Proprietrix
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ORIGINAL: iliv2servher quote:
ORIGINAL: Proprietrix Name me any reason to push a limit, and I will rebut it with a comment about adulthood and maturity of two people engaging in consensual acts. With all due respect to your point of view, what would happen if we simply stuck to our old limits and didn't, for whatever reason, go forward and expand upon those limits? Wouldn't the fantasies that we longed to play out and the fetishes that we once liked eventually get old and boring? Granted, hard limits when there are health and safety issues is a good thing, but the thought of being satisfied with the old status quo is hardly an exciting prospect. I have always viewed S&M as a new horizon to explore...and something with endless possibilities. It is easy to see that what we learn here is something that we can use in our everyday lives. What good is life without being able to explore new thoughts and ideas? What good is life without mental, emotional, spiritual and intellictual growth? The only way we will ever survive as a species is through experimentation. Science is all about taking the hypothetical and asking the eternal question, "What if...?" We are only limited by the scope of our imagination. I have no problem with people expanding their horizons. In fact, I very much encourage people to do so. I just don't feel it is my place as a Dominant to expand those horizons for someone else. If my sub/slave has a limit against something, that limit is there for a reason and I respect that. It's not my place to try to manipulate them out of that limit or push them into something they may or may not be ready for. If and when s/he decides they want to give it a try, I'm usually more than happy to help him/her down that path of experimentation into the unknown. But it is his or her choice to go there. Not mine. It is his or her choice to take that activity off the limit list and place it in the experimentation list. I don't think that just because I am a Dominant, I have the right to push limits. Limits are limits. That's the one place I have no authority over my submissives. Their limits are their field, their turf. I allow my subs and slaves to have limits. It would be contradictory for me to say "You can have limits, but I retain the right to push them." They need to feel safe and secure that I will respect their limits. If and when they are ready to move their limits from that realm of safety into my hands, *then* I can act upon them. And *then* we, as two consensual adults, will discuss the intricacies and consequences of doing so. My point isn't that limits should be static. It's that limits should stay in the submissive's control, not mine. My submissives are adults, capable of making decisions about if/when/how they want to keep or eliminate their own limits.
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IMO, IMHO, YMMV, AFAIK, to me, I see it as, from my perspective, it's been my experience, I only speak for myself, (and all other disclaimers here).
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