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limits list for submissives - 7/4/2011 6:22:00 PM   
experiment2


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Status: offline 		has anyone a concise list of limits for submissives to start with? I had seen extensive lists in the past with almost all sub/Domme activities and tasks one might imagine. i wish to maintain one so i can submit it to a Domme if so requested it the near future.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/4/2011 7:14:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Only you know what your limits are.  If you read a bit about the lifestyle and discover the activities that people indulge in you can decide from that what you think you'd enjoy or would never want to engage in.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/4/2011 7:25:01 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		How could anyone provide you with a list of limits??

Limits are individual, not generic.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/4/2011 7:37:21 PM   
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If you mean a list of fetishes that you can look at and decide which ones are limits of yours, Alt.com and Fetlife.com both have pretty comprehensive lists. But you need to make an account and a profile. Fet is free like CM, but Alt.com is pay if you want to write to others and view their profiles.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/4/2011 8:01:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Try googling bdsm activities list or fetish activities list. It should bring up a few pdfs for you to go through and check things off in varying likes and dislikes.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/4/2011 10:14:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: experiment2

has anyone a concise list of limits for submissives to start with?



I think what you're looking for a a "BDSM Checklist" ---> http://tinyurl.com/3rjmzys





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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/5/2011 5:28:42 AM   
experiment2


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Status: offline 		thank you all, yes what i am looking for is a list of all the possible activities a sub may encounter so as to rview it and complete a check list. i will try the sites suggested. i do realize each person is different and has their own limits many of which can be changed with experience.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/5/2011 5:37:09 AM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		This is what came up when I typed BDSM check list into google.com:
http://www.google.com/#sclient=psy&hl=en&site=&source=hp&q=bdsm+check+list&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.&fp=bb9a4fba297be287&biw=1024&bih=571

Take your pick.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/5/2011 6:49:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Alt.com has a pretty good one.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/6/2011 3:39:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Master Slave LA, i have never seen lmgtfy.com before, but it is bookmarked! thanks for a delightful turn on!

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/7/2011 1:59:55 PM   
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Master Slave LA, i have never seen lmgtfy.com before, but it is bookmarked! thanks for a delightful turn on!


Wait... lmgtfy.com turned you on?!!  Oh dear... you really do need to get out more -- a LOT more!!!  lol  (kidding)




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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/7/2011 3:21:39 PM   
gungadin09


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Status: offline 		There is a list of limits (not a kink list) on my profile if you want to look.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/7/2011 3:24:38 PM   
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Wait... lmgtfy.com turned you on?!!  Oh dear... you really do need to get out more -- a LOT more!!!  lol  (kidding)


One of the many things I've learned here was lmgtfy, which never fails to entertain.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/7/2011 6:29:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		why not just talk to them as people and get to know one another? I find that's the easiest way to find out compatibility instead of some superfluous list.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/7/2011 7:33:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

why not just talk to them as people and get to know one another? I find that's the easiest way to find out compatibility instead of some superfluous list.



Because when one is new/newish to this shhhhhhtuff, they often don't know what's out there to even "talk" about.  A checklist helps provide a starting point of sorts -- and is easy to both complete and exchange with the other person.



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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/7/2011 8:48:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

why not just talk to them as people and get to know one another? I find that's the easiest way to find out compatibility instead of some superfluous list.



Because when one is new/newish to this shhhhhhtuff, they often don't know what's out there to even "talk" about.  A checklist helps provide a starting point of sorts -- and is easy to both complete and exchange with the other person.




I dunno....even when I was "new" <whatever that means>, I just simply talked to people like normal regular human beings...the weather, their profile, the town they live in, music, movies, etc...until one thing lead to another and conversations went from one end of the spectrum to another as we became more comfortable with one another, which eventually lead to wanting to meet which eventually lead to either being compatible or not.

I personally was always turned off by lists and men approaching me with sex/fetish/kink right off the bat. I always liked to see myself as more than just their way to get off....but I guess if that's all you're looking for then sure, a list is a great place to start I suppose.



