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RE: Without Him :'( - 9/27/2011 9:59:26 AM

kalikshama

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Has this happened to anyone else, getting into this world without knowing clearly what you were doing?

Everybody makes mistakes...I was blissfully invested and happy in a LD relationship that crashed and burned after we moved in together. I'd chosen to ignore all the warning signs. I didn't really know him at all, just my fantasy of him.

Like Arpig says:

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Basically you've been dumped, but he's not sure things will work out with the new girl so he's trying to keep his options open. You're the back up. If things crash and burn with the new GF, then he'll come sniffing around again to rekindle the relationship and have some fun until some new local girl shows up, in which case it will be back to being friends again. Until then, you're on the shelf in the garage.

If you're content to be his Plan B, then good stuff. If not, then take him at his word and move on.

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RE: Without Him :'( - 9/27/2011 4:12:17 PM

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this should be posted in a dear agony aunt section of a local rag, you got burned, learn from it and move on. what are you looking for here? men can be cunts, so can women, that's life

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RE: Without Him :'( - 9/27/2011 7:33:26 PM

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Welcome to CM and the boards. I went through the same thing in my first D/s relationship. He introduced me to it, convinced me he'd be the happiest man in the world if we brought in a "sister" for me. Less than 2 months passed before I became the old toy and was tossed aside. With no warning, I came home and found him gone but no note, no call, nothing. It took awhile to get over it, but I moved on and now know not to get too invested until I've established trust and honesty and also friendship.

Good luck in the future, let him go. You can't play 2nd fiddle if he can't work things out with the live-in girlfriend, you deserve so much better than that.

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RE: Without Him :'( - 9/29/2011 12:30:50 PM

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I know, sometimes I wish I could stop "living for Him", easier said than done.

That would require that you make some effort to have closure and move on.

I tend to be friends with my ex's but never in the case of him wanting to keep his options open. If I were you, I'd just sever the ties completely rather than leaving yourself open to more hurt.

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