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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/22/2006 4:15:26 PM

OhBeMyMind

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I can relate to many things you ladies have said. The smoking comments really hit home, as I am a smoker, and about 2 weeks ago decided.....no, thought about quitting.....I can't say decided because in reality if I had decided I would probably have quit by now, which I have not. I have quit before, when I was pregnant it was easy then because I had someone else to think about growing inside of me. Now, it seems almost impossible, and I do not know why. Maybe because I enjoy smoking too much, not sure.
So I tried the gum, no thanks it burns my throat. I bought the patches and insanely find myself smoking anyway...lol....yeah, I know, not a good idea, especially when the box clearly states, do not smoke while on the patch. Pretty pathetic.
Sir has opted not to step in yet, he says he would much rather see me quit on my own. He is an ex smoker, and has been quit for many years now.
So how do I do it? I want to quit, but I cannot say with 100% accuracy that I am ready to quit.
Any of you ex-smokers have suggestions, advice, magic wands, miracle potions?
I have tried chewing gum, rubber bands (heh, yeah right), keeping chrunchy veggies with me, chewing on straws (how attractive is that? LOL).....what is a girl to do?

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/22/2006 4:32:26 PM

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Thanks Jewel... I like your new picture too; it looks like the picture of a lady who is sexy, happy and comfortable.

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I have quit before, when I was pregnant it was easy then because I had someone else to think about growing inside of me. Now, it seems almost impossible, and I do not know why. Maybe because I enjoy smoking too much, not sure.

dear OhBeMyMind, I've got no words of wisdom there, because I'm pretty bad about giving up things I enjoy myself; but just as you quit for pregnancy, so too you could quit for the love of your master and your lil one perhaps??? I'm also going to give you piggish advice and suggest master perhaps threaten to occupy your mouth with other cylindrical things instead of cigarettes every time you threaten to light up and he's around.

M

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/22/2006 4:35:28 PM

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The obvious answer is one that's not as easy as those that fantasize about My chosen lifestyle would think. Keeping your mouth locked about His "Thingy" would be a tad pleasureable to the both of you, but all good things must come to an end when desensitivity causes you to be gentle with His pee pee. weg
I awoke today, pissedoff because, I had started smoking again in My dream; not a few tokes and then realizing in horror that, I've unconsciously inhaled a toxic and habituating substance one, I've already done that one a couple-three times, but a stale, three pack special of Full-flavored Kool Super Longs.
I immediately thanked the god's that it wasn't real as I exhaled what felt like a lungchokin' inhalation of cigarette smoke, reached for My robe, searched its pockets for a pack of Wrigley's EXTRA sugarfee spearmint chewing gum. It's been just over a year and a half since, I stopped the last time, and I still find My addictions recognition triggered by simple things, post-coital, pre-coital, and during withdrawal. weg
Laser therapy seems to be big here in Sin City, at least there are several clinics and a fair amount of ad' copy in the local rags and tv. Have no idea if they're effective or not, but as I undrstand it they're targeting some of the same areas on the ear that accupuncturist frequently use to help a smoker.
If the damnable vanilla influences of life prevents your beggin' for another rump romp everytime that you feel the urge to smoke, I'd recommend that you continue using chewing gum as a temp' crutch. I know that, I will since, I do suffer from the intrusions of daily life. lol
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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/22/2006 5:07:55 PM

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OhBe...sorry there's no magic cure. I just stopped. Bout killed me but that's what I did.

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/22/2006 6:05:00 PM

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You are such a sweetie.

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/23/2006 7:12:21 AM

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I have to say that the whole quitting smoking there, there is no easy answer for. I smoked for years and after sitting up late one night with a good book I could not put down and smoking wayyyyyyyyyyyyy too much while doing so. I woke up the next morning feeling so horrible I just got mad and said "thats IT!". I chewed alot of bubblegum, much to my co-workers annoyance and made myself sick of Werthers Originals. That was 15 years ago and now am one of those really annoying former smokers that cannot stand the smell of it on anything or anyone. But, after seeing the affects of it on others I am really glad I made that decision. I think its just one of those things you really have to want to do. When you get to that point you will figure out a way with or without any of the crutches we all try to find to help us.

