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Kaliko -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 2:28:16 PM)

I prefer someone smarter than me. And I'm a fairly smart woman. (I like to think.) I suppose that I can't submit to someone if he's someone I have to explain things to.




Kaliko -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 2:30:20 PM)

FR~

I prefer someone smarter than me. And I'm a fairly smart woman. (I like to think.) I suppose that I can't submit to someone if he's someone I have to explain things to.

And in my world, book smart is just as appealing as common sense. I like a man who knows his facts.



PeonForHer -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 2:30:54 PM)

OK, got that.



PeonForHer -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 2:32:10 PM)

I said, I *got* that.



Arpig -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 2:34:21 PM)

quote:

(short, a few extra pounds, wears glasses, etc.).
PERK!!!

Hi Syl....sooooo....come here often baby?



Arpig -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 2:44:45 PM)

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But, if intelligence is the 'kink', whether it be for the D or s, how would that be expressed in a D/s related activity?
Laying in bed naked and sweaty next to her bound, naked body after a long glorious fuck-fest composing poetry off the tops of our heads.




crazyml -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 2:54:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

lack of intelligence is a deal breaker for me. It has less to do with D/s and more to do with vanilla compatibility.



This, pretty much. With the caveat that dominating an obviously smart, independent, successful woman (however those things are defined - and it really does vary case by case) is a whole lot more rewarding than dominating someone who isn't.





LadyConstanze -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 3:06:16 PM)

It's about compatibility, the male equivalent of a bimbo doesn't appeal, now somebody I don't want to sit down and have a chat with, I have even less desire to tie that person up and do nasty/nice things to him or her.



HisPet21 -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 3:54:20 PM)

As a submissive, I find it completely and utterly impossible to submit to someone who isn't at least as smart as I am, for several reasons. For one, it makes me uncomfortable, for the same reason getting in the car with a drunk driver is uncomfortable: I can't trust them to take the wheel and know what the hell they're doing or where the hell they're going or to keep me safe in the process. For another, in my opinion intelligence IS power. I cannot see a man without intelligence as dominant. I just can't. Intelligence, to me, is the sexiest trait a dominant man can have. I've been hot for nerds all my life. Finally, I do enjoy a good mind fuck. Unintelligent men are just incapable of providing a good mind fuck...it takes a special skill, foresight, and deep understanding of your partner to intimidate her, make her feel your dominance, and keep her safe and secure at the same time.

As for what you can do physically...It's hard to elaborate, other than to say that an intelligent dominant will tend to be more creative, and exciting, in bed and everywhere else because he's got such a big, sexy brain. Plus, he'll get all of my nerdy jokes (and I like my nerdy jokes...).



SuperHappy -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 4:11:42 PM)

Fuck me backwards,

Nothing to do with D/s (though I am sure it helps) but the slightest of physical attraction with large helping of (usually academic) intelligence and I'm a melted pool of goo. Being able to comprehend (and be open to) the D/s dynamic would be a starting point in terms of how that could be 'expressed'.



Awareness -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 4:37:29 PM)

  I'd have to question your fundamental assumption that intelligence is a turn-on.  I don't buy it.

I think it's an enabler which allows personality to develop more fully and express itself in more subtle nuances.  And it definitely allows a higher degree of interplay between two people.  But intelligence is not going to provide attraction where none exists prior.  It's not going to replace the need for the primary physical and personality characteristics which attract people to each other.

In answer to your question - no.  It's not capable of being expressed in any primary physical form - that's an attempt to devolve what is a fairly dramatic enabler operating on multiple levels and having impacts in multiple areas of someone's existence into a single physical attribute you can worship.

In true irony, you're attempting to dumb down intelligence.



LadyAngelika -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 7:21:56 PM)

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If intelligence is a turn on for any of you


It is for me. The biggest turn on actually.



NuevaVida -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 7:34:09 PM)

No, intelligence doesn't turn me on.  It impresses me, and at times I respect it, and I often enjoy it (the caveat is I've known some really intelligent assholes in my day).  But it doesn't turn me on, if by "turn on" you mean sexually.  His demeanor, style, and character turn me on, his power turns me on, but not his level of intelligence - I get something else out of that.

What I gathered from your additional post is that you're wondering how intelligence can influence the ideas a dominant/master has when enjoying someone physically.  I think that has more to do with creativity than intelligence, although maybe the two go hand in hand at times.  I know the Mister is very creative when it comes to correcting and redirecting my focus, for example.  It's physical, in that it goes beyond discussing, but he makes sure the exercise (for lack of a better word) is crafted to zone into my head and heart, so that the message hits home, is learned, and is not forgotten.



Kaliko -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 8:03:35 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I said, I *got* that.



LOL - I don't know why my computer does that sometimes. I guess I'm not as smart as I think I am.



Vargus2 -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 8:06:04 PM)

What I would like to know is , just which one of the seven different kinds of intelligence that exists are you talking about?

Which one is the biggest turn on?



sunshinemiss -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 8:10:59 PM)

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Right off the bat........I won't have to explain how to operate my french press.
Has a French press and uses it daily!

I can enjoy an intelligent conversation about a multitude of things that interest me,
books,  check
movies, check
documentaries, check
etc. check cetera

I can give them a research task and have it be less painful than pulling teeth to describe what I actually need.
... is off to do some research today...

They would likely be gainfully employed.
check.

sunshine,
LaT's perfect chick....
that whole ocean thing might be a problem...
YAY!



sunshinemiss -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 8:15:12 PM)

ORIGINAL: crazyml

... dominating an
obviously smart check
independent check
successful woman check
...  is a whole lot more rewarding than dominating someone who isn't.
... another continent problem (because I'm not incontinent *giggles*)

This thread is thrilling and heartbreaking all at the same time!
sunshine




Tantriqu -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 8:37:54 PM)

Domme-ing someone who isn't intelligent would just be bullying bordering on abuse, and a complete turn-off.
But to dominate an intelligent good man: *tingle*
And to dominate a sensuous, intelligent, well-read, self-assured, good man: *TINGLE*
And to dominate a sensuous, intelligent, well-read, self-assured, good man with a dry wit: Lie down, I think I love you.



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 8:42:04 PM)

there are so many ways to define intelligent; i kinda agree with leadership on the "interesting" front. someone can be just mind-bogglingly intelligent, but lack the ability or social aptitude to actually hold conversations and relate to people. there are plenty of super-intelligent people in the physics department of my old school, but most of them were just impossible to relate to. =p
so being "intelligent" isn't the end-all, be-all to me.
i think of it more as mental compatibility.

as to the OP, i think Sylvere kinda wrapped that one up. ^_^ that sort of thing is very interesting, and it's important to be mentally compatible to pull that sorta stuff off.



Arpig -> RE: Intelligence. (8/5/2011 9:38:21 PM)

Come on Sunny, what do you have against ad-lib poetry?

quote:

ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
(the caveat is I've known some really intelligent assholes in my day).
Ahhhhhhhhh....this might be my problem...



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