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Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/17/2011 9:59:49 AM

ghita

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I dont have a "little" persona, we dont really do the ageplay, but our dynamic is most definitely that of Daddy/girl and we both like it that way. Even after the rough parts of the last year or so, we've continued to discuss it and both realize its just the dynamic that "works" for us.

Question is, for those of you who are also in that dynamic...do you ever find yourself wanting to experience other aspects of BDSM that wouldn't quite fit in that dynamic and would actually be effected negatively in some way if they were done by your Daddy? Are there ever times that you want something that it just wouldn't seem right for Daddy to be doing?

Conversely..do Daddy's ever find themselves wanting to do things that they just couldnt see their girl doing?

If so...especially from the girls perspective...how have you handled situations like this? Was the outcome positive or negative? Any advice or suggestions?

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/17/2011 11:23:42 AM

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The last relationship I was in had the Daddy / girl dynamic. I'm a Sadist that didn't want to have her being My outlet for My Sadism, so we discussed poly and finding a female sub / slave to join us.

The situation was positive and negative. Negative because the relationship ended -I chose not to assert My Sadistic desires with her so I wasn't getting all I needed. she was unhappy because I wasn't getting what I needed from our relationship.

Positive because even though the relationship ended, we are friends.

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/17/2011 11:57:18 AM

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I personally am not bound by any labels though i use them all of the time. I am many different things and some of those seem to be paradoxes much like the whore and the Madonna. We go with the current though i recognize that for some this wouldn't work because they need a stronger structure and more defined roles. Are you ALWAYS a (fill in your job title)? Are you always a (mother, daughter, sister)? yes but those roles often push to the back to allow other more salient roles to the forefront. I would suggest not getting bogged down by one single label.

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/17/2011 12:45:58 PM

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It's an interesting question, ghita. Like you, I'm not a "little" and my Daddy and I don't do age play. But he is also my master and my owner - we're not bound by labels, but what this means is that really, whatever we want to explore and/or do is an open field. I see and feel him as all things to me - my owner who is also my Daddy who is also my absolute love who is also my king, who is also...and so on. It all kind of blends together, and while Daddy is the most prevalent facet that he expresses, it's not a surprise or shock when he wants to enjoy something more sadistic.

So in our overall day to day lives, he is a loving caretaker and decision-maker, and retains authority over me. But he can also be a strict disciplinarian or sadistic SOB if he so chooses. But at the end of the day, I'm wrapped up in Daddy's arms, loved and safe.

I do think his own sadistic desires are on the mild side, but sometimes I just ask Daddy to hurt me and he pushes his own envelope to achieve that....and ends up enjoying it. I think for us it isn't that "Daddies shouldn't do - XYZ - " rather it's that there are avenues he has not yet explored. He'll explore them if and when he chooses to.

As for things he can't see his girl doing - - I don't think that applies to us. I'm his baby girl but also his owned slave, personal sex toy, and nasty girl. This is why I find labels too limiting sometimes. We have so many aspects of ourselves to explore, so rather than see each other in ONE particular light, we enjoy the prisms that we are. We might try things that don't work for us and then we can discard them, but if something doesn't work, it's not because it doesn't fit the label.

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/17/2011 2:39:35 PM

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ghita,

Daddy's a sadist and I'm a switch and both a sadist and a masochist. Daddy and I have our DD/lg times when I regress and I'm "little" and we have our S&M times when he flogs the living crap outta me and we both love it. Then I just started a relationship with a sub of my own too. The relationship between us all is, at the base, any regular/nilla relationship, BUT with D/s, DD/lg, polyamory mixed in, and a generous helping of love and caring piled on top for preservation and longevity. It works for us because, after all, who ever said it had to be just one or the other?

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/17/2011 3:42:34 PM

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quote:

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Are there ever times that you want something that it just wouldn't seem right for Daddy to be doing?

Conversely..do Daddy's ever find themselves wanting to do things that they just couldnt see their girl doing?

All the time. We do them. They are soooooo hot. I don't do the "little" persona thing you mentioned but we definitely have the Daddy/baby girl thing going on. No certain age has ever been discussed as we don't choose to spell that out. He IS actually old enough to be my bio father as He's 26 yrs. older than me so......

I like pleasing Him and calling Him "Daddy." I'm His baby girl as well as His property, His friend, His cunt.....you get the picture. We do anything He wants and there's simply nothing weird about it for us because, at the end of the day, we know who we really are and there's nothing weird about any of it to us

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/17/2011 3:44:31 PM

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Dammit....just read the replies and, as usual, NuevaVida already said what I was thinking.....we have a very, very similar dynamic in our relationships

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/18/2011 8:46:30 AM

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Easiest solution...

Call him "Daddy" during certain types of activities, and call him "Master" during other types of activities. Conversely, he calls you "Baby/Little Girl" (or whatever) during certain types of activities, and "slut/cunt/whore/pig" (or whatever) during other types of activities.

Helps keep a clear distinction between the two mind-sets.

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/18/2011 1:26:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

Dammit....just read the replies and, as usual, NuevaVida already said what I was thinking.....we have a very, very similar dynamic in our relationships

luci

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/18/2011 1:35:57 PM

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It's not a matter of doesnt want to do it because he's Daddy, but because he's been raised to believe certain things, and the roughness I would want goes against what he's been raised to believe, and because his Dad was a horrible and abusive bully, he's worried about not becoming his dad.

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RE: Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic... - 9/18/2011 1:44:35 PM

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do Daddy's ever find themselves wanting to do things that they just couldnt see their girl doing?

I've never wanted to do things that I felt would be inappropriate within our Daddy/girl dynamic. Maybe I just see EVERYTHING as appropriate? For example, when I want to hold her down and put my penis inside my little girl, I do it. Is that appropriate for a father and his daughter? Most would say no. But I don't see anything wrong with it. Same thing for giving her a beating, cumming on her face, or humiliating her. Those are all things most people would say aren't appropriate for a father and his child, and yet they work perfectly within our D/lg dynamic.

What activities are you interested in that you can't justify doing within your dynamic?

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