DarkSteven
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15speed, I read your profile, and something about it rubbed me the wrong way.
1. The sentences are staccato, and it somehow gave me the feeling of being yelled at.
2. "Absolute sexual and domestic obedience is MANDATORY!!" What does that mean? She never gets to express an opinion? "Domestic obedience" - what's that? Do you have a punishment dynamic?
3. "I am NOT into major pain or humiliation." So what ARE you into? You're asking a woman to go into a TPE with you - what can she expect?
4. You're expecting a TPE. I'd suggest you give your experience level with TPE.
5. "BEING IN MY PARTICULAR INDUSTRY APPEARS TO BE A PROBLEM FOR MANY SO, IF IF YOU COULD ENLIGHTEN ME( AS TO WHY) IN A RESPECTFUL MANNER I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FORM YOU. " Why did you shout?
6. "If you are truly a slave wanting a new and/ or your first owner, just say so and send me the info that I request with no b.s. and IF I like what I read and/or see, we can move on to other things" "truly", "with no bs", "IF I like.." - why so demanding? If you are inundated with applications, I'd understand this, but you're not.
7. "I HAVE DISCOVERED A NEED TO UPDATE THIS TO MAKE MYSELF CLEAR !!!" Why did you shout?
8. "IF you really have a NEED to be beaten, abused, degraded or humiliated, it will not work. IF you do not have a clear and absolute desire to serve and obey, without conditions, then it won't work, I do not want to have to force." So what do you want? Blowjobs? Bondage sessions? How much work do you expect to do to get your slave to know how to serve you?
9. "My preference for smaller is not set in stone." Then why did you mention it twice in your opening paragraph? Either stick to it or drop it.
10. "IF you are looking for online, part-time or experimenting, you are not committed, and are of no value to me." This sounds to me like you want a woman to drop her entire life and be your FT slave with no trial period.
11. "I am Gorean-minded, but not completely knowledgeable of all things Gorean." This sounds to me like you want to try Gor but don't understand it. Best to omit it.
12. "If you are not happy in your own skin, there is no way for me to fix you. " Add this to #2, #3, #8, and #10 as you pre-rejecting women. And it's on very subjective grounds.
13. "If you read this far and would like to comment, even if you are not asking for consideration, feel free to respectfully do so." Again, you insist upon respect. Any woman who is seriously considering you would automatically be respectful. I consider demanding respect rather than earning it to be a sign of weakness. Also, why are you granting permission to comment? I don't see a need to request permission.
14. "I know the picture is not good, but it is the best I could do with what I have, Maybe someday someone will be available to take a better one." No need to apologize. Your pic is fine.
15. The biggest problem with your profile is that it really doesn't say anything positive about you. Nowhere does it say "I spend 8 months of the year driving around the country and I want someone to be my passenger. See the country, live the outlaw kind of life.", which I'd really expect. You're asking a woman to give up her life and devote herself to you, and you don't paint a picture of what her life would be like.
16. "Submissives are one thing and I understand that. What I don't understand is that those that claim they are slaves and then present a laundry list of "I wants" and "I needs". AM I missing something here?? If you read this and wish to respectfully enlighten me, please do so." HUGE red flag. HUGE. This states that you think that a slave must accept anyone with no conditions whatsoever. This is ridiculously unrealistic and I have never seen this except in men with zero real life experience.
So let me ask you - why is it so important for you to have a woman that never gets to express her opinion or say anything? Why not start off with a Dom/sub relationship and work it toward TPE?
< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 8/15/2011 4:43:14 PM >
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Thanks for taking the time to write that out Steven. Hopefully 15speed you get what you're being told here. It seems you're looking for, well, a 
. Doesn't work that way. If I can't express myself to the one I'm with, then it becomes futile. Slave or submissive, we all have opinions, wants, needs and desires that need to be expressed. I do it respectfully and make sure it's done at an appropriate time. We, as women, like to be considered people first for the most part. Some may be willing to live the life you want, but they'll most likely be in the minority.
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