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Killerangel -> RE: Am I doing anything wrong? (12/26/2011 7:03:23 AM)
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ORIGINAL: straponcr
I have been on here for some time, on and off, and have met a few very nice and gorgeous Dommes but have yet to have a in person session with out paying for it (which I don't mind at all) but would be nice to experience a Lifestyle Domme's as well. Any suggestions on approach or best way to meet one. Thank you..
OP, I saw the profile before you turned it off, just didn't have time to respond then. Since this is a constant topic on these boards I don't think it'll be a waste to repeat yet again what others have said so many times.
The following can be applied to (mostly) men in any kink category since we're talking about the gender divide here, not orientation. Men insist upon going forth and pursuing women like they are men, and then asking why they don't 'get' any women. Wtf? It's such a constant topic. I think that someday the men will get tired of the constant frustration they feel at not accomplishing their goal, but they don't seem to as they're on here continually wondering why they can't find what they are looking for. Women are never going to respond to a shout-out for any women who fits certain criteria to please come and get naked. Women want to be wanted for themselves. Period. That takes time and energy and if men aren't willing to put in some of that then they don't get lucky. It's simple folks, very simple.
-The sexually or kinky usernames are a turn off and will pretty much guarantee that a woman won't open your mail.
-A woman can find sex/kink pretty much anywhere, it's not something special to offer her something she can get at the drop of a hat.
-A woman isn't motivated like a man is by sex/kink. She is more motivated by relationships be they casual or long term. In other words, she has to like the person she is getting naked with and want to spend time with them outside of nude activities.
-Sexually explicit or nude pics are a turnoff. If she wants to see your goodies at some point she'll ask. If she wants to look at naked pics there's free porn. Knock it off with the picture book mentality of 'this is what I like to do'....duh. We get it. [8|] Oh....and no pics of the ex, that's disgusting. If we don't want to see your nude self ,we certainly don't want to see her.
-Who are you going after? The young hotties have first pick and will get to pick from the top of the food chain. Someone in another state may not be interested. Choose your audience more wisely and you may get some responses.
-You know what? Lifestyle Dommes are hard to find, just because you put a shout-out for one doesn't mean a freaking thing.
-Listing all kink and sex in your profile is a major turnoff for most women, I won't answer emails from men like that because to me, that's the entire ball of wax from their point of view. Getting naked and doing stuff naked. Ho hum. As I pointed out I can get that anywhere, why pick you?
There's more, I just lost the desire I had to put things down at this point. OP, you aren't finding any lifestyle Dommes to experience for casual sessions because they aren't interested in what you are offering. Instead of thinking you are ordering off of a menu, treat these women like women. It's not rocket science, approach them as individual women.
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