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LundDoms4aslave -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/8/2011 6:46:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babytriplove I'm in a vanilla relationship, with a man my age, who does not want to have sex right away. we've been together for 2 months. this isn't my main worry, my worry is that after we start having sex, how do I explain or show what I'm really into when it comes to my turn ons and turn offs. I don't want to waste my time and emotions, getting to like or love this man if my sexual needs and desires aren't going to be met, or even thought about. and I'm terrified that he will be freaked out when or if I do tell him. and would anyone consider it wrong, to keep my vanilla life completely seperate in this situation and just be safe with a master on the side? :/ are you sure he is fully vanilla. he may be a kinky man hiding it. give it time ask questions and share what you like in a relationship, sex and submission wise slowly. gage how he reacts and if he doesnt react in a way you like then think about just looking for a Dom for your self and leaving vanilla men alone. Good Doms know how to appear vanilla when it matters.

HannahLynHeather -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/8/2011 7:36:19 PM)
quote: give it time ask questions and share what you like in a relationship, sex and submission wise slowly. why? why the fuck drag it out and let the poor fucker get more emotionally invested. just get it out in the open now before things go any further, this shit should have been discussed long before she moved in. sweet mary's alabaster tits! don't people fucking talk shit over first any more? i mean commit then figure out if you're compatible seems like a pretty fucked up plan of action to me.

babytriplove -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/8/2011 8:33:16 PM)
none of you realize what being 18 entails. this is my conclusion. don't have kids. please, for their own sanity.

littlewonder -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/8/2011 8:47:43 PM)
too late. I have a 20 year old...been there, done that and I'd give her the same advice...but thanks for playing.

lizi -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/8/2011 8:52:18 PM)
Ffs...you aren't that special. That's right, none of us remember and that's why people were nice to you here and spent their time answering you. [8\|] Here you come back with the age old BS that no one understands you and no one at all remembers being young. Boo hoo. Some of us do have children and they're wildly successful ones at that, have made something of themselves even at the age of 18. I'm not special, there are way too may people here that can claim the same thing. Which of course you couldn't know because you're too busy feeling butthurt. If you had only reached half the level my kids have I'd still try to help, but honestly you'll never be at their level.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/8/2011 9:05:08 PM)
I remember when my nephew was about 13, he said to me "I'm a skateboard rebel, nobody understands me." It took all my will power not to laugh in his face. Seriously, this post was about the lamest thing I have read on CM, yet. Since none of us could possibly understand the wildly complicated life of an 18 year old, figure out your own stupid problem . Which by the way, was really stupid. Common sense should have given you your answer, do you honestly not know that cheating and lying are wrong? If in fact you haven't figured that out yet, I guess I would say the same thing to you. Please, please, please don't have kids yourself. Have fun being a rebel without a clue. quote: ORIGINAL: babytriplove none of you realize what being 18 entails. this is my conclusion. don't have kids. please, for their own sanity.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/8/2011 10:11:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babytriplove none of you realize what being 18 entails. this is my conclusion. don't have kids. please, for their own sanity. I bet your parents are thinking the same thing. Do you know that every teenager, and face it kid, that's what you are, runs around yelling "you don't realize what it's like! You don't know what being my age entails!" Do you think we all crawled out from under a rock at our current ages? You are a silly kid who moved in with a guy she barely knows, and the best solution you can come up with is to cheat on him. My conclusion is that you have no idea what being an adult is. Please don't have kids until you stop being one yourself.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/8/2011 10:42:02 PM)
quote: none of you realize what being 18 entails. this is my conclusion. don't have kids. please, for their own sanity. Now, since I am 18, and obviously do realize what that entails, I will tell you that I agree with the gist of what you have been told on this thread. Usually I am the first to jump to the defense of anybody who has the age card played on them, but in this case I am not going to. Your posts display exactly the attitude that causes them to do that to other more sensible 18 year olds, so have at her ladies, with my blessing.

RaspberryLemon -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/8/2011 11:54:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather quote: none of you realize what being 18 entails. this is my conclusion. don't have kids. please, for their own sanity. Now, since I am 18, and obviously do realize what that entails, I will tell you that I agree with the gist of what you have been told on this thread. Usually I am the first to jump to the defense of anybody who has the age card played on them, but in this case I am not going to. Your posts display exactly the attitude that causes them to do that to other more sensible 18 year olds, so have at her ladies, with my blessing. Agreed. Having only recently turned 19, it's not a far stretch to assume I remember what being 18 is like. And quite frankly I don't see how any of the posts in here point towards people "not realizing what being 18 entails." They're just being blunt and honest and answering the questions that were asked. I have heard many times that when people ask for advice they already know the answer, but they don't want to hear it or any actual advice--they just want validation to justify their desires and actions. This thread is incredible evidence for that little theory.

