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Your Mind's thought and what It means to you - 6/27/2011 8:00:08 PM

ZGuy32

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This is going to be hard for me to express the exact logic and/or thoughts I'm trying to evoke. I'm interested in speaking with people on what attracts them to their fetish, or love that is "dirty" for public view. I will talk about what drives myself to start things off.

I first started looking for information on bondage back in 6th grade after the pop-up blocker missed a porn spam and a pic of the beautiful woman tied with her hands over her head and her feet to the ground. I don't know what look was on her face but it just drew me into the deisre to learn why even though she was helpless she look more calm and reserved than a lot of adults I knew at the time. I have not done any formal training with any body for bondage, I have explored it with several willing ex-girlfriends. I have come to the point where I believe it is the person to person interaction that happens when two people share the same desire and trust in the others actions that keeps me interested in bondage and dominance. I will keep writing more but I am going to collect my thoughts some more before continuing, also this way I wont get into too much trouble when my fiance finds my site history and asks what I was up to. Not that I was doing anything bad, she just isn't as interested....yet I hope :P

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RE: Your Mind's thought and what It means to you - 6/27/2011 8:25:11 PM

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I'm the lesbian sex slave of a woman ten years my senior. Being Hanners' slave is my "fetish", it's my kink.

I am attracted to it because it frees me to be me, it absolves me of any responsibility to live by society's mores. It allows me to spend my days in a sort of low grade erotic daze, where my every action seems to feed my desires. It frees me to be the sex-crazed little slut I am inside. It allows me to indulge my fantasies and live a hedonistic life, where sensual and sexual gratification is a central focus for us both. Pleasure is our goal, and this arrangement allows us to seek it with abandon.

I'm living out one long involved erotic fantasy with the woman I love, who loves me. I am loved, cared for, and protected, I have loads of leisure time, I get my brains screwed out on a daily basis, and I get all the pussy I can eat and then some.

What's not to like about it?

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RE: Your Mind's thought and what It means to you - 6/28/2011 6:07:45 AM

LillyBoPeep

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ZGuy32
I have come to the point where I believe it is the person to person interaction that happens when two people share the same desire and trust in the others actions that keeps me interested in bondage and dominance.

i have to agree with you there. everything was much more "significant" to me with THAT person. i have fun with casual stuff at times, but it doesn't have the same significance. i have one friend i play with on a random sort of basis now, and i more or less quit going to play parties (though i might start going again, who knows).

my last relationship was my first kink relationship but the feelings i had for that person made anything seem possible. even though i had this secret interest in BDSM in the back of my head, if he hadn't been the type of person he was, i don't think i'd have gone along with it as easily as i did. i was totally fascinated by and turned on by the fact that he loved me and wanted to hurt me. he wanted me as his possession, which i thought was pretty awesome. it was the space between us that we both created that made it all just seem totally normal. i was never more myself than i was in that relationship, because it was finally totally safe to BE myself. he told me the same thing. =) it was pretty grand. it's kind of like passing a little bit of electricity through everything you do in a day. i could feel all sorts of things i'd never felt before just by scrubbing a floor for him. =p

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RE: Your Mind's thought and what It means to you - 6/28/2011 6:22:17 AM

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I'm not sure exactly what you're asking. However there are two points I want to address.

First is that you need to talk to your fiancee and tell her openly that you get turned on by women in bondage. If she categorically refuses to ever do so, is that okay with you? Are you prepared to never be entirely happy sexually for the future? Will you resent her for not being into what you're into? If she hasn't shown any interest in this so far, then she won't. Which is fine, she's supposed to have a sex life that she totally enjoys with a man who thinks that what she likes is also the absolute best thing there is. By lying by omission to her, she will eventually feel that you just aren't that into her, and she will resent you for that. It will poison your sex life and your relationship. Basing a marriage on a lie is not a pathway to success.

Secondly, bondage for someone that enjoys it is very peaceful. I liken it to a baby being swaddled. Being tied up tightly in a comfortable position without any pain gets me to float faster than anything else I've known. I can't have any responsibilities that I have to deal with, I'm not in charge, I don't have to think about anything - it's a mini vacation without paying for the day spa!

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RE: Your Mind's thought and what It means to you - 6/28/2011 10:17:59 PM

ZGuy32

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Oh, I have told her about my it before I asked her to marry me. :) and even if she isn't into anything supper big I can live with it, she's worth it. as for not being entirely happy sexually I'm sure I can find other things to boost my morale, like helping her fully come into her sexuality ;) I have tried a few basic things people don't really link to bondage and domination with her and she hasn't shot me down with anything yet. :) Also thank you for your concern about this I like the fact some people still try to help each other out on here :D

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