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/23/2006 8:41:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

Unfortunately, aging happens, and as menopause approaches, our metabolism slows dramatically. Less food and more exercise is the only solution, even though it really sucks to be hot flashing in the middle of a workout!!!

However, there ARE things that can be done to slow the visible signs. First and foremost - stop smoking! Smoking ages your skin like nothing else can. First the eyes, and then all the little pucker creases will start around your mouth. Those are a lot harder to get rid of. Experience talking here.

Then, drink LOTS of water. Keep your skin hydrated from the inside. Use a good moisturizer daily. And to help minimize fine lines, I recommend Avon's "Anew" facial peel, "Anew" Advanced All-in-one perfecting cream, and "Anew" Perfect eye care cream. Basically, you can't go wrong with the Anew line. I use these products faithfully, and they work. My skin is healthier now than it's ever been and, at 47, I've got almost no wrinkles. Now I just have to remember to use the hand creams to get rid of the crepy skin on the backs of my hands.

And no, I'm not an Avon dealer.

i have smoked since i was 16, and have no wrinkles. Good genes, i suppose. i think 32 is rather young to be developing wrinkles; i'd recommend a dermatologist, not an OTC product. i agree with the Op that metabolism slows; i gained 10 lbs in my 30's and another in my 40's. i think as you age, you need to choose "between your face and your ass"; i got down to a size 12 and really looked haggard. 16/18 is an ideal size for me.

Let me add this: i know NOW i was a stunner as a younger woman, but was terribly insecure about my looks and did not know it. i am obviously "differently" attractive at 52, and feel much more confident. i think as we age, we lose the societal imprometur of the Victoria's secret model. i have tried hard to reinforce my daughter's self-image, and think i have done a good job.

Physical beauty is nothing without inner beauty, but they are not incompatible.

candystripper

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/23/2006 12:54:43 PM

GoddessDustyGold

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OhBeMyMind,
There is no easy way to quit. Take it from one who did quit for over 4 years and stupidly started again some 5 years ago. I am working on stopping completely again.
One of the things about habits like cigarette smoking is the triggers. Like smoking after a meal, when you wake up, before bed, on the phone ( a biggie for Me!), after sex... *Grin*
At this point I do want to quit, but not quite ready to take it all the way. I am no longer smoking in the house. I have to go outside (In Arizona in the summer, no less! *Smile*), I try not to smoke in My car, and I have kind of put Myself in a position of really having to think about it and taking the trouble to smoke. It is helping a lot. I am down to as little as 5 cigarettes a day...sometimes as many as 8. I admit I also save the second half, so I do feel like I am smoking more than I actually am, but I am also finding that I desire less and less. So start looking at the automatic triggers and make it harder for yourself to smoke. Also, remember that the urge to have a cigarette will pass in about 10 to 15 seconds. Until the next urge! Deep breathing can help. I do that, and blow out, as if I am exhaling, and it gets Me past the need to light up.
When I am ready, really, really ready...I know it will be easier. But you do have to be really, really ready, and make up your mind that this is important. Then, if needed to help you through the humps, chewing gum and hard candy are helpful.
I am loving this thread, Ladies. And I am also noticing lots of great new pics, such as M's and Jewel's. FireMa'am, I love yours also. Mine are a year old. Guess I should get cracking! I just always think I look the same, so why bother! LOL

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/23/2006 1:11:10 PM

Wickad

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Great topic and thanks for posting it.

I was a hottie when I was in my early 20's and thought I was fat. Into my mid 20's I'd gained a bit of weight but was by no means fat - I thought I was fat. 30 came and went so fast that I have no idea what I thought about my body type. Now, approaching my mid 30's I know I'm fat.

I don't think there will ever be a time when our actual selves match up with our image of ourselves. I believe this is a quiet conspiracy to keep people buying 'stuff' to alleviate or cure our body dismorphia. I take medication that makes weight loss hard and I am simply lazy (this also makes weight loss hard - lol). I know that buying a great car or that new fangled kitchen gadget won't make me thinner so I've quit buying into all the weight hype.

