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RE: I need an answer. - 5/29/2006 1:48:03 AM

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Why? Because she likes it and has some need for it. If it's not something you can provide, she's not a compatible slave or submissive. Why do people always miss the importance of compatibility aspects in a D/s or M/s relationship? If you don't want someone that has a need for humiiliation and degredation, caging, doggie play, toilet sports, etc etc should be discussed early on.

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RE: I need an answer. - 5/29/2006 8:56:02 AM

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Does a dog have rights? Beyond the owner's responsibility to provide basic food and shelter there is no obligation; love an affection are at the whim of the owner. A dog can "get into trouble", needs constant feedback/training reinforcement, the thought process of a dog is basic; "how can I please My Master/Mistress?" The dog can enthusiastically bring a favorite toy, put their head under Master's hand to solicit petting, sit at Master's feet waiting for a order to fetch something; all at the whim of Master. Taken to the extreme, a human 'puppy' may not be able to communicate other than in the manner of a dog, and any 'requests' are just as basic; food, water, come in/go out.

Some/all of these activities may be interjected in "normal" BDSM play, but the full time or scene doggy role play, is a great tool to "let go". People constantly took for examples of how to maintain a M/s dynamic 24/7. Look to the example of puppy play as one guide. It also is a way for someone new to understand the responsibility of taking on either side of the flogger for an extended period of time. An experienced Master can use it to "shock" a submissive into the extent of his expectations, a experienced submissive can offer a first time dominant as a practical example of the extent of possible submission. How extreme you get is determined by both partners. Very basic 'puppy play' is a collar. Unless its just a fashion statement, a collar is the first, and basic a facet of puppy play, or 'pet' play.

Psychologically, puppy play also serves as a liberating emotional tool. Many people are still bothered by guilt concerning BDSM activities from either perspective. 'Playing' the role of a dog, or owning a 'dog'; dehumanizes the activity. You may never feel comfortable spanking a human, but you may have no problem disciplining a pet. You would NEVER parade naked out of doors, and would rather wet your pants rather than go to the bathroom outside; a puppy doesn't have any qualms about either activity - it's 'natural'.

Each person's reason's are unique and serve the relationship as determined by the members of it.

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RE: I need an answer. - 5/29/2006 2:32:29 PM

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Merc n beth,
Thank You VERY much! wow. See? All I needed was someone to put it into words I can understand. I am not a stupid Woman by any means but if I don't understand something I get frustrated. You are awesome. Thank you again for the explination. Now I am excited to try it.

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RE: I need an answer. - 5/30/2006 7:19:13 AM

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The reality is that all consensual slaves DO demand to be treated in a certain way.

They might not say it directly or think of it like that- but we all choose the relationship we get into and we REFUSE the relationships that will not serve who we are.

There's really not much difference between saying "As your slave, I refuse to be treated as an actual person in your house" and saying "As your slave, I refuse to be bred by other men and have many babies by them."

We all make our limits. What matters is finding someone else who is happy with them.

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RE: I need an answer. - 5/31/2006 10:15:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

a happy slave is a slave more willing to serve...

I really like this quote...

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RE: I need an answer. - 5/31/2006 3:30:00 PM

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well to your first question i cnnot answer it is not a fetish of mine. To your second question a sub can say to the Dom/Domme that they like that acativity but it is alway up to Thr Dom if they decided to do it or not.

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