> How many switches here are into adversarial forms of play?
Me, me, me! The passion is in the struggle for me. I love chaos, I love pinning my partner down. I love when we both knock one another out at the same time. I love that smirk of I got you good turning into that oh shit moment what is he going to do now. I love the places you end up, I love that I can be beaten and beat the shit out of someone I love so much. I love mutual masochism drop days. I like trying to figure out how I got bruise X, and why my temple hurts.
> Wrestling, fighting, etc?
Wrestling to me is boring. Our normal day to day routine is all hands, feet, knees and teeth. We love creating creative scenes and things to fight with. Wiffle ball bats, switches with switches, we've gotten good enough with our knives that we can have knife fights, we make foils out of carbon fiber rods, fight with electrified tennis rackets, we fight with duct tape. The closest we get to wrestling is with steel toed boots on, and whatever we have on us is a potential weapon (for either of us).
We share sensual play, we tease each other with knives, we do blood play together at the same time, I give him fire massages, we tend to be nice to each other when playing with wax.
> How many of you have entire relationship dynamics that revolve around this premise?
Almost 3 years. Our premise is that our meanness should come out of love, we never physically hurt or insult one another out of anger. Like we are mutually S&M, and D&S, we view major life decisions this way as well, it is a discussion where we share power. Though our insults, playfulness, and just being plain mean is continuous.
I had a D/s relationship, and a Switch/Switch relationship when I was very young and I thought this kind of thing was fairly typical. I was kind of blown away when I came into the community and most people thought I was nuts or just dreaming when I talked about wanting this kind of dynamic. Thankfully the right one came along a few months later.
Oh my darling, give me reason
give me something to believe in
You need a spankin' baby!