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Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 4:43:29 AM

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i have -- on occassion -- initiated contact with a Dom or Master whose profile appealed to me. Generally i am met with (1) you must be a desparate slut or (2) you are annoying Me.

Don't Men like to get email?

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 4:47:18 AM

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quote:

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i have -- on occassion -- initiated contact with a Dom or Master whose profile appealed to me. Generally i am met with (1) you must be a desparate slut or (2) you are annoying Me.

Don't Men like to get email?

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I can't answer why you would get such responses. I send emails out all the time and I don't think I have ever gotten a response like that. I'd just move on to the next one though and not let it bother me.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 5:03:32 AM

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I've initiated contact a few times as well candystripper, and i either get a polite response....or none at all.
But , no rudeness to date...besides, i've read in thread after thread ( ha...pardon the rhyme) that Doms seem to prefer the sub to initiate contact.??

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 5:29:56 AM

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really???

It seems that most of the men on here are complaining that they do not get any email. My guess is that you are targeting those control freak types that feel that if they are not making the first move you are stepping on their fragile machismo.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 5:35:05 AM

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I for One love getting emails, it's a natural way to communicate, sometimes revealing a little about both parties not necessarily by content but by style and flow. I think much is revealed in the way others respond.
Of course, I love the banter as well, and this forum affords plenty of opportunity.
frankly, men who respond to you in a deroggatory way usually means they don't deserve you OR are so full of themselves there isn't room for anyone else.

best of luck candy!

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 5:57:12 AM

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I always feel like im opening a christmas present when I open an email :D

Maybe they are roleplaying?

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 6:05:48 AM

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Don't Men like to get email?

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I think it's just that they don't want email from you.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 6:19:49 AM

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I love all e-mails. Those who flatter me, those who chastise me, those who disagree with me and those who just stop by to say "hi" and then run off. I answer them all, even the nasty grams. If someone took the trouble to contact you, no matter what the intention, I think I should afford them the courtesy of replying back.....Just my .02

P.S. Except for the 300lb gay guy who described in detail what he wanted to do with my skinny ass.....Now, he was scarey!

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 6:27:51 AM

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It might be your affirmed dislike of fishing; I know that that would be a deal breaker with Me. lol
I guess that you've never had any erotic experiences by the side of a small running stream with a copse of trees nearby for some suspension and single tail play. wefg
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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 6:47:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

i have -- on occassion -- initiated contact with a Dom or Master whose profile appealed to me. Generally i am met with (1) you must be a desparate slut or (2) you are annoying Me.

Don't Men like to get email?

candystripper

You might be scaring them to death.

I don't mean there's anything specific to who you are or how your profile reads. It's just that so many people complain about "fake" submissives, but I suspect there are just as many dominants who treat this like a Xbox and those on it like programs.

Just think how frightening it would be if the TV came on and there was a Marine from Quake saying "Grab your gear!."

I suspect that a lot of the guys on sites like this see the female members as programs they activate by emailing them. The idea of getting an email from them just isn't part of the guy's universe.

The only comfort I can offer is the standard Microsoft cant "This isn't a bug; it's a feature. Anyone who would reject you off the bat, certainly isn't someone you need to waste any time on.

As for possible successes, 13 years ago, on February 19th, Libby wrote an email to a man on Prodigy. We've been together ever since. It's an approach that works with the right man.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 7:03:12 AM

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TY John.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 7:10:07 AM

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As for possible successes, 13 years ago, on February 19th, Libby wrote an email to a man on Prodigy. We've been together ever since. It's an approach that works with the right man.

I must wholeheartedly agree with this. I wrote an email to a man once, in reply to what I thought was one of the best personal ads I'd ever seen. The email was simply to compliment him on his ad, because I was certain my age and the distance between us would not allow us to have anything close to a meaningful relationship. He wrote back, and I was wrong. Although the relationship didn't last more than about six months (because he was married), it was an incredible six months that I would have missed out on had I not written that email.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 7:59:13 AM

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Your problem Candy is your profile. You aren't 18 and a bubble head full of chat room illusions, you sound intelligent and confident which to some of us IS exactly what we are looking for so keep your head held high and keep trying.

I have met any number of long term partners through them emailing me.

What you need to do is look at those nasty emails as bonuses. They instantly identify someone you don't want to waste any more time with.

Now, if you are REALLY daring, post one of your emails for us to discuss.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 8:03:52 AM

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At least You get a reply candy... i have made it a point to reply to EVERY email i ever get... Why is it not just common sence to do the same...

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 8:13:20 AM

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Candy,

Your profile is great and you're cute to boot! These guys were just the wrong guys. I met my Beloved because I sent him an email. Don't give up. Just feel sorry for those men that their mommas didn't teach them better manners and be the lovely lady that you are.

Kim

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 8:15:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper
i have -- on occassion -- initiated contact with a Dom or Master whose profile appealed to me. Generally i am met with (1) you must be a desparate slut or (2) you are annoying Me.

Don't Men like to get email?

Looks like you have simply had the misfortune to pick idiots with few social skills to send mails to.

The young lady I came close to collaring a short while back contacted me rather than responding to a mail I sent out. Heck she didn't even show up on my search, let alone get a mail from me.

The only ones who get either no responce or a curt one are obvious trolls or one liners. Even if I have no interest in the person I tend to respond to everything else, even if it is just a polite, thanks but no thanks.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 8:19:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

i have -- on occassion -- initiated contact with a Dom or Master whose profile appealed to me. Generally i am met with (1) you must be a desparate slut or (2) you are annoying Me.

Don't Men like to get email?

candystripper

I have NEVER received that type of response that you mention, and I have emailed a decent number of men. It may be that some of these men have a problem with women who make the first move, none of my male [lifestyle and vanilla] friends would have a problem with it, if anything, they would be flattered that you liked them and decided to make the first move, it shows that you are not mainstream. Bravo to you. Who cares what those morons think; their egos evidently cannot handle you making the first move, it must attack their 'pride' or something moronic like that.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 8:56:43 AM

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I haven't had much luck initiating contact either, but no one has ever been rude. Mostly I just get polite but close ended responses so I move on.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 9:05:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

i have -- on occassion -- initiated contact with a Dom or Master whose profile appealed to me. Generally i am met with (1) you must be a desparate slut or (2) you are annoying Me.

Don't Men like to get email?

candystripper

"Men" do. Giggling hormonal wanking boys of all ages like to harass people for kicks. Don't confuse the two, and don't take those kind of responses so seriously.

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RE: Why Do Men Resent Getting Email? - 5/19/2006 9:06:26 AM

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I am just noticing you seem to have a lot of issues regarding emails and profiles and interacting with others. Sub men emailing you wanting you to dom them, Doms not responding well to your emails, offending some men in your string because you do not remember them, not knowing what to make of the "don't waste my time" comments in profiles, saddened by men wanting bi women, love letters from a man who is blocking you and so on. I think you should consider some possibilities.

1) Something is going on with you or the way you present yourself that is impacting your collarme experiences negatively.

2) These things are not really big deals but focusing on them a great deal is resulting in an overall negative feeling for you.

3) These things are not really even that negative for you, but you feel compelled to post about them routinely and this gives the perception you have email/profile/interacting issues.

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