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imtempting -> Dom space? What is it? (5/26/2006 9:02:30 PM)

Hello everyone

I got this from the another thread and was curious about it..

It was brought up by OhBeMyMind.  I'm sure there could be other threads on this but since I used to come to the boards nearly everyday at one point I don't recall seeing something on this..

So to the doms...

Do you get something like subspace?

Is there such a thing as dom space and if so what is it?

Oh yea... A biiiiiiiiiig hello to mod one and mod three.  Oh the fun the three of us used to have.
Now that im a little active again perhaps we can have those fun times back :P

I expect a reply mod one and three :P

Well see you all around later.  BTW Marilyn Manson ftw :| Can't beleive I said that :|




Reflectivesoul -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/26/2006 9:27:51 PM)

About the closest I have ever been to experiencing something along the lines of subspace is within primal play. Theres just something about the total physical back and forth of strength durring the play, up untill the moment that you either win or lose and have no fight left, the sweet surrender of not only mental but physical sense. Being lost completely in another person, your focus so intune with them that your breathing paterns become one, their arousal becomes yours, the union driving both beyond all plains of reality into a space where it ceases to be two seperates and becomes one unit, riding the waves untill you crash into oblivion ... coming down from there and being able to find a focus and a grip again, and realizing your grip is the one that you took or who took you up and through the beyond is amazing.



DragonDiver -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/26/2006 11:35:29 PM)

Another form of Dom space is when the Dom is administering and their focus becomes very sharp their perceptions narrow to the point of just where the tail or tails strike. the focus is within that small area and they start to ride the breaths of the receiver, in a shadow play of harmonics. Sometimes but not always to the exclusion of all else around them.
M. Dennis



Calandra -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 1:40:39 AM)

I've experienced a couple of different headspaces that I would consider Domspace. For me, when I'm working a sub the room recedes into nothingness. I am focused on the thrumming beat of the music, the rhythm of the flogger, or the shine on the edge of the knife blade, and then I'll see a certain look in my slave's eye and a soft groan when his/her surrender is complete... WOW! I feel like the top of my head could blow off and I wouldn't notice. I become acutely aware of him/her and I start seeing auras and shadow trails.
 
When I'm going to do an edgy scene with one of Mine, I usually have someone there who knows what aftercare cubby and I both need, because I simply cannot do anything but hold him until the emotion, adrenalin, endorphins and anything else that has me lets go... Sheesh, I got tears in my eyes from typing this just from remembering...
 
I am so deeply honored and blessed when I remember some of the awesome trust and faith people have offered up willingly to me over the years... There is one hole left in my heart, yet to fill... that special wonderful, beautiful (inside beauty), yielding, trusting woman who will know that I and cubby would envelop her in a love like she never imagined before... now cubby and the one girl who is destined for me? Yeah, thats Domspace



Kedikat -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 1:57:19 AM)

I have had Dom space.
When I love her, and I know she loves me.
What we do is beyond BDSM " lifestyle". It is pure passion. Love.
In the bedroom ( and where ever )
And in every part of our so called vanilla life too.
It is 24/7 Dom, sub space.
I miss it. I seek it again.
The one for the One is Dom space. And sub space.




ExistentialSteel -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 2:57:20 AM)

Calandra, that is an excellent description. It is no wonder it gave you tears typing it. It is good writing.

My experiences are similar to yours with the exceptions of the auras and shadow trails. I don't see those or lose touch in any way with reality. I am high, but not in a subspace like state. It is very intense putting a sub through something and I, too, need the quiet time afterwards. When I hold and caress the sub as she recovers, it is as much for me as for her.



Calandra -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 3:05:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ExistentialSteel

Calandra, that is an excellent description. It is no wonder it gave you tears typing it. It is good writing.

My experiences are similar to yours with the exceptions of the auras and shadow trails. I don't see those or lose touch in any way with reality. I am high, but not in a subspace like state. It is very intense putting a sub through something and I, too, need the quiet time afterwards. When I hold and caress the sub as she recovers, it is as much for me as for her.


