Sirandlittle1
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The ability to walk away, does not pertain to what i would consider the control elements within my relationship. Im perhaps a little back to front in the submissive stakes. I am, financially independant. I am assertive. I am a achiever. I am a manager. I am in control of my life when apart from my Sir. Either in spite of, or because of my dominant personality traits, i need to submit. So i 'give' control to a very loved and trusted other. Either in play, enjoyable, but not enough for me, or in life, where his say is final. Without this control and power i give him freely, id walk all over him, dominate him, basically, make a submissive of him. Then get bored, separate and have to start seeking all over again. I simply cannot control the power i have within. So i rely on another to do so for me. Both of us have power. Mine is the power of submitting control to him. His the reverse. When the power exchanges back and forth, its haven. If my Dom is not incharge, then im not being dominated am I. And whats the use of that? Sure, i could walk, but first, id like to look at what is going wrong. Why am i not submitting my power to him. I do that with communication and discussion on a very honest level. D/s or any other power exchange relationship over a long period, will have high's and lows. Constantly evaluating the relationship together, and ensuring it is on the track you both chose, well, you both have the power to do that. And the responsibility. In a bad week, i will revert to type. ie. take over. This upsets the power exchange dramatically, and things go haywire for us. I have to therefor control myself, and allow myself to be controlled to shift the exchange back onto its correct axis. Power to leave? we all have that, but that;s irrelevant for most of us, most of the time. Over time, any relationship will get a little lost. Its the couple's ability to not lose sight of who they are to each other, and all that that entails, what they are trying to achieve, the ability to communicate that makes it a winner. I do have power, power to sabotage our relationship by not holding up my end of the bargain. And walk when it goes wrong. I dont find the thought empowering to me. little1
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