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CountDice -> RE: Deal Breakers Anyone? (10/1/2011 10:16:14 AM)
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Good morning,
This thread seems to be getting more interesting on a daily basis. So far, this is the only one I have been inclined to follow to any significant degree.
In response to tj444: It is my assessment that vanillas don’t have any other goal or aspiration beyond simple, plain, generic sex. If that is one’s only goal, why not just get a hooker and be done with it? Many of us in this lifestyle actually need more than just sex. For some of us, this lifestyle is so integral to who and what we are; the play is a significant, if not absolute, prerequisite for anything else. Simple, plain, generic sex is so boring, to me anyway, that I’d rather have nothing than vanilla.
In response to DarkSteven: Poor writing skills, which usually equate to poor communication skills, as well as racial, religious, political intolerance, etceteras… are all indicative of inadequate education and/or intellect. Personally, I prefer to associate with people who are better educated than I am and/or have a higher “IQ” than I do. Now, while not all well-educated/intelligent people possess a sense of humor (some take things much too seriously), most I know do, at least, have an appreciation of humor.
Of course, “must haves” are precisely those and are, typically, non-negotiable. The absence of any will only result in eventual dissatisfaction for one or both participants, and consequently, should be sufficient justification for disqualification. Attitude and perspective should be on that list. If both are not present, no relationship, regardless of type, will survive, without considerably more effort than it is worth. For me, cigarette smoking is not an issue. Actually, if I don’t watch myself somewhat closely, 3 packs a day could be typical for me. Fortunately, I do watch myself and have stayed just under a 1½ pack per day
average for the last 3 years.
LadyHibiscus: We’re a tough bunch? In this lifestyle, to some extent, we have to be; someone’s safety could be at risk.
I absolutely agree with the perspective of no children. The presence of children, regardless of proximity, is always going to be a potentially negative influence on a lifestyle relationship. My wife and I were both smart enough to have never had children: they would have been an unacceptable encumbrance. While I am apolitical, beyond being a registered Libertarian, and completely non-religious, I would have few problems with someone who has either a political or religious perspective, like Endivius, I will not participate or convert… a tall, a short, a long, or otherwise. Basically, as long as she keeps it to herself, we’ll get along without any problems.
Jane Fonda fans? I don’t even want to get started on that subject.
Nasty Nancys? Unfamiliar reference.
Have fun and play safely.
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