ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (6/27/2011 11:40:45 AM)
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A huge part of the 50s household structure was: "Just wait until your Father gets home, young man!" I am one of those throwbacks who thinks kids should have both male and female role models, and that Fathers can do more than make money and take the kids to the zoo on occasion. Kids want to do right, and unless they have been subjected to lots of emotional BS will go along with the program unless they realize they don't have to. Think of your family as a pack. There has to be an alpha, and if no one steps up to be the alpha, one of the kids will do it. And then, you will have complete and utter chaos. If you want to solve this problem, someone has to be alpha. This does not mean being mean or cruel or even raising your voice. It means taking control. It means setting down rules and chores. It means assigning someone (like Art) to do follow through. It means making sure you are all 6 on the same page daily. In a few months, once it becomes a routine, you will not have to be so careful about follow through. But you have let these kids learns your no doesn't mean jack shit. All kids need consequences. This is how they learn to make good judgements. If you can't take it upon yourself to handle this, then all 6 of you need to be in family counseling. JMO BTW, if Art won't go to family counseling, this should tell you a great deal. Editing to add: Please listen to everything LadyP has said. She is so spot on I could have said the exact same words.
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