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best way for late starting slave to find long term master - 6/27/2011 2:01:50 AM   
kimerika


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Status: offline 		IM a late starting slaVE CROSS DRESSING CD AND NEED SOME TIPS ON HOW TO BEST ATTRACT A  MASTER TO BECOME OWNED BY HIM INDEFINATELY. 
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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 6/27/2011 2:24:51 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Slow down.  You're not there yet.  You need to figure out who you are.  You're a secret CD right now - you're wanting to make TWO transitions - one to presenting as a woman, and another in being owned.  So far, your feminine side has manifested itself in sex acts and dressing - you haven't done hormones or operations.

I'd just recommend showing up to local kink events dressed as a woman, and get used to being out in public at munches presenting as a woman, and get used to being seen as a woman.

It's good that you're open to poly.  The relationships I've seen locally with TGs frequently involve poly.

To be blunt - your typing is horrible.  Why would a man think that your housekeeping skills would be adequate when you are so sloppy with the written word?

Also, I'd recommend that you give your experience with cooking, cleaning, organizing, etc., and explain what you are on disability for.

Best of luck.


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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 6/27/2011 5:09:15 AM   
DecadentDesire


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Status: offline 		Man of your dreams right here....

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3740438/tm.htm


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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 6/27/2011 5:51:37 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		One other question - you state that you're open to poly in all its permutations, including maledom and femdom.  But your profile only shows you wanting to submit to a man.  How would your dynamic fit into poly?  Would you serve a woman, serve along her, or Dom her in the relationship?  Or just be friends?


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"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 6/27/2011 7:02:47 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		DS has a good point about your two transitions; are you intending to be a secretive cross dresser once you're owned? or are you figuring that being owned will compel you forward? if a man takes ownership of you, do you think he'll provide you with breast implants? is that something you want, but would be okay with not having if the man who owned you didn't want you to have them? your profile reads more like it's describing a fantasy scenario, which tends to put people off. you don't have that completely wanktastic tone that a lot of profiles have, though, so that's positive. it sounds like you're sincere, but you're very dedicated to a specific fantasy of how life will go with this person you're trying to find.

let people get to know you as a person -- and try some formatting in your profile; break up the words into paragraphs. one big block of text is laborious to read, especially when the typing and grammar are a bit confusing.


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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 6/27/2011 7:35:02 AM   
erieangel


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quote:

especially when the typing and grammar are a bit confusing.





Poor typing and grammar puts most people off. Some would say this is the internet and it doesn't matter. I tell them, its as good a place as any to learn proper usage of words, syntax, spelling and grammar as any and a great place to practice all of the above. But of course, i majored in English and was going to be a high school teacher.

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 6/29/2011 12:53:32 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Without a profile there is no way for anyone to write to you if they were interested.  So, first tip.  Have a profile.  

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 6/29/2011 3:56:41 PM   
StrongSpirit


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Status: offline 		I agree that you need to slow down.

First, put a bunch of soft limitations in. Don't see anyone that insists on breaking them.

You have time to figure out what you want to do later.

I know too many people that screwed themselves up by going for Total Submission first.

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 6/29/2011 5:24:14 PM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

Without a profile there is no way for anyone to write to you if they were interested.  So, first tip.  Have a profile.  


She had one.  She must have hidden it or left the site.


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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 7/8/2011 11:05:45 PM   
buttersquash2000


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Status: offline 		Trully so in your answers and quite honest.

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 7/16/2011 2:36:26 PM   
StrongSpirit


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Status: offline 		Oh another thing. I see too many submissives act dominant in their profile.

TYPING IN ALL CAPITALS IS THE SAME AS YELLING!!!

Would you yell at your master? I am not looking for a sub that yells at me. In addition, some subs get burned, then write angry. I don't think many doms are looking for angry submissives to yell at them.

It's OK to have issues, and limits. Just present them submissively. Try typing without any capitals, while politely stating things you don't want. Then ignore people that ignore your requests.

Example: Instead of:

NO MEN OVER 50!!!

Try:

please sirs, i am looking for a young master (under 50)


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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 7/16/2011 6:07:14 PM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Why would anyone present their issues and limits submissively when they are first getting to know someone?  It's up to the dominant to inspire submission.  To expect someone to show doormatitude is only for people who have no ability to inspire others.

And that whole "please sirs..."  Didn't that go out with Oliver Twist?

< Message edited by sunshinemiss -- 7/16/2011 6:08:27 PM >

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 7/16/2011 6:17:56 PM   
0ldhen


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From: Henhouse in Trolltopia, Harleyville USA
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quote:

ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit

Example: Instead of:

NO MEN OVER 50!!!

Try:

please sirs, i am looking for a young master (under 50)





YANNO......I have to disagree with you here. We women get hit on by every hng that comes through here. It can be very annoying, I hate opening my mail to find DOMMASTERSIROBEYMENOWPOLYPRINCE in my mailbox.

I tried saying everything very politely, it just filled my inbox with crap. So I rewrote (actually, the Troll rewrote) my profile. It is blunt and to the point. Now all I usually get is cmail from friends or from the exact type of guy that at a minimun meets my basic parameters.

I keep repeating this lately but;

"You might be a D but you are not my fucking D" from Troll Enterprizez, Trolltopia LTD.

A lot of the D types really need that engraved on their screens, it is great advice for approaching a s type. Approach them as regular people, expect them to respond likewise.

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 7/16/2011 7:41:46 PM   
HannahLynHeather


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quote:

Try typing without any capitals
fuck off, everybody knows the more capitals you use the more submissive you are. real dominants don't use any fucking caps at all! why? because a real dominant refuses to be bound by something as fucking petty as linguistic convention.


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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 7/16/2011 7:49:57 PM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit

Just present them submissively.

Baloney.

The only Dominants that expect every s type to act in a submissive manner to everyone are generally the ones who think that just because they checked the "Dominant" box on the profile means they are entitled to something.

If you want *your* submissive to be meek and mild to every Tom, Dick, and Harry that comes along, order her to do so.  Heck, clip is male and I wouldn't have him doing it.


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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 7/17/2011 3:25:50 AM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

And that whole "please sirs..."  Didn't that go out with Oliver Twist?


Well, then, no more gruel for YOU!


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"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: best way for late starting slave to find long term ... - 7/17/2011 7:46:20 AM   
coookie


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Status: offline 		I know i am not dominant but when i am looking at other's profiles on the other side, nothing makes me click next faster than, "please Sirs"

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