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"Mental bondage" - 8/2/2011 6:24:59 AM

chesterfieldmale

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Greetings!

I often see the term "mental bondage" listed as a like of someone's. Normally, I'm pretty good at reasoning things out, but I cannot get my brain to wrap itself around this term. Would some of you, particularly ladies as I seek a female partner, help m out here? Abstract ideas are welcome, but I am mainly interested in, "How do you actually do it?"

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Allen

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RE: "Mental bondage" - 8/2/2011 7:17:03 AM

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He tells me to hold a position. Instead of using rope to keep me in position. That's really all it is.
Personally I detest it. If I'm focusing on holding the position, then I can't relax.

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RE: "Mental bondage" - 8/2/2011 7:23:19 AM

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Des came up with the physical expression of that. I also think people use the term to describe a mental state wherein they cannot conceive of (either literally or figuratively) disobedience and/or escape. I think in some ways it's like internal enslavement (which raises more questions than it answers).

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RE: "Mental bondage" - 8/2/2011 8:24:55 AM

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It's one of two things as I understand it (both of which have been noted)... here's my version:

To believe in someone who has proven themselves so completely that you can and do follow their edicts without question. It is not quite faith but is on the continuum.

The more acute version is "hold still or I'll stop."

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RE: "Mental bondage" - 8/2/2011 11:04:49 AM

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I have to echo what sunshinemiss said. For me the non physical is more applicable. And he's doing it by being the kind of man I can wholeheartedly trust and who I wouldn't dream of disobeying. It is no small feat, for us. Two and a half years in the making and we're still on that path.

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RE: "Mental bondage" - 8/2/2011 1:04:19 PM

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mental bondage is like wearing an invisible collar and leash.....you can't see it, but you know the person on the other end has all the control.

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RE: "Mental bondage" - 8/2/2011 7:52:44 PM

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Like everyone said, its a mentality...an inability to disobey that isn't the least bit physical. In the bedroom, I enjoy a form of "mental bondage" in which feelings of intimidation are a component.

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RE: "Mental bondage" - 8/3/2011 4:55:54 AM

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I worked for a doctor once who had a kind of a sixth sense about diagnosing people. He was right on the button every time. When he told me to do something to help a patient - even if it was weird - I did it. He had a gift, and I respected that. He also had a level of ethics that is all too rare in the world. He never once abused his power and in fact was deeply humble man. His "Dr. X-ness" led me to never question his judgment and to follow anywhere he led. To me, that is "mental bondage" more or less.

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RE: "Mental bondage" - 8/3/2011 8:24:55 AM

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Great comments, all! Thanks for sharing and (hopefully) continuing to share.

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RE: "Mental bondage" - 8/3/2011 7:22:23 PM

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My Master does not agree with a collar..I asked my Master if he would collar me..He did not like the idea that it could come off and mentally I might feel unowned...So instead he used mental bondage. He used to make me do things to him that I did to patients at work... every thing in my daily routine he has implanted a thought of him...I remember at first being very angry that he had done things to make me think about him all day long...It was a distraction at first..But now that I understand what he was doing to me..I actually really like it even more than wearing a collar. It had more meaning to me than the collar because of how much work that went into it...It's a feeling like he is always with me..that no matter what I do I dont need a collar to remind me I'm his... he has planted him self in my thoughts through out my day to remind me of that... It's pretty awesome and I highly recomend it... xoxo

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