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littlewonder -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 9:50:33 AM)
ok so he's an online wanker like the other 95% online. So? If others enjoy him then so be it. Why does it concern you? You are not the white knight of the girls online. They're adults and can make up their own minds.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 10:47:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven LOL. He's a big bad Dom online and a complete pussy in RL. Sounds like it. quote: ORIGINAL: Switched31 Lol yes he is a cyber Dom. More like a cyberASS. quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt If the purpose of this thread was to out him as an asshole, well done. He's an asshole. So are the "subs" who cyber with him or engage in a cyber relationship with him. I have to agree. lol

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 10:52:42 AM)
can this thread be saved? even though the topic of the title line has probably appeared here before (like with the "what does it mean to be submissive?" threads) it might still be interesting. where do D-types believe it comes from? is it nature/nurture? personality, energy, gender roles, something? for those who don't switch, why don't you switch? for those who do, why do you? how do you express or "feel" dominance? is it mostly a sex thing or a day-to-day life thing? etc etc etc..............................................

mnottertail -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 10:53:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep can this thread be saved? 50/50 chance.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 12:34:18 PM)
quote: I'm not talking about young 18 year old girls straight out of high school either. Of course you aren't, we're too smart to fall for some dumb pud-puller's cyber Dom routine.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 12:52:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep where do D-types believe it comes from? is it nature/nurture? personality, energy, gender roles, something? My personality is more assertive than it used to be. But I think with D/s, it's more about the energy of the other person. If they are submissive I respond as a Domme, if they are more Dominant than me I respond as a sub. It's not so much about gender roles to me. I've both Dommed and subbed with men. Not with women....yet. So far, my experiences w/ women have been 'nilla. for those who don't switch, why don't you switch? for those who do, why do you? how do you express or "feel" dominance? is it mostly a sex thing or a day-to-day life thing? I do switch. I do it because I've discovered I like both sides of the kneel. I started out as a sub, but I discovered that I like both serving and being served. I don't go through periods of being one or the other, I'm both all or at least most of the time. It depends on the energy the other person gives off, whether I feel Domme or sub with him/her. I can be either gentle or sadistic as a Domme. Or both, giving gentle aftercare after making someone squirm and scream. And it's an all over feeling when I Domme, it's not just the power/control, and it's not just sexual. Sometimes it's one or the other...and sometimes it's everything...altogether. It depends on what's happening. ~Hisprettybaby~

ricken -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 2:17:07 PM)
Wow, this isn't what I thought.... I thought this was a good question, and see it's nothing more than a bunch of cyber-drama crap. So maybe I will take it upon myself to bring this thread on point.... I'm only Dom during sex, so I guess I'm just a perv, or as my girl calls "a sick fuck"

JanahX -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 2:43:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Switched31 No no the purpose wasn't to out him as an asshole I think he's doing a good job of that on his own. I guess I'm just wondering if someone thinks they are a real Dom just because they bark out orders and also can you claim to be Dominant 100% when it's clear that this guy is only Dominant online. He and you and whoever is responding to all the online stuff can create anything you set your hearts to. And whatever you do, believe, from the fantasy world you, he, and whomever is participating is as real to ya'all as you want it to be. If someone wants to burn their crotch all on their own because they are needing attention that badly, then that in some way is filling a need for them, and they can call it whatever they want to. Is he a a dom 100% of the time because he says so and by him barking orders to someone online ... he is to someone, if they are doing it and believing in him. Everything is relative when it comes to things like this. Is he a dom 100% of the time to me? Hell no, I dont know him, and from what you've described he sounds like a douche. The question you pose is moot.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 2:49:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hisprettybaby quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep where do D-types believe it comes from? is it nature/nurture? personality, energy, gender roles, something? My personality is more assertive than it used to be. But I think with D/s, it's more about the energy of the other person. If they are submissive I respond as a Domme, if they are more Dominant than me I respond as a sub. It's not so much about gender roles to me. I've both Dommed and subbed with men. Not with women....yet. So far, my experiences w/ women have been 'nilla. for those who don't switch, why don't you switch? for those who do, why do you? how do you express or "feel" dominance? is it mostly a sex thing or a day-to-day life thing? I do switch. I do it because I've discovered I like both sides of the kneel. I started out as a sub, but I discovered that I like both serving and being served. I don't go through periods of being one or the other, I'm both all or at least most of the time. It depends on the energy the other person gives off, whether I feel Domme or sub with him/her. I can be either gentle or sadistic as a Domme. Or both, giving gentle aftercare after making someone squirm and scream. And it's an all over feeling when I Domme, it's not just the power/control, and it's not just sexual. Sometimes it's one or the other...and sometimes it's everything...altogether. It depends on what's happening. ~Hisprettybaby~ thanks for the great post, Hisprettybaby -- so you said that your personality has become more assertive; was there a time when you didnt' desire to be Dominant at all, and it grew over time? or was it there all the while, even though you started as a sub, and it just took you a while to express it? it's also interesting that your experiences have been with men; a lot of people say that they're sub to men, but Dominant with women. hooray for a salvageable topic!

