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Switching - 6/26/2011 2:35:39 PM   
nd2bedominated


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I'm mostly a dom female who wants a dom male to make me submissive.... how do I get one to take that control. They all say I'm too dominant!
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RE: Switching - 6/27/2011 11:16:34 PM   
HannahLynHeather


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quote:

I'm mostly a dom female who wants a dom male to make me submissive
a dom can't fucking make you submissive, you either are or you aren't.

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how do I get one to take that control.
you don't. if one wants to take control he fucking well will, but there's fuck all you can do to make him. what you can do is entice him, seduce him, use your feminine wiles, you know that shit women are supposed to be fucking good at. if you want some fuck to take control then fucking offer him control.

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They all say I'm too dominant!
this here is your fucking problem right here. when i'm trying to attract a sub i get all fucking domly and shit, when i'm trying to attract a domme i get all subblie. that's how it fucking works. if the men you've been talking with keep saying you're too fucking dominant, then cut it the fuck out. stop the domme shit for christ's sake. i mean isn't obvious that you have to be seen as of interest to the fucker you have your sights on? doms like sub women, if you want a dom, then act like a fucking sub woman.

christ on a cupcake woman, it really shouldn't be complicated, this isn't some fucking alien encounter, its just fucking.

< Message edited by HannahLynHeather -- 6/27/2011 11:17:54 PM >


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RE: Switching - 6/28/2011 2:09:03 PM   
Hisprettybaby


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laughing my ass off!!

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RE: Switching - 7/1/2011 7:11:32 PM   
XenoMaster


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nd2bedominated

I'm mostly a dom female who wants a dom male to make me submissive.... how do I get one to take that control. They all say I'm too dominant!


I would recommend looking for a more discipline oriented dom. Find someone that physically impresses you a bit. A good spanking if you try to take control always helps.

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RE: Switching - 7/4/2011 10:09:11 PM   
lash310


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Just a thought - have you tried...I don't know...maybe talking to your potential playmate(s) about this situation? Explaining to them what you need and what you want might help make it achievable...just my two cents.

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RE: Switching - 7/8/2011 8:36:19 PM   
peppermint


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I have to agree with HannahLynHeather.  A sub acts like a sub.  A Dominant acts dominant.  If you are a sub and acting dominant, then others will see you as a Dominant.  No one can make you submissive.  That comes from inside yourself. 

I would ask you what about being a submissive attracts you? 

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RE: Switching - 7/10/2011 11:14:28 AM   
orchid77


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Be Honest. Be Genunine. Be YOU!

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RE: Switching - 7/11/2011 6:06:09 PM   
DesFIP


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Force play can be fun on occasion, but to have to use duress just to get a cup of coffee in the morning? Much too much work for anyone.

Op, think about it from the pov of you being the dominant. Would you want to get involved with a guy who claimed to be submissive but challenged you every single time? Or wouldn't you prefer to be with someone who wanted to submit to you instead without arguing?

If you're interested in sensation play, I'm sure you can find someone to top you in your local community. Why not start with that and see if you like it. But if they tell you to stand at the cross so they can tie you to it, and you tell them "make me" expect them to pass on playing with you.


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RE: Switching - 7/26/2011 10:02:17 AM   
learningtufly


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I had NEVER considered bottoming ... until one day ... a lady friend said "You need to have at LEAST three REAL spanking sessions so you know what it is like!" I thought about it ... and after a while ... thought "what the heck ... it might be educational". It was.

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RE: Switching - 8/4/2011 10:27:50 PM   
softscreams


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It took me a long time to find a guy who wasn't intimidated by me...and he is the first and only master I have had.. It has definetly been educational for me and I feel made me a better mistress.. For me I knew he was the one when he wouldn't back down..he wouldn't let me take control..he was patient and wouldn't take no for an answer...Best of luck...xoxo

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RE: Switching - 9/11/2011 2:52:01 PM   
justmemike


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just WOW!

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RE: Switching - 9/24/2011 8:58:59 PM   
rvnblkhrt


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wow

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RE: Switching - 10/3/2011 12:34:53 PM   
TheCobrav2


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 I do under stand what she saying a little. I not the bad ass dom type alot expect,  not sub really at all. I mostly dom, and for some odd reason to like woman the to sub it drive me nuts.Yet I get lot sub woman attracted to me. I cant help it I like switches mostly woman, I like how that can play both roles or a Sub the like's be broken a lot and likes push and pull. If  I get what i want with out any work it's no fun for me at all sexual and mentally it no fun.

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RE: Switching - 10/10/2011 4:49:23 PM   
EmeraldsPheonix


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IMO find some one to play switchy twitchy with and take turns Dom/sub to each other or find a Dom that when your around Him it just makes you want to drop to your knees and be subserviant to Him. I am like that with my Husband at times and other times He lets me just walk around the house and do what i want when i want but when it matters and once i get back into the swing of things i submit to him when it counts. Other than that I am a mean Domme that just knows what she wants when she wants it and how things are to go.

just a suggestion based on my experience.

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RE: Switching - 10/25/2011 9:20:20 PM   
TraciTv


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Well, here's my two cents.

Just like sexual orientation or gender, D/s roles are more of a spectrum than a polarity.

There are people who are extremely D and others who are extremely s, this is true, but there is a world of people between those ends of the spectrum.  This is why there are alpha slaves, people who sub for a D but D for another s.



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RE: Switching - 11/1/2011 3:32:55 PM   
hardbody0224


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You need a strong man who is unwilling to comprise. I am a male switch and I have played both roles but I have never switched with one person. Just find a dominant man. If you can't find one call me. I love playing the Dom role

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RE: Switching - 1/29/2012 9:44:16 PM   
Clickofheels


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Another one of the "Arpig" posts.

Please delete.

Thanks.

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RE: Switching - 1/29/2012 10:19:13 PM   
VideoAdminDelta


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Please do not pull threads up asking for them to be deleted.  If you would like to make that request of VideoAdminAlpha, please contact her via CM mail with your concerns.

Thank you.

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RE: Switching - 3/20/2012 11:10:58 AM   
freebitch31


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i will be enjoying to discover you and began to speaking and exchange with you dear lady !!
please take time to discover me
respects friendly
freebitch

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RE: Switching - 7/29/2012 5:22:37 PM   
ardmore64


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This seems to raise 3 questions;
Is it that you haven't found a dom who is strong enough to make you submit?
Is it that you haven't found a dom you feel comfortable enough with to submit to them?
Do you want to genuinely submit to someone or are you looking to have a bit of fun topping from the bottom?

It's kind og like The Hitch Hikers Guide to The Galaxy. You have to know what the question is before you can have an answer that makes any sese.

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