My distress is when I need gatorade for him or myself and I cannot go get it, or when he or I take a chill... I NEED a third person closeby who knows to speak quietly and automatically provide certain types of care regardless of whether we "ask" for it.
 
Since we're on the subject... what types of aftercare do you guys need? Am I alone in this?
 
Thank you for the compliment, by the way...



Kedikat -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 3:13:29 AM)

I guess I take a much broader concept of it. The long periods between any kind of relationship at all, makes Me think of it in a different maybe broader scale of it.
Semantics versus all the various realities of it.
A couple later posts seem to define it more specifcally in time and space than I might.
Interesting.



ScooterTrash -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 3:24:58 AM)

Certainly Dom Space exists. As a couple of the other posters have elated to, it's a keen sense of focus, where the rest of the room tends to fade away and you are "one" with what you are concentrating on at the time. Your senses seem to go into overdrive, smells and sounds are intense..nothing is going to break your concentration except the response of your partner. For those who are adrenaline junkies, it's a similar feeling...you have one goal and nothing is going to deter you from it. It doesn't happen every time, but when it does, you damned sure know it. As for aftercare? I think that is going to depend on the individuals involved...myself, I feel the sub/slave is the one who needs the immediate contact and care, perhaps it's even part of the Dom-space, an obligation & part of the focus, I'll deal with any "coming down" for myself, later.



Calandra -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 3:34:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash
nothing is going to break your concentration except the response of your partner. 

 
Exactly! it's that focus on him that really launches me...
 
quote:

As for aftercare? I think that is going to depend on the individuals involved...myself, I feel the sub/slave is the one who needs the immediate contact and care, perhaps it's even part of the Dom-space, an obligation & part of the focus, I'll deal with any "coming down" for myself, later.


With cubby I need full contact... cradling him, arms around him, hand on his chest feeling heartbeat, listening to his breathing, watching his eyes... the focus you mentioned above is still intact even though the scene is officially over... and the sluggishness to handle details like hydration and warmth evades me... I am also disabled as a result of an auto accident 2 1/2 years ago and sometimes require massage due to leg cramps and other such measures FOR ME...  I sometimes feel that I'm failing him because I need someone there during those intense scenes to handle those mundane details... does anyone feel this in the way I describe it?



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 5:01:29 AM)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_378414/mpage_1/key_domspace/tm.htm#378441
subspace for doms?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_199603/mpage_1/key_topspace/tm.htm#199646
A state of?

Reposted:
Pretty much anything that's been said about subspace, applies to domspace or top space.

So, there's no real universal experience, there's many different types, people go into it for various reasons and through various ways and have various levels of conscious control when it occurs.

I've been with tops who became hyper focused and sensitive and been with doms who might as well have been on acid.



Tamerofwild1s -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 5:21:27 AM)

I have to admit that during some good sessions the power exchange and adrenaline rush can give of a feeling of "space" for the Master too ... your so focused on what happens you can almost here the slaves breathing patterns echoing in your ears. everything seems to get amped up .... never knew it was actually called "Domspace" lol



LaTigresse -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 5:55:27 AM)

I make sure that I have cool water and a large soft cuddly blanket or comforter nearby. I share so much energy when playing that all I can manage is to wrap us both up together and snuggle until we can crawl into a warm tub then off to bed



candystripper -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 8:05:12 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kedikat

I have had Dom space.
When I love her, and I know she loves me.
What we do is beyond BDSM " lifestyle". It is pure passion. Love.
In the bedroom ( and where ever )
And in every part of our so called vanilla life too.
It is 24/7 Dom, sub space.
I miss it. I seek it again.
The one for the One is Dom space. And sub space.




i am confused.  i thought Dominance was a personality trait/character trait and not something One "picked up and put down".  i know i have met Dominant Men in my vanilla life whom i'd bet $5 had never heard of BDSM.  For example, i cannot imagine a Dom or Master behaving submissively at work.  Can S/someone please explain?
 
candystripper



candystripper -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 8:12:06 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ExistentialSteel

Calandra, that is an excellent description. It is no wonder it gave you tears typing it. It is good writing.

