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Must have - 5/17/2006 3:34:38 PM

yourMissTress

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What are your "must have"'s...

in a partner?

in a relationship?

in a casual partner?

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 3:46:38 PM

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loyalty, honesty, devotion, trust and of course physical attraction.. gotta have the spark :)

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 5:06:22 PM

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In a casual partner, cleanliness and ethics which match my own, a good sense of humor helps and a zest for life.

In a partner you can add hefty self-esteem and the desire to want 'me' as much as I want them.. which in this case is "Him" .. experience in BDSM and a natural born leader who has honed his craft to the point where I call him Master just as naturally as he accepts the title as a basic truth of the way we live.

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 5:19:51 PM

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Honesty, integrity, a sense of humor, great strength of character as well as being a character, a gentle heart, an intelligent mind, similar moral code, similar hard limits, a reasonable amount of experience, and of course, being a biker.

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 5:30:32 PM

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Strength in sense of self, Honesty, a sense of humor, good communication skills, and a good head on their shoulders.

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 5:37:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

What are your "must have"'s...

in a partner?

in a relationship?

in a casual partner?

Honesty, trust worthy, level headed, sane, heathy, reasonably goodlooking. Willing to put up with me and my snoring :)

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 5:41:39 PM

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quote:

What are your "must have"'s...

in a partner?

in a relationship?

in a casual partner?

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A sense of self-reponsibility; honesty; trust (this takes development over time/experience); spiritual; intelligent; inquisitive, curious; sensual; seeking; desire for self-awareness and growth; sense of play; loyalty; honesty; loyalty; honesty...

As for casual play, I myself am not interested in that at this point of my journey...

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 5:44:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

What are your "must have"'s...

in a partner?

in a relationship?

in a casual partner?

In a Partner/Relationship: Consistency, Actions Speak FAR LOUDER than Words.

Casual Play = Hard Limit.

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 6:02:20 PM

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In a partner and a relationship..I find these two descriptions synonomous..so..intelligience,control,confidence,presence,honesty,humor.and that spark!..(grin)...play relation?...I dont play.....be well..Tempting

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 7:15:28 PM

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for all three: sense of self, intelligence and communication skills

...oh and the patience to figure me out lol

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 7:31:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

What are your "must have"'s...

in a partner?

in a relationship?

in a casual partner?

a connection ... an attraction ... and mutual interests ...

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 7:33:24 PM

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Hmmmm...... good questions Ma'am....

Partner.... honesty.... communication..... sense of humor..... A JOB!!!! ... common sense....knowing when and where reality is and needs to be...

Relationship.... yeah about the same.... no.. the same

Casual..... sense of humor.... open mind.... common sense...

yeah that about sums it up... LOL... probably left something out..... but hey.. lived military too long.... so close enough for government work... LOL

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 7:37:02 PM

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For a play partner, cleanliness and kink compatability and sexual freedom. Dont do shy.

For a partner: Chemistry, love, devotion, faithful and loyal, honest, communication skills, sense of humour, kindness, respect, and the above list.
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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 7:47:13 PM

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Dear yourMissTress, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Good post. You asked...

quote:

ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

What are your "must have"'s...

in a partner?
Honest, older than I (so he doesn't run away so fast), mature for his age. Stable in what he wants in life as a slave (I don't want to find he is a Switch later or something else), as well as stable in his job and finances. Healthy, as to take care of me and himself, tow my gear. I like a quiet man but, knows when to speak without drama or whines.
Takes the lifestyle as serious as I do but, not so serious he forgets how to have fun. A slave first, gentleman second. Compassionate, affectionate. Involved in the leather and or lifestyle community in education and support. A slave who knows how to do domestic as well as dungeon. Non smoker and non-alcoholic. STD and DD free. Tolerant of other gender and race preferences.

in a relationship?
Same as above.

in a casual partner?
Honest, communicates their needs/wants clearly, shows up on time and when promised, helpful and considerate. Treats me with respect, acts like a gentleman at all times.

Respectfully submitted,
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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 8:33:20 PM

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High intelligence, high self esteem, some sense of reality, biological female, desire for power exchange exploration, at least slightly warped sense of humor, ambition, chemistry, good communication skills, trustworthy, and finally the one nobody ever seems to mention, and is most often lacking... the ability to trust.

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 9:19:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

What are your "must have"'s...

in a partner?

in a relationship?

in a casual partner?

Ok besides the norm's E/everyone else has posted, I am going straight for the PAIN SLUT issue. And of course Honesty, Loyalty, Trust, Devotion, Love, Poly, BDSM, Gorean.

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 9:31:06 PM

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Must have? Hrm. Duct tape.

On a serious note, I want somebody who can hold up their end of the canoe (euphemism for life, conversation, etc.) as we paddle through life.

Just me, etc.

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RE: Must have - 5/17/2006 9:35:27 PM

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I do not pursue casual BDSM. I am not looking for a casual partner, so that one I cannot comment on.

In a partner I look for many components... The first one is I just wanna like spending time with someone. I want to get along with them. There are many traits I like in a partner.. There is the usual honesty, loyalty, intelligence, integrity, motivation in life, humor.

In relationship I want there it be mutual acceptance, which as I grow older I realize is the cornerstone of a good relationship. You are less likely to be dishonest with someone who accepts you the way you are and you communicate easier with them. I want someone that makes me laugh and will laugh at me and with me. I want someone who shares my values of right and wrong, but will make me question what that is at times. I want someone who is openminded, I want a relationship where we can do the things we love together.

Chemistry is there if the rest of the package is, at least this is my experience.

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RE: Must have - 5/18/2006 9:14:51 AM

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