I do want to lose weight because I would like to fit 'non-plus' size cloths and because I want to feel better and have more energy. I do fear that losing weight will bring extra attention from the men in the form of cat-calls and sexual innuendo. This is the real reason that I am heavy.

Does anyone else see the benefits of getting heavier?

Wickad

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/23/2006 1:11:16 PM

LaTigresse

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Also for the skin stuff I wanted to interject. I also found myself plagued with the pimples but not wanting to damage my ever more delicate skin. Isomers has a fabulous line of skin products that is not outragously expensive. You name the problem and they have a solution for it. Everything from crepey to wrinkles to dark circles to dry skin to the oily and pimply and every combination thereof. Their Australian Harvest line for the oily pimply combined with a light moisturizer and some other magic serums truely has my skin looking better than it has since prepuberty. If I even start getting low I panic and get online and order more. And no, sorry I don't work for them, or own any stock DAMMIT as they are privately owned. I just love the products. I had breakout problems from puberty until I discovered their stuff and thought I would have bad skin forever. My profile photo is sans makeup just before I cut my hair. I used to wear makeup obsessively to cover the blemishes and now I don't even worry about it.
I know I probably sound a bit like sales person but damn, if anyone else is as miserable as I was about my face and I can give them a tip that helps I will be thrilled.

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/23/2006 2:06:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wickad

Great topic and thanks for posting it.

I was a hottie when I was in my early 20's and thought I was fat. Into my mid 20's I'd gained a bit of weight but was by no means fat - I thought I was fat. 30 came and went so fast that I have no idea what I thought about my body type. Now, approaching my mid 30's I know I'm fat.

I don't think there will ever be a time when our actual selves match up with our image of ourselves. I believe this is a quiet conspiracy to keep people buying 'stuff' to alleviate or cure our body dismorphia. I take medication that makes weight loss hard and I am simply lazy (this also makes weight loss hard - lol). I know that buying a great car or that new fangled kitchen gadget won't make me thinner so I've quit buying into all the weight hype.

I do want to lose weight because I would like to fit 'non-plus' size cloths and because I want to feel better and have more energy. I do fear that losing weight will bring extra attention from the men in the form of cat-calls and sexual innuendo. This is the real reason that I am heavy.

Does anyone else see the benefits of getting heavier?

Wickad

It takes guts and assertiveness to deflect the unwanted attention of Men.....not things submissives generally have in abundance. i did not perv your profile and do not have any idea what you weigh, but at some point, the health risks, such as diabetes, outweigh any pyschological defense mechanism. As i said, older women generally look haggard when too thin, but there's a happy medium.

i'd suggest you try to remember a time when you felt pretty -- in the not too distant past -- and use that weight as a goal marker. One thing you should be aware of; older women have a difficult time losing weight but once they begin, they also have a difficult time staying at their ideal weight; they generally continue losing weight. So once you reach your weight loss goal, a new program of exercise and caloric intake is needed.

i feel so much more confident at 52 than i did at 22; it is a combination of good genes and the peaceful nature of maturity. i'm not sure when this happened; maybe about age 35. It probably varies for every woman.

If you cannot find that peacefulness, i'd suggest a good therapist. i'm not accusing you of being dysfunctional, but a good therapist can help break down those mental blocks associated with weight issues in much less time than one can do it alone.

Many blessings.

candystripper

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/23/2006 2:06:33 PM

Wickad

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Ohhh,... as for skin care I'd recommend ProActive.

I know, I know - it's on an infomercial but it really works for adult cystic acne. Befor I started using this product I had weeks where I felt I couldn't leave the house due to huge, red, painful lumps and then the resulting large red sores after they had burst, and this was after a round of Acutane (heavy medication with all kinds of bad side-effects)

My sister, who has been plagued with cystic acne all her life (has done 6 cycles of Acutane) is now pretty much acne free for the first time in her life.