My experiences are similar to yours with the exceptions of the auras and shadow trails. I don't see those or lose touch in any way with reality. I am high, but not in a subspace like state. It is very intense putting a sub through something and I, too, need the quiet time afterwards. When I hold and caress the sub as she recovers, it is as much for me as for her.


Perhaps ExSteel will forgive me <i have CRS> and i can add Him on the "Matchmaking Game" as onna the Men i think i'd match with.....ME!
 
candystripper



artglfr -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/27/2006 10:24:32 AM)

Oh yeah...Music and the flogger drumming in time. Knife blade cold on her back as she aches with the tension and release going into sub space. Allowing her to soar, caresses, sensations, some pain enough to keep endomorphins happy and her flying. Locked into the one purpose We are both seeking, fulfillment then aftercare.

I always make certain there will be enough water and snacks handy that we can slowly glide back to earth as We nibble and laugh and sip. True happiness, hugs of reentry.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/29/2006 8:08:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper
For example, i cannot imagine a Dom or Master behaving submissively at work.  Can S/someone please explain?

candystripper


You're a pleasure slave in the bedroom.

Would you be a pleasure slave in a business meeting to your colleagues?

There you go.

Being "dominant" isn't the same as "being A dominant in AN intimate relationship with someone else."

First off, there's no such universal thing as "acting submissively."  There are stereotypical ideas on what acting submissive means- but those are just stereotypes.  Secondly, many of the great dominants in Ds relationships have submissive positions at work- they answer to bosses, they follow commands, they submit to anothers authority as part of the job they do.



sublizzie -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/29/2006 8:19:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Secondly, many of the great dominants in Ds relationships have submissive positions at work- they answer to bosses, they follow commands, they submit to anothers authority as part of the job they do.


This is true. But there are dominants who exude an aura/energy no matter where they are that call to the submissive in me. Whether that is at work or at a munch. It is a part of who they are. They may not act "domly" but they are still dominant by their nature.



Chaingang -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/29/2006 9:28:38 AM)

http://www.prrcat.com/wiiwd.htm

Random opinions on wierdness...



LadyHugs -> RE: Dom space? What is it? (5/29/2006 9:54:04 AM)

Dear imtempting, Ladies and Gentlemen;

There are two "Dominant spaces" for me.  The first, which is not which you are addressing however, is known to some as "The Dominant's Space," which is the area from fingertips and extended arms in a 180 degree circle.  Much as "Personal space is described," to which slaves ask to enter and approach closer, rooted in history as a safe zone in regard to prisoner/slave control.

That said, the other Dominant space, or also known as Top space is much like subspace to slaves.  The light and airy feeling, as well as the world around me disappears and focus on the slave/slaves I'm working on is the only thing my sense of sight, sense of touch, sense of smell and sense of hearing amplify on, at times hearing their heart beat and breathing.  My sense of awareness also changes.  In such a space, I am more directed towards the subspace the slave(s) are trying to achieve.  So once the scene is over, they come down and out of the cold and heat in several measures of re-entry to being back down and functional from their own mental, emotional, spiritual and physical trip; then I can start having my drop from the space where I came from.  Sometimes I have a delayed drop, while away in some quiet place, such as my "domme mobile" on the way home and or once home.

I have never had the same exact "trip" into "Top/Dom" space.  I also will add, that unless a slave is aware we have something similar, after submissive/slaves have had their subspace, come back down from it, most times the dominant is left to drop out on their own.  That is the sad part about it all, especially for those who find themselves a "Service Top," to whom the submissive/slave they worked on get their giggles and grins and run off.  Sometimes such dominants find other dominants, who will attend to them, as the drop out of Dom/Top space, getting water, jacket and go through the same chills and heat as do the submissive/slave coming out of their space.

When I am in an Educational mode, I do not have "Dom/Top space." 

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



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