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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 7:11:37 AM   
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They are not robbing the cradle, I am robbing the grave.



That image alone will probably keep me from ever having a relationship with a younger man. Lol


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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 7:24:53 AM   
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Like to see (hear) your opinion about this. It just crossed my mind reading this article.



I saw that article yesterday and was creeped out.

Even so, I don't set specific numbers as boundaries. The odds of me finding someone 30 years younger than I, interesting, for any length of time are pretty slim. It really does for me depend upon the type of relationship knowing a person inspires.


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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 8:15:34 AM   
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For me, about five years older than me.


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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 8:26:24 AM   
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Like to see (hear) your opinion about this. It just crossed my mind reading this article.

I dont particularly care, its their lives. I think its a little icky but then I think Hefner marrying a 20 something is icky too (yet who bats an eyelash about that?).

I dont see this marriage lasting tho but i guess thats what prenups are for...

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 10:21:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		if i have to go younger it will be with someone super awesome!!! so... i guess for younger i wont go anywhere past 24. older i guess ill go all the way to 30 give or take. if i were like 35 though i dont think it would matter to me as much about age... as we get older i suspect its easier to over look age. and by 60 shit son bring on the young hotties! ill be ready and waiting

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 1:53:17 PM   
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As for dynamics, I'm rather firm about the 'not old enough to be My father and not young enough to be My son' bit.  My preference either way tends to be anything ten years above or below, if I happen to be looking.  Anything beyond that, especially on the younger side, I have to see for Myself depending on the individual.

For those interested, MP is seven years older than Me and clip is My age with a few months difference.  Two of the last three that were getting close were in the ten year window.


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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 2:12:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		I take very little notice of age. I tend towards a younger set, but that's only a tendency,, and it's mostly because of physical attraction rather than any firm, reasoned policy. 

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 4:53:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think we as people put a lot more emphasis on age in our relationships that we would like to admit.

Personally, I have and always will prefer girls younger than me. It would be difficult for me to connect as a dominant with a woman who was older than me.

My cut off age is about 20 and that's not a given. It would depend a lot upon mental maturity. 18-19 sparks a creepy pedophile vibe in me which serves as a reminder that 30 is slowly sneaking up on me. (For everyone over 40, that was your cue to interject with a "Ha! If only I was 30 again!" in case any of you weren't paying attention)

I don't have play partners so I have no standard for judging what age would be an acceptable in that regard.


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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:17:18 PM   
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Half your age plus 8.
Well, that makes them a year younger than me. I doubt anybody could object to that. 

Hanners is 10 years older than me, it doesn't bother me in the least. I like that she's lived longer and done so much more than me. I can't say for sure, but I think I would have fallen in love with her if she was 40 years older than me. If that makes her a cradle robber, well all I can say is: The latch to lower the crib side is right there, just push the button.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:26:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		My first dominant was 16 years older than me, that was the largest age difference I had ever experienced. I have dated men a couple of years younger when I was in my 20s, it didn't work for me.

I would date someone a decade older than I am today, maybe a couple of years more than that, but I would rather be involved with someone closer to my age, and not under 40.

I do not care what other people do, although I will say when I see someone with a teenager that is 40 plus I think they maybe robbing that person of their youth... there have been a couple of people who posted here that had like 19 year old submissives when they were in their 50s, and I suppose it isn't any of my business, but it made me shake my head... only because I knew someone I went all through school with, and she started dating someone who was 30 years older when she was 16, her mother didn't care. She ended up a widow before she was 35. I suppose that could happen under the best of circumstances, but she had two sons with him... it was extremely hard for her... she lost her sons to foster care for a month because the grief was too much for her to bear with having young sons.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 6:07:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: Charnegui

Like to see (hear) your opinion about this. It just crossed my mind reading this article.



I saw that article yesterday and was creeped out.



Yeah - he's 51 and she's 16?  Come on.  My first reaction was "He's got her snowed."

I think there are limits, and this couple in the article fall outside of them.

For me personally, the ex owner was 17 years older than me, which was the biggest age difference I have experienced.  The Mister is 6 years older than me, which is more suitable to me - we have a lot more in common.


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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 6:30:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Back2theFuture

They are not robbing the cradle, I am robbing the grave.



That's a great quote. :)

Age, older or younger, is the least of my concerns. I care primarily about psychosexual compatibility. If I can find that extremely rare element, everything else tends to fall into place nicely. I've hung out at grave and cradle, because there's where the person I needed happened to be at the time.

What's in-between the grave and cradle, I wonder? The corner bar?

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 7:01:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it depends a lot on what sort of relationship you're seeking... if the goal is a vanilla like marriage/partnership with couple friends and hanging out with co workers, family etc than a big age difference can be problematic. If the search is like ours and looking for a full time 24/7 tpe M/s dynamic, living a fairly isolated life with no need for outside work than age isn't as important.

When I started out in bdsm at 21 I had relationships with a couple of people more than twice my age, now that I'm an old timer I have had relationships with slaves half my age. I honestly don't believe age is a measure of maturity or common interests and certainly not a good indicator of bdsm compatibility. But everyone has their needs and beliefs so I don't think there is such a thing as a 'rule'.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 7:12:41 PM   
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if the goal is a vanilla like marriage/partnership with couple friends and hanging out with co workers, family etc than a big age difference can be problematic.
This is one nice thing about being gay. We are already breaking a major taboo, so its a lot easier to disregard others.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 7:51:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		As long as the youngest in the relationship is over the age of 18, there is nothing anyone can say about it.

Yes, I think I might look twice at an 18 year old with a 50 year old because of the extreme age difference. But who am I to judge whether they belong together or not.

Personally for me, I only prefer men 3-10 years OLDER then me. I simply can NOT be with a person who is younger then me as well as someone who is close to the age of my father.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/22/2011 12:04:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes the article example is beyond My boundaries. However, Master and I are the odd couple as He is 15 years younger than Me, but we amazingly have much more in common than I did with ex-hub who was 6 months older than Me! Not every couple could live and travel in a caravan for 2 years without issues yet we are still blissfully happy and hoping I can find a job where it can continue next year! One subby boy of whom I am very fond (and have known for 10 years now) is only early 30s, yet I could easily conceive of him being Mine (some barriers in the way though). It really does depend on the personalities more than the numbers, there has to be enough in common more than the bdsm/D/s to make it work.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/22/2011 2:13:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have no issues with age. For me, it's like any other physical characteristic: much less important to me than the core person inside. I think that the biggest age gap for me has been somewhere around 25 or so years younger than I. And it was a pretty doggone good relationship for me. The reason it didn't last was due to his lying, not due to his age. His Evilness is 17 years younger than I. And when I was in my 20's I was with a man 17 years older.

I do think that having a relationship with a teenager would be a bit much for me. As much as I love teenagers, I really can't see myself in a relationship with one. I could be good friends with teenagers, however. Being with someone younger kind of keeps me young, I think. For the most part, people my age tend to be too old for me, but that's not true of all of them. To me the creepy factor doesn't happen unless they're young enough to be my grandchild.

I used to have a rule that it wasn't ok to date anyone younger than your children. And then my children got older.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/24/2011 3:42:33 PM   
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As far as requirements go, I like them so young they don't know right from wrong yet or so old they just don't care anymore. 




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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/24/2011 3:45:32 PM   
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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/24/2011 4:03:14 PM   
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I have no issues with age. For me, it's like any other physical characteristic: much less important to me than the core person inside... ... ...
...I used to have a rule that it wasn't ok to date anyone younger than your children. And then my children got older.


THIS.
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