I can't say enough about ProActive. Well, I guess I can ... lol ... it's inexpensive as well. 3 months worth of ProActive costs just under $80 Canadian. That's about $27 Canadian a month and includes a cleanser, toner, and solution.

Wickad

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/23/2006 2:18:22 PM

Wickad

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candystipper,

Thank you for your thoughts and insight. However, due to my genetics I don't think I'll ever have the problem of being 'too' thin - lol.

I've started another thread on this topic so as to not hi-jack this one.

Wickad

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/23/2006 5:03:02 PM

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I'll be turning 29 in thirteen days. I would like to be more fit than I am now when I turn 30 next year. And I fully believe this is possible.

When I was a kid, I was a tiny little critter that weighed next to nothing (65 pounds at age 11) but I was a fighter and a runner. I could kick most boy's asses and outrun most of those kids my age. My upperbody was bony, but I could do more chin-ups than any other girl. My thighs were heavily muscled in odd contrast. Then... in the middle of my 6th grade year (elementary where I grew up, middle school where I ended up) my parents moved to a different state.

I wasn't rich. I wasn't pretty. And I wasn't an 'alpha' anymore in "my" group of kids. Middle school's attitude is completely different than elementary's and I got thrown in during the middle of the year. Disaster! I got depressed. I hated the weather in Texas. I had no real friends. I sat inside during the summer and ate sugar and bread. Needless to say, I got chubby.

So I've never actually seen my adult frame fighting fit. I'm not hugely overweight, but I'm not what I could/should be either. My back is sore a lot, partly due to a car wreck I was in when I was 19. But the right exercises could help that, I'm sure. I have silvery gray hairs coming in now, and they shine like tinfoil in sunlight. Must be a family thing. My 22 year old red-headed sister has them also. At least I know that I'll 'gray' attractively. I like silver.

So... while I have never felt myself to be any great beauty, I don't feel completely repulsive, either. I'll never have a large bust, but I can probably get my small waist back with work. Better do it now, I guess.

Good thread, guys.

zuma

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 5/26/2006 2:12:00 PM

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No wonder they call him " Father Time" he tends to wreck havoc on the females and the males just get to be dignified, distinguished, and sexier...How is that for so not fair?
Great post and wonderful thoughts seem we all end up in the same dilemma....

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RE: I'm getting fat and wrinkled. - 6/6/2006 11:11:39 AM

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A song I listen to when I feel down about myself physically.

"Video"
by India.Arie

[Verse 1]
Sometimes I shave my legs and sometimes I don�t
Sometimes I comb my hair and sometimes I won�t
Depend of how the wind blows I might even paint my toes
It really just depends on whatever feels good in my soul

[Chorus]
I�m not the average girl from your video
And I ain�t built like a supermodel
But I learned to love myself unconditionally,
Because I am a queen

I not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I�m wearing I will always be
India.Arie

[Verse 2]
When I look in the mirror and the only one there is me
Every freckle on my face is where it�s suppose to be
And I know my creator didn�t make no mistakes on me
My feet, my thighs, my Lips, my eyes, I�m loving what I see

[Chorus]

[Verse 3]
Am I less of a lady if I don�t where panty hose
My momma said a lady ain�t what she wears but what she knows�
But I�ve drawn the conclusion, it�s all an illusion
Confusion�s the name of the game
A misconception, a vast deception,
Something got to change

Now don�t be offended this is all my opinion
Ain�t nothing that I�m saying law
This is a true confession
Of a life learned lesson
I was sent here to share with y'all
So get in when you fit in
Go on and shine
Clear your mind
Now�s the time
Put your salt on the shelf
Go on and love yourself
�Cause everything�s gonna be alright

[Chorus]

[Out]
Keep your fancy drink, and your expensive minks
I don�t need that to have a good time
Keep your expensive cars and your caviar
All�s I need is my guitar

Keep your crystal and your pistol
I�d rather have a pretty piece of crystal
Don�t need you silicone, I prefer my own
What god gave me is just fine�

[Chorus]

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