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Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/29/2006 12:52:19 PM

outofhabit

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I've heard of people switching in the middle of a scene...I have to say I have trouble imagining how that would work...care to share your experiences in those types of scenes?

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/29/2006 1:58:34 PM

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I've done it with my sub. When I rarely switch, I play in a babygirl/Daddy dynamic. When he is in
Daddy mode he is the Top without question, however being a babygirl gives a certain mischevious brattiness to a sub

and therefore the unexpected can and does happen.

We were playing, he had me tied up with leather restraints tied to a rope to the headboard and my legs were just spread. I was going to be flogged for wearing panties, when panties is a *no*. He turned to get his flogger when I slipped my wrists out of the restraints, they werent on as tight as they could have been. He flogged me and then came up to lean into my face to ask me if I was going to be good. When he leaned down two of my fingers went up his nostrils and curled

. I said to him, Now who is going to be good Daddy? It took a second for him to realise that his baby had removed her restraints, oh how naughty.
I had him where I wanted him and I slowly got off the bed, maintaining my hold and I forced him onto the bed, lifted his shirt and once I had a hold of the flogger, let go of his noseholes and flogged him but good telling him what a bad Daddy he was for not putting the restraints on tighter. lol

It was all fun and he ended up getting tied and spanked with a cane for his mistake, which he loved

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/30/2006 7:38:28 AM

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It happens with us rarely, but occasionally.

We just laugh about it and go with the energy. We're together to BE together, there's always time the next day to do another scene.

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/30/2006 8:07:16 AM

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Wow, I find that sooooo interesting. Having discovered the words for my submissiveness about three years ago; I revel in the lifestyle. Still, lately I’ve discovered I’m a pretty good Top and sadistic as hell. True, it’s very obvious I’m no Dominant, but I can’t imagine switching with the person to whom I submit.

HOW does that work? I just can’t fathom beating someone I consider Dominant and surely not switching with someone mid-scene! Of course this is just me...and I am, in no way, suggesting it's wrong or judging those who manage it; but HOW can ya manage it?

I'd like to hear experiences, too.......and what's going on in your heads when it happens.

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/30/2006 8:21:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee

Wow, I find that sooooo interesting. Having discovered the words for my submissiveness about three years ago; I revel in the lifestyle. Still, lately I’ve discovered I’m a pretty good Top and sadistic as hell. True, it’s very obvious I’m no Dominant, but I can’t imagine switching with the person to whom I submit.

HOW does that work? I just can’t fathom beating someone I consider Dominant and surely not switching with someone mid-scene! Of course this is just me...and I am, in no way, suggesting it's wrong or judging those who manage it; but HOW can ya manage it?

I'd like to hear experiences, too.......and what's going on in your heads when it happens.

I don't know if this was addressed to LA or to anyone who wanted to answer. I'll go with anyone who wanted to answer lol

In our particular relationship the D/s is the smaller part and in our sessions the bigger part is the phyiscal sensations or sex. When I'm playing bottom I do consider him Dominant because he is and I respect that, however that doesn't stop my inner mischevious child from coming out to play. If I get the opportunity to be mischevious oh yes Im gonna that's just how I am as a person, thats my personality.
What was going on in my head during the session I posted earlier? Well I looked down at those loose restraints and thought..Daddy should have put these on tighter cuz, they will slip right off. So me being a bratty babygirl, I slipped them off and was determined that HE should learn a lesson from it. Because he was whipping my ass and turn about is fair play, so he did learn from it. No more loose restraints for me lol. Also I don't go into subspace unfortnately and I think thats a big part of my Dominant personality. I don't like giving up control and so far can't. Maybe one day.
Now when he subs, he is submissive in every sense of the word. He might backtalk abit, but only because he really loves having his face slapped.

But other then that he trusts me to do anything to him and his personality is such that he doesn't switch midscene like I do when bottoming. He gets into subspace and he's way out there, no thoughts of any mischeif. So he's putty in my hands.
We have fun, I know our way is different from alot of people and what works for one couple won't work for another. But as long as your having fun, why not?

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/30/2006 8:36:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee
HOW does that work? I just can’t fathom beating someone I consider Dominant and surely not switching with someone mid-scene! Of course this is just me...and I am, in no way, suggesting it's wrong or judging those who manage it; but HOW can ya manage it?

I dunno.

How do you manage to be submissive with only one person and no one else?

It's kinda the same thing. You create a VERY particular energy connection with one person.

It just so happens that my particular energy connection with this person is made up of many different flowing paths.