kalikshama -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 3:44:24 PM)
quote: My personality is more assertive than it used to be. But I think with D/s, it's more about the energy of the other person. If they are submissive I respond as a Domme, if they are more Dominant than me I respond as a sub. It's not so much about gender roles to me. I'm like this at work - but the person has to be really alpha (or the company owner) to bring out my submissive side. In the bedroom, I am strictly sub.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 4:41:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep thanks for the great post, Hisprettybaby -- so you said that your personality has become more assertive; was there a time when you didnt' desire to be Dominant at all, and it grew over time? or was it there all the while, even though you started as a sub, and it just took you a while to express it? it's also interesting that your experiences have been with men; a lot of people say that they're sub to men, but Dominant with women. hooray for a salvageable topic! I remember when I first became aware of kink at all, it was in porn - specifically male sub oriented porn I guess - with leather-clad Dominas. When I saw that the women were all Dominant, it left me cold, because I had NO desire to be a Domme. It wasn't until I'd been into kink for a couple years that my attitude started changing and then I became more assertive even in my vanilla life. Then I started thinking about being on the giving end of flogging and such so, with Daddy's supervision, I tried it. I discovered I liked doing things to/for someone and I liked the power. So I became a switch when I realized at that point that I really did enjoy both sides of the kneel. At first, I thought I would be strictly sub to men and Dominant to women, but then I realized I like both Domming and subbing with men. I just haven't been in a situation to play with women yet, or I would have. I think I would like it, since I really am bi. ~Hisprettybaby~

DarkSteven -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 5:32:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Switched31 No no the purpose wasn't to out him as an asshole I think he's doing a good job of that on his own. I guess I'm just wondering if someone thinks they are a real Dom just because they bark out orders and also can you claim to be Dominant 100% when it's clear that this guy is only Dominant online. 1. I don't bark out orders. I say them respectfully. If they're not done, she knows she will have disappointed me. 2. I have done online and phone. I prefer in person.

TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 5:41:24 PM)
quote: Ok anyways I know this guy who is married claims to be dominant a very very strict Dom if you will he patrols the Internet looking for woman (by the way I do not know him in real life) If you don't know him offline (it's all real life) how do you know he's doing all this? Fire

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 6:50:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hisprettybaby I remember when I first became aware of kink at all, it was in porn - specifically male sub oriented porn I guess - with leather-clad Dominas. When I saw that the women were all Dominant, it left me cold, because I had NO desire to be a Domme. It wasn't until I'd been into kink for a couple years that my attitude started changing and then I became more assertive even in my vanilla life. Then I started thinking about being on the giving end of flogging and such so, with Daddy's supervision, I tried it. I discovered I liked doing things to/for someone and I liked the power. So I became a switch when I realized at that point that I really did enjoy both sides of the kneel. At first, I thought I would be strictly sub to men and Dominant to women, but then I realized I like both Domming and subbing with men. I just haven't been in a situation to play with women yet, or I would have. I think I would like it, since I really am bi. ~Hisprettybaby~ that's interesting; usually when i talk to switches they basically say they've always been that way, so it's interesting to see someone who had a progression. right now, i feel pretty adamant that i don't want to dominate anyone; i don't really even want to Top anyone. the only person i've engaged in a non-sub way was a puppy player, and he reminded me of my dog. =p hahahaa do you have people you can switch with, or do you generally just keep one role per interaction ?

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 6:57:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep that's interesting; usually when i talk to switches they basically say they've always been that way, so it's interesting to see someone who had a progression. right now, i feel pretty adamant that i don't want to dominate anyone; i don't really even want to Top anyone. the only person i've engaged in a non-sub way was a puppy player, and he reminded me of my dog. =p hahahaa do you have people you can switch with, or do you generally just keep one role per interaction ? I have Daddy, my Dom, and I used to have a submissive also. Now I'm again looking for a sub. I don't switch with one person. I have a Dominant and then a whole separate person as a submissive. I know some switches switch with one person but, for some reason, I just couldn't wrap my mind around subbing to someone and then Domming him/her the next day or even in the same scene. What I have done is been at play parties with my Dom and my sub. I will Domme my sub first and then sub to Daddy....because I don't want to Domme someone while I'm still under any residual effects of my own subspace, as I don't think that would be safe. ~Hisprettybaby~

xCallMeSirx -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/15/2011 2:31:59 PM)
I'm not sure anyone can be 100% Dom, being 100% Dom would likely land you in prison. Good chance prison will bring out a percentage of sumission or you will end up dead. So I doubt anyone can live very long as 100% Dom [;)] I am Dominant most of the time but in a quiet, confident, leading by example kind of way.

DarkSteven -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/15/2011 2:52:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xCallMeSirx I'm not sure anyone can be 100% Dom, being 100% Dom would likely land you in prison. Good chance prison will bring out a percentage of sumission or you will end up dead. So I doubt anyone can live very long as 100% Dom [;)] I am Dominant most of the time but in a quiet, confident, leading by example kind of way. Huh? Being Dominant means being in control. Not against the law by any means.

xCallMeSirx -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/15/2011 3:04:29 PM)
Try to act like your the one in control when the police are around and let me know how that works out for you.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/15/2011 3:05:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: xCallMeSirx I'm not sure anyone can be 100% Dom, being 100% Dom would likely land you in prison. Good chance prison will bring out a percentage of sumission or you will end up dead. So I doubt anyone can live very long as 100% Dom [;)] I am Dominant most of the time but in a quiet, confident, leading by example kind of way. Huh? Being Dominant means being in control. Not against the law by any means. Maybe he's confusing being Dominant with being an asshole. There are assholes who happen to be Dom/mes, but NOT all Dom/mes are assholes. ANYONE can be an asshole..... haha ~Hisprettybaby~

DesFIP -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/15/2011 5:17:27 PM)
If you have control of yourself then you won't get into situations involving the police. The Man is dominant which doesn't mean he goes around bullying people who don't consent to submit to him. Because bullying people comes from insecurity and insecurity doesn't feel like dominance to me.

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