candystripper
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Firstly, let me say that if You are as You describe in the Op,You have been Dominant all Your life since imho Dominance is a character/personality trait and not a matter of flogging or any other "deviant" art. Therefore, You are a "newbie" only in the sense that You have somehow, recently, been blessed with the ephiphany that BDSM exists, that there are submissive women who need/want/desire to be dominated, and that a world of things -- mostly fun i hope You come to find -- are going on that You can indulge in. i myself had the ephiphany that i was a submissive about two years ago and my heart literally lept for joy. You are also (apparently) new to using the 'net to seek a submissive woman to collar or as a play partner or whatever it is You seek. There are so many tales of sorrow, betrayal, puzzlement, etc that Doms and Masters here on collarme longer than You could tell, so be slow and careful. There are some fruits and nuts here, as well as real BDSM'ers. i don't agree -- or disagree -- with the advice You received from other posters as to attendance at munches, play parties or dungeons.....but S/some feel this is not what/how T/they wish to seek, and *i* encourage You to make that decision Yourself rather than listen to the "it's the only way" chorus. There is no "only" way; there are many ways. How You choose to search is as personal a matter as You are likely to decide anytime soon. You need to further define Yourself: are You a sadist? A Daddy Dom? A Poly Dom? etc. Only reading, reflection, and the insight of O/others, however You come to meet T/them, will aid You in reaching a conclusion. Some P/pl treat "Master" as an elevated status above mere "Dominants", primarially based upon the length of time They (claim) to have been "in the lifestyle". To me the words convey something different; a "Master" GENERALLY is a Man who seeks a slave, while a Dominant seeks a submissive. However, in r/l P/pl's relationships are unique, private and ever-evolving. You already knew that about P/pl; remember the old saying "No one knows what goes on behind closed doors"? i was blessed with a Mentor during my first 18 months or so here; but it is true in a way that submisssive women need greater protection than do Dominant Men from the perils of searching. i found Him here, and He was available to me daily, for a considerable length of time. Availability, as with any Mentor/protege relationship, is one factor in whether or not the protege actually benefits. Few P/pl could have given the amount of time and consideration that my Mentor gave to me. i guess i'd suggest making friends, with P/pl You like. Compliment S/someone on T/their post here on the boards; take a friendly soul to a Private Window in chat. Put the P/pl You really like on Your Yahoo IM friends' list and chat with T/them r/t as time permits. Call T/them; meet T/them if possible. Hang out, relax, and shoot the breeze; most of U/us pervs talk about BDSM whenever possible. i do agree that any type of BDSM play requires a level of expertise, but E/everyone had a first time. You already know how to pull hair, spank, and tie a woman up in some simple fashion. The rest of the types of play You will need to research and possibly attend seminars on, for if not done properly, the submissive can be injured. Welcome to perv land; have a seat in Your Dom-o-Lounger and btw here's that 40 year old single malt scotch You ordered. candystripper
< Message edited by candystripper -- 5/25/2006 11:32:25 PM >
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