Nothings going on in my head at all- it's just the energy that's there. We've had times where we planned full WEEKENDS of play with him focused as the dominant, and then we open the door and-----I'm the dom. I have no idea why it happens when it does, it's just there. We've learned to laugh and go with it.

We're together to be together. We both happen to be switches and we both happen to have formed the connection together to switch together.

There are plenty of great doms out there who you would never submit to- not because you aren't a sub or they aren't a dom, just because the connection isn't there.

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/30/2006 8:43:57 AM

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Thank you both! Hey...my mantra is; if it's not fun, why bother! LOL

edited to add:

THAT comment in no way implies I'll play with anybody, anytime, anywhere...btw

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/30/2006 10:54:00 AM

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It sounds like LOTS of fun to me. I think roleplay scenes would lend themselves to this kind of switching, particularly in coercion, or forced scenes when the bottom might end up in the top spot and want some payback. It would take the right headspace, sort of a playful fighting back attitude, rather than docile submissiveness.

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/30/2006 1:46:43 PM

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I love to switch and have done it with partners who enjoy spanking and other light BDSM play on a fun basis. That presents no problem. It is almost like exchanging backrubs. Sometimes it takes the form of payback!

I have been in some heavier scenes where subspace is definitely there. If I am the bottom at that point, I want to give my Domme a similar experience. Have even done it during role play where the sub becomes a brat and attempts to take over. I let her....to a point, then she finds herself face down again!

D/s is a dance where one partner leads. I am comfortable with letting my partner lead too.

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 5/30/2006 4:05:23 PM

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I believe Switches have more fun.I have switched mid-scene before but LA said, the chemistry has to be there. I tend more to play with other switches simply because we understand each other better. Would I submit to the right Dom or Domme that comes along? The answer is yes, if they are trying to teach me something. But would I also Top a sub if she came along? Again Yes.

Switches are a bit different than just a Top or a Bottom. We can see things from both sides. Many switches are extremely intelligent, extremely reserved and very very thoughtful. And in many cases the rest of the group has a hard time figuring us out. Usually you hear the questions............Did they just switch? In mid-scene? How did they do that? When did it happen? I didn't know that person switched.

It is to laugh...............

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 6/1/2006 6:53:29 AM

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It is going to depend on the dynamics of an individual relationship. If your scene is based on formal D/s then pulling a mid-scene switch probably isn't going to work very well.

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 6/1/2006 12:25:08 PM

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Only "switched" the one time. First bdsm experience was in college with a girl wo wanted to tie me up. It just wasn't me, and I had to break out.

Turns out that was an exciting thing for both of us. We each gravitated to what was most natural for us out of a naive desire to be "kinky", and discovered our mutual passion.

The rest is of course, History...

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RE: Switching in the Middle of a Scene - 6/1/2006 1:13:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee

Wow, I find that sooooo interesting. Having discovered the words for my submissiveness about three years ago; I revel in the lifestyle. Still, lately I’ve discovered I’m a pretty good Top and sadistic as hell. True, it’s very obvious I’m no Dominant, but I can’t imagine switching with the person to whom I submit.

HOW does that work? I just can’t fathom beating someone I consider Dominant and surely not switching with someone mid-scene! Of course this is just me...and I am, in no way, suggesting it's wrong or judging those who manage it; but HOW can ya manage it?

I'd like to hear experiences, too.......and what's going on in your heads when it happens.

Bearlee,
It is soooooo interesting. It's amazing. A total rush.
How do I do it? I don't give it a second thought and just go with it. Kind of like being on autopilot. There's no rhyme or reason to it for me; it's just whatever I need at any given moment, and yes, I can switch mid scene.

I can be Daddy's sweet lil girl, and then go into a cbt scene or take the strap on to him, or I can flog a sub and than hand over the flogger or a hairbrush to him, and say, I'm feeling naughty now bust my ass.
For me it's just that easy. I get the best of both worlds and love it. I am a very giving person, and this is how it likes to manifest itself. I'm a sensation junkie, yet I also love giving back. I love the serious mind f--k it creates; to have control over a person, and than be able to totally trust them to take you on a journey of exquite pain and pleasure..I can't say enough about switching.

I don't do this just for the sensation, if I did I wouldn't care about a LTR, and this is exactly what I want, to be able to share a lifetime of TPE with my significant other.

Hope I've made some sense with this, I just get so excited when I think about switching. It's just who I am. I can't imagine being stuck in one role the rest of my life. I crave the variety.

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