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RE: Do you ever feel weird about yourself? - 7/25/2011 10:19:45 AM

littleone35

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As long as you enjoy it and nobodu (but you) are getting hurt then there is nothing wrong with it. You were progammed as a child that tges thoughs and desires were wrong hence the weird feelings. I do things with my Master that i would never do with another and whatever we do feels normal and natural.

You should just relax and enjoy the ride.

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RE: Do you ever feel weird about yourself? - 7/25/2011 1:14:49 PM

kuppykake

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Totally weird.....because you're a sub so you shouldn't think or feel you should just do and please.

I'm kidding.

Actually, you remind me of me. I have been with my master for 8 years and we started out totally vanilla (hell we were just kids when we met). We began exploring D/s well over a year ago. Things still aren't picture perfect like the little fantasies in my head. In fact, we're just warming up to this lifestyle, and we're happy with that. My advice to you is that you first need to accept who you are, HOW you are. Those doubts you were having, those weird feelings about the taboo things you're doing and/or thinking....those feelings will most likely go from uncomfortable to gotta have them. It's kind of part of humiliation in a way. I mean sex itself was weird and scary and bad when you were a virgin wasn't it? Time to break your bdsm virginity so to say. Please take your time though. I know there is probably so much you want to try, but take the time to ensure that you both will get equal enjoyment out of it. I'm constantly learning more and more about the lifestyle and how we can take it deeper, and I'm sure you will too.......enjoy what you have and let it gradually develop into something deeper. Hope that made some sense. I think we can relate to one another....feel free to message me sometime.

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RE: Do you ever feel weird about yourself? - 7/25/2011 3:27:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlekitten1

Do you ever feel weird about yourself?

About myself? No. On myself?!!

<--- (gets out of the shower... drying off... feels around...) "Okay... just what the fuck is THAT?!! Hey... come here and look at this -- this wasn't there yesterday, was it... WAS IT?!!"

lol

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RE: Do you ever feel weird about yourself? - 7/25/2011 11:27:44 PM

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One night after Master had spent about 2hrs beating me with various whips, fucking me and fisting me until I was bleeding, covered in welts and exhausted, He was cradling me in His lap on the floor and petting me and I started suddenly just sobbing hysterically. I was so horrified at what had just happened. But I believe the moment I started really freaking out was when I realized just how content and right I felt. How RIGHT I felt ... lying there bruised horribly, sore, stretched from fisting, my eyes red and burning and I wouldn't have changed anything. I felt so guilty for asking another human being, much less my Master who I adore, to do those things to me. If I really loved Him I couldn't actually want Him to turn into the sort of monster who would do that to a woman, right? And if I were normal I would never, ever WANT those awful things. But when I really examined it, I didn't think He was a monster for doing them, I loved Him even more for it. He didn't think I was a freakish mess who needs therapy, He loves me even more for submitting to it. There you have it. Are we "normal"? Nope. But does it make us happy and is it healthy? Yes. You just have to revel in whatever makes you feel fulfilled as a person. Communicate with your Dom so He can help you through those feelings and reassure you, but don't feel sick or weird. If it works for you and is healthy in the end then there is no reason not to feel great about it. I still have days where I shake my head and think, "How did I come to this? Wtf?" But it's more just an idle ironic thought, not a serious question of myself as a person.

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