderful submissive.  The kinds of skills and attributes that submissives bring to the table is as varied and numerous as there are submissives that bring them.  Dominants often find creative ways to use the skills their submissives bring to them.

As you said, enjoy and have fun.. experiment... enjoy the ride

(don't forget to buckle your seatbelt, it gets wild sometimes)[:)]



NikoB -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/11/2006 3:18:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressLove999

One of my best subs is a switch.........he was full Dom until we got to talking and knowing each other.........now he is my sub and says he loves it......but his being Dom allows him to really appreciate his submissive time. I think he is addicted to his sub space lol. At any rate I for one love switches.


I know that feeling well, I tend to be the Dom mostly with my partners, but every little while I just get the itch to let myself go for a weekend or so and just play as a slave. So much fun...




bandit25 -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/11/2006 3:23:15 AM)

I think do what makes you happy is the best advice and definitely don't worry about being labeled.



defiantbadgirl -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/11/2006 9:01:16 PM)

I say try it once and see if you like it. If after trying it, you decide it's not for you, at least you satisfied your curiosity. If you don't try though, you'll never know either way.



Aneirin -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/19/2006 12:17:02 PM)

I too worried about labels,where I fit in,until a good friend on here persuaded me otherwise.I agree wholeheartedly that to become an effective Dom,(I am expecting some flak for this)one has to experience submission,and probably the other way around,I like to know how another feels,put myself in their shoes so to speak.So,I if a label is to be applied, I happily call myself a switch until I feel otherwise,if at all.I do believe that to accept a label as D or s,I will be cutting myself off from so many other interesting possibilities.Life is to be enjoyed,why not just enjoy it in a way that one feels is right at the time,nothing is set in stone.



JessieMe -> RE: A genuine speculation, not trying to offend (6/20/2006 2:34:51 AM)

I have been where you are. I too considered myself to be a switch for many years with the stipulation that I was not "sexually involved" with submissives I would play with. My personal premise was that it took someone elses control to satisfy me sexually and obviously I would not get that playing with a submissive. (it just never even interested me to go there). I think that your being a switch is a valid designation for you if you enjoy it from both ends. However, for me.. and let me reiterate that FOR ME (underline and bold) having done it for 2 yrs, I realized how sad it was splitting myself in half when I could not get equal satisfaction out of it and am now concentrating on my first desire... that of a being a slave. This kind of takes away my switching options LOL..

Good luck to you!
jessie



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