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ORIGINAL: LadyPact Every once in a while, a very small percent of the time, it does have to do with the person posting. The reception that some folks get is because of the way that they approach these boards. Doesn't happen often, but it's obvious when it does. Yes, it's a discussion board, but the perpetual 101 class atmosphere gets old at times. Nothing a good read of "The Loving Dominant" couldn't cure. I understand that things have changed and most folks are more likely to just take the easy way out of asking things here rather than doing their own research, but it still comes across as lazy. Yesterday, I went to a munch and finally caught somebody in My new area who I've been having bad timing about meeting. My batteries were completely recharged to sit and talk with somebody who got their start in this whole thing like I did. Talked about how things were back in the day when, if you really wanted this thing, you had to work for it. You answered ads in some rag somewhere, read books, made the effort to meet the people you wanted to learn from, people called you on the phone to tell you when the next munch was going to be, etc, etc. (Yeah, we walked uphill, in the snow, both ways just for the opportunity to go to school, and we were grateful. Yeah, yeah, yeah.) Point being, the lack of initiative on these boards sucks at times. Those of us who have been around a while can't compress everything we've been doing for years into some kind of Reader's Digest version of kink. Each one teach one only goes so far and giving somebody a fish every day doesn't teach them how to feed themselves. Do you think that part of it may be, for lack of a better word, the "level" of BDSM that different posters are? I mean I get that some folks are just assholes, and yes some come looking for a fight. Some are, IMHO, handicapped in different ways, either socially or physically or mentally, so that they do not even get it why they are getting the reactions that they get. Hell, a few on here probably feel that I am in that category. The ones I perceive as having some type of "handicap", I feel sorry for, and just pray they will get ignored and go away honestly. But back to the "levels" of BDSM, I totally get that you were thrilled to meet someone who had a journey kind of like your own, and I can imagine that yall had some greats stories and thoughts to exchange, just as you do on here. I enjoy reading a lot of your posts, not because of your experiences in leather, but because I think you are a smart chickie. For me, I have no desires to be involved in a community. I want a relationship with a man, one who is the kind of man I can hand over much authority to and know my trust is not misplaced. I think that could make my posts seem irrelevant to you (not saying that they do), but I can imagine that you read many of the questions on here, and like you say, think it is folks being lazy. I see it as not being lazy, but as being totally at a loss as to how one goes about finding what they seek, when they do not want to scene and play casually. Folks with totally different goals and totally different ideas about what is successful, when doing this thing that we do, even though the thing that we have in common is something we see totally differently. If any of that makes sense, you are smarter than I even gave you credit for-lol.
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