coookie -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 6:33:32 AM)
What don't we understand?I have a 17 year old and if he came to me with this question i would be shocked. Now that you are a big girl you can't yell out that no one understand and run to your room and throw yourself on the bed. You are an adult. You are making adult decisions now. I am not saying that you will not screw up. You will and it will be up to the people around you to decided if they can or will forgive you for the screw ups you make. You will lose people in your life because of your screwups so tread carefully and think about consequences before you act. Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him you like things a bit more extreme than other people sexually. Talk about different kinks with him (start with ones that you feel more comfortable with). You said that vanilla people are prejudiced against us but i can tell you that i have met more that are accepting than not.

seekerofslut -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 6:51:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Some guys are gentlemen. Isn't it lucky that most of us aren't? [sm=sex.gif]

poise -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 8:03:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babytriplove okay I have been misunderstood here. If anyone has misunderstood you, its because you witheld some important information, like the fact that you were already roomates. Did the relationship start before or after becoming roomates? Do you each have your own bedroom, or are you sleeping together? What inspired you to commit to signing a lease with him? Did he invite you to come live with you out of necessity on your part, with the understanding that there wouldnt be any hanky panky? Do you see how details can help in assessing and advising you further regarding your questions? quote: ORIGINAL: babytriplove I wouldn't start calling him gay or that I'm a bitch, because I just asked him, he said I've never been a bitch to him. and he wouldn't be gay. Here would have been a great opportunity for you to discuss your issues further. Hey roomate/boyfriend/potential Dom, I'm on this forum asking questions about our lack of sex, and they say I'm a bitch. Do you think I'm a bitch? You aren't gay are you? What are your thoughts on being the one in control in the bedroom? See how easy that could have been? quote: ORIGINAL: babytriplove coming from the suburb community that I come from, versus the "hood" of our city, we have a lot of interesting times. and we cuddle, normal stuff. just no sex. I'm not sure what geography or social standings have to do with your lack of sex? People in the hood have sexual issues just like the next person, and also know whether it's morally right or wrong to cheat on someone you committed yourself to. quote: ORIGINAL: babytriplove I'm still new to relationships, I've been in only one, and we broke up recently. I introduced it to my ex, and he was fine with it, but idk about this one. I'm confused and I needed advice. I still stand by the advise I gave you earlier, but first determine if this is truly a man you want to continue a relationship with, and not just some one you picked up on the rebound. Sometimes we make the mistake of comparing new relationships to old ones, and you could possibly be trying to fill that emptiness up with how things used to be.

GreedyTop -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 8:49:05 AM)
adores Poise

poise -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 9:14:08 AM)
virtually squeezes you back

GreedyTop -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 9:19:15 AM)
YAY!! ETA: oops.. guess I'm being fluffy or soemthing.. maybe it teh cheerleader thing?> Which I think makes YOU a co-conspirator?? Fuck if I know...

OsideGirl -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 9:21:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babytriplove none of you realize what being 18 entails. this is my conclusion. don't have kids. please, for their own sanity. Yes, because you're the only person on the face of the planet that's ever been 18.......

Lockit -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 12:18:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babytriplove none of you realize what being 18 entails. this is my conclusion. don't have kids. please, for their own sanity. Parenting advice from teenagers isn't something I recommend too often. Oh I hated my mother many times and often was heard saying... I never want to be like you! Her response was... one day you will have one like you. Damn, that woman cursed me! I had two! The others were challenging, but two were like me and like my mom... thank you very much! My daughter... Mom, why do you always do that... Me... because I do, one day you will understand... (anything longer than that she wouldn't have listened to. Each of my kids went away from mom hating her or something close to it for a year or two. Each came back and thanked me for being the parent I was and doing it all the way I did. Each are parents now and they have happy kids that will challenge them from time to time... but what stands is... what I taught, that my mom didn't teach me and the fact that... one day... you are going to get at least, one just like you. Have fun with that! In your case op... you are really going to be going through parental hell. When a five year old knows it isn't good to lie, steal or be deceitful... you kind of expect an eighteen year old to know. Oh some may have a bit of a temper tantrum... no one understands... you all are mean... (I will never forget my five year old grandson calling me and saying his daddy was being mean to him! I laughed.) but in a few years, you will see just how unacceptable you have been acting.

seekerofslut -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 12:25:59 PM)
After reading all 4 pages of this shit, seems to me the OP may just be needing a good fucking to clear the head, so to speak.

Lockit -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 12:32:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekerofslut After reading all 4 pages of this shit, seems to me the OP may just be needing a good fucking to clear the head, so to speak. Well hell, for that matter, I think many of us could use one of those! Even if we didn't actually need it... I'm sure we could find an excuse that would amount to the same thing. I know I could! [;)]

JanahX -> RE: Advice, sub to sub. (10/9/2011 12:34:22 PM)
OP ------> Stupid comes in all sizes, colors, shapes, and AGES. You may never grow out of this. I speak to 50 yr old men that act like they're 12 and think with their dick. I have come to the conclusion you must have a very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very .... oh and did I say very? - old soul to be a man and not think with your dick. (maybe you have found one of them) WHO KNOWS THESE THINGS???

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