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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 10/19/2004 5:19:35 PM

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the way to my heart is through my brain, not my penis.

!?!?

That's odd.

the shortest way to my heart is through my Sternum...

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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 10/19/2004 8:04:49 PM

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Hmm, I don't submit because I'm sexually stimulated or because it turns me on. I don't dominate to be turned on, nor does it sexually stimulate me.

I do it because it's fun and I enjoy it and there is something in me that says it's a need, and because it's always challenging and because every time I reach out and go for that higher bar I learn something new or something more about myself and what I'm made of.

Maybe it's because I don't do BDSM to get turned on that I find that would be a very shallow dynamic and a weak motivator for me. (note - I said *for me*, lol)

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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 10/19/2004 9:47:49 PM

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the shortest way to my heart is through my Sternum...

Technically, I believe your heart is closer to your spine (back) than your sternum, the reason they go through the sternum to get to it is there is less tissue damage...

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 10/22/2004 6:00:46 AM

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What I've found to be most interesting in my own search and pursuit of BDSM is that when I am able to find a woman that is intelligent and a good communicator, everything seems to come together well. I for one do not believe BDSM should be built upon sex. I do however think that it adds to the success in the relationship for there to be a physical attraction.

However, all of that said, I pursue the one that has the mind that wants to be turned on, and for the very reason that many of the things that can be pursued in BDSM might be things that you can do when not together with your Dom/sub. If the mind is engaged, then to know that during the day for instance you are doing just what you were told by your Dom, that adds to the moment when you finally get to see them. Just as it does for the Dom to see your obedience. Alas, it looks as if I'm going down another alley now though.

I say all this to point out that there are those that just want to get their kicks, their jollies, or think that because they've been mistreated by someone in their life, then to go and "Dominate" someone else will make them a Dom/me. I tire of those that won't take the time to share what they want and how they want it.

Yes, it is up to the Dom in my opinion to make the decision on what is done and when, however, a good submissive I believe will bring their own ideas to the relationship and a good Dom will in turn incorporate them.

This is why I am still searching I suppose. I want not only beauty of the body, but radiance and beauty of the mind.

Just my $.02

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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 10/22/2004 9:41:38 AM

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Dance like you've never been hurt and
Love like no one's watching.

that's soooo true Sir.. :)

Please be well & safe!
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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 10/23/2004 1:31:27 AM

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Very nicely said StrictMaster

*smiles*

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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 10/23/2004 8:05:14 PM

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People like to trot out the idea that "pure" BDSM is not about sex. Yet they get hard/wet while doing it. What is up with that? Of course BDSM is about sex! I don't know if people are so uncomfortable with their sexuality that have to put up a wall there, but they are firmly linked. And nothing you do can change that. Just because intercourse might not be involved does not mean that your sexuality is not involved.

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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 10/25/2004 6:37:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subbiejenn

Very nicely said StrictMaster

*smiles*

~jenn~

Thank you very much jenn. Nice to know this strikes a chord with some :)

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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 11/3/2004 4:18:33 PM

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I had met a sub and in our first face to face her words to Me were " you know your not my type"

4 hours later I asked her if I still was not her type and the answer was slightly different. She was a smart Lady who knew that she should take the time to see inside.

That being said i still think there has to be some sort of attraction before T/two can go ahead.

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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 11/3/2004 6:46:43 PM

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might be true with most...but not all. I've had submissives to which I had no sexual relation with at all actually. Just a note that not everyone fits into that small box you see. Also there is a difference between sex and sexuality.

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RE: Helpful hint to doms - 11/3/2004 9:55:55 PM

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To submit i need to be physically and mentally turned on.

To dominate (or even be sexually interested) I need to be mentally and physically turned on.

Goes both ways...

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