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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/7/2011 9:19:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		from a friend this as a Roller Coaster Ride. Once started, you cannot stop in the middle of the ride and say " This is too steep! Let me off!" You either ride the ride to the end or don't get on. For those of you who approach a Dominant with a long list of limits, perhaps you should rethink your orientation. Most submissive limits lists are nothing more than a sad attempt to top from the bottom

its not about you any way its what we want from you that counts we take you give we take control of you cause you want it that way
if thats not what your looking for leave
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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/7/2011 11:33:04 PM   
MasterSlaveLA


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

why not just talk to them as people and get to know one another? I find that's the easiest way to find out compatibility instead of some superfluous list.



Because when one is new/newish to this shhhhhhtuff, they often don't know what's out there to even "talk" about.  A checklist helps provide a starting point of sorts -- and is easy to both complete and exchange with the other person.




I dunno....even when I was "new" <whatever that means>, I just simply talked to people like normal regular human beings...the weather, their profile, the town they live in, music, movies, etc...until one thing lead to another and conversations went from one end of the spectrum to another as we became more comfortable with one another, which eventually lead to wanting to meet which eventually lead to either being compatible or not.

I personally was always turned off by lists and men approaching me with sex/fetish/kink right off the bat. I always liked to see myself as more than just their way to get off....but I guess if that's all you're looking for then sure, a list is a great place to start I suppose.



Oh, from that perspective... yes, I absolutely agree with you, and in fact think it beyond stupid when people go straight to sex/kink in their initial discussions with each other.  What I was referring to with the "new/newish" thing was kinda getting to know what's out there from a sex/kink perspective AFTER one has decided to move forward with another.

Recall that the OP had stated, "has anyone a concise list of limits for submissives to start with? I had seen extensive lists in the past with almost all sub/Domme activities and tasks one might imagine. i wish to maintain one so i can submit it to a Domme if so requested it the near future."

The OP's reference to "future" led me to believe they too meant AFTER having made the decision to move forward with another -- i.e., that they're past the "getting to know you" stage of just "talking", if that makes sense?





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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/7/2011 11:50:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

why not just talk to them as people and get to know one another? I find that's the easiest way to find out compatibility instead of some superfluous list.


As one man told me... its like speed dating. He was heavy into anal and didnt want to waste his time with women who werent as equally into it as he was. I could see his point.

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RE: limits list for submissives - 7/8/2011 12:05:47 AM   
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from a friend this as a Roller Coaster Ride. Once started, you cannot stop in the middle of the ride and say " This is too steep! Let me off!" You either ride the ride to the end or don't get on. For those of you who approach a Dominant with a long list of limits, perhaps you should rethink your orientation. Most submissive limits lists are nothing more than a sad attempt to top from the bottom



While I understand what you've stated, you have to remember... most that are new to this dynamic are going to have several limits -- be they mental or via some "list".  The truth is, with time, experience, and finding the right D-type that's proven themselves trustworthy/capable, said "limits" will often fall away.

I don't see that as topping from the bottom, but rather, simply being cautious -- and rightly so.  Conversely, an s-type that would walk into a dynamic with zero limits (i.e., boundaries) would be equally critisized as being stupid.  The fact is, this is no different from any relationship... with time and trust, all things are possible.  And besides, what constitutes a "long list of limits" anyway?!!  5 items... 10 items... 20 items? 

Here's quick list of "limits" off the top of my head that would absolutely scare the heeby-jeebies out of many -- and especially those that are newbies:

- Drinking piss
- Eating shit
- Prostitution
- Drug use
- Scarring / Body modifications
- Chained 24/7
- Head shaving
- Branding
- Financial domination
- Beastiality
- Sex with minors
- Blood / Cutting
- Choking / Breath Control
- Extreme torture
- Infantialism / Diapers
- Being shared
- Poly
- Knives / Needles
- Pony slave
- Being spit on

So, is there anything that unreasonable about the above?!!  Is this a "long list"?  The point I'm making here is that most have things like the above as "limits" -- whether they're presented in a written list, or kept as a